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  1. metrognome

    metrognome is getting better at it

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    good morning everyone,
    someone payed me a compliment yesterday, and it only now that i can accept it for what i was (if you know what i mean) instead of trying to find a reason for why he said it or what he was after, trying to find a negative for it :sigh:

    does anyone else do this or am i the only one as you can maybe tell im not used to this compliment lark :)
     
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  3. lentil2

    lentil2 Gold Member

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    I can never take a compliment.
    Like, if someone says 'your hair looks nice' I always reply with a negative like 'oh god, its awful, it needs cutting' (even if it doesn't). I am one of those people that wouldn't step outside if my hair wasn't how I wanted it so, if I am happy with it, why can't I accept that someone else may think its nice too?
    Thats just one example.....I am like it with any compliment!
     
  4. charlottegrace1

    charlottegrace1 Gold Member

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    Know what you mean, I think its all down to having a low opinion of myself because of being overweight that when I start to get compliments there is a tendancy to still see myself as how I was and not how I am now. I lost 10 stone in a previous life and had loads of compliments but was never confident enough to accept them for what they were. Regained the weight and the compliments stopped. Think this time I might just try to change my way of thinking and start to like myself a bit more.

    You go with the flow honney and accept the compliments, get used to them and enjoy everyone of them xx
     
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    I have lost 21lbs so far over a 5 week period. I have really been struggling lately and trying to sabotage it. My friend came into work yesterday and she said how different i look. She has been off for 3 weeks!! She got me to stand up in the office and do a little twirl around. I thought she was taking the micky!! I dont think I look that different but I suppose i should just accept the compliment and enjoy the fact at least someone is starting to notice. :) Enjoy it!!
     
  6. miss jelly tot

    miss jelly tot CWP Consultant

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    I agree try and enjoy it if you can.
    I do the same though as a mum at the school gates came up to me (who I don't know) and said 'wow you have lost loads and look good.' My reply was 'thanks....but I still have half a stone to go!' Perhaps it is something to do with confidence too:confused:
     
  7. tara40

    tara40 Loves Norman Reedus

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    hmm, it is hard to take a compliment. If i havent lost weight for a while and someone says "oh you look good have you lost weight" i generally think that they are taking the mickey.
     
  8. princessria

    princessria is a pirate arrrgggghhhh

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    i like the compliments they spur me on someone told me i was disappearing yesterday and that it was very inspirational and i enjoy it but i think i have come to take compliments alot better as i have got older learning to compliment yourself is a massive battle you have to learn that before you can really accept and believe it from someone else i think but thats just my opinion, either way ladies it's good to remember people don't just say things for the sake of it XXXX
     
  9. Rachella

    Rachella Silver Member

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    I find it difficult to react 'normally' to compliments - now I bite my tongue not to respond with a negative and I just say THANK YOU!!!!

    Nicest compliments recently have come from friends of my Dad (!!) and an friend from my old work who I'd not seen in 2 years :D
     
  10. evanesco

    evanesco I'm the tortoise.

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    i'm the opposite lol when people say you look good, have you lost weight, my response is usually yes I do and yes I have lol
     
  11. Donnie46

    Donnie46 Slow but sure....

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    That's wonderful, well done, be proud of your compliments - you deserve them...
     
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