Does anyone ever feel alone on this diet?

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  1. arcticmonkeys

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    Sorry I don't like to put negative things on here when all everyone needs is positive positive positve

    I was just wondering if anyone feels completely on their own?

    I don't have a boyfriend, but one of my motivational things for this diet is to do with a guy admittidely. Things are a little pear shaped at the mo with that though.

    I dunno my mum is doing this diet too although she seems to have slightly given up, my best friend is too doing it which helps but I dunno... I just feel as if I'm really on my own.

    I started a new job and was invited out for drinks etc with them tonight, I really wanted to go but I had my CDC and had to explain that, I'm the youngest out of the bunch and I looked a complete loser telling them the truth and my reason for not going. I want to be slim more than almost anything else in the world, but I want to enjoy myself and I miss going out seeing people and socialising. I feel like a bit of a recluse doing this diet, am I the only one who feels this way?

    Sometimes I just wish I had a boyfriend whome I could stay in with some nights coz I can't go out with all the temptation around, I wind up staying in by myself..

    Sorry I sound like a freak. I just want to be normal and have fun as much as I want to lose weight :( I've had enough of being invited out drinking and having BBQ's etc and turning people down. I saw one of my old guy friends today too and he was saying about meeting for lunch next week... not the type to understand a diet thing how on earth do we go about it all?

    Ok I'll end this essay. Sorry I just wanted to get it out x x
     
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  3. Kath

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    Could you not fit the lunch in with your add a meal week?

    As for being invited out for drinks, there's nothing stopping you going out and drinking water - you don't even have to say you're dieting, could say you're driving maybe? Or on tablets or something or simply that you don't want a drink! I still go out, admittedly gigs aren't quite the same without having a skinfull but I still have a laugh. Sometimes I forget I'm sober when everyone else is drunk :giggle:
     
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    I feel the same way. My life is completely on hold at the minute until I lose this weight. It's friday nite and I'm sitting in again for the 5th week with my Cambridge bar. I went to a suprise party last Saturday afternoon which was going to go on well into the night, and I had to leave after 40 mins coz the food came on the scene. I was standing will my mates with a glass of water!!! I met another friend today for lunch. We went to Morrisons and she had scampi and chips and I had .............. you've guessed it - a bottle of bloody water. How sick am I ??????
     
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    Oh AM you sound so sad. Please don't be. I can see by your ticker you've hardly got any weight to go until you are in healthy bmi range. I think when you get to that you'll feel a lot better, at least i think that is how I'll feel, nobody can accuse me of being fat as it simply wont be true!
    It's just a few more weeks on the diet. Once youre at 25bmi you start the eating plans and so you'll be able to socialize a lot more freely.
    You'll soon be out and about having the time of your life, feeling happy with who you are and the size you are. You'll be turning all the guys heads!!
    Stick at it, you're not alone, there are loads of people on this site who can totally identify with how you're feeling and willing you to do well. I for one!
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    Thanks for the tips Kath thats a great idea. I'm not a driver so the tablets is the perfect excuse. To be honest I think people have given up asking me to go out drinking weekends now, which makes me really upset. I haven't been asked in a while coz I'm forever turning people down :-( I try explaining but people just don't understand and I don't think they even want to understand. My only problem is, I can't go out without drinking as I drink for confidence. I know thats not clever but I always have, and I've ended up in some right messes for it lol but I wasn't as self con with the booze. Sorry I'm not being awkward..things are buzzing round my head!

    Mia, you've just explained to a T my life at the moment also. Sick is the perfect word! As much as I love cambridge for losing me 2st so far, I have missed out on alot and will be missing out on a lot. And like you its yet another Friday night in, then tomorrow I might really go all out there and go to the cinema with a bottle of water with my friend who is doing this diet too, and then back to work.

    Its not easy is it eh :-(

    I'm not a desperate person and maybe my thoughts are wrong in thinking that a boyfriend would make this sooo much easier dammit! lol. Thank god for you good people on minimins or I'd prob be in a right state right now.. x
     
  7. I will do it this time!

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    It's true you have done fantastically well....

    Remember you are choosing this way of life temporarily because it is the stepping stome to the life you really want and deserve...

    Yes you could go out to the pub and clubbing with your mates.... BUT you don't wish to feel fat and frumpy, wishing you could be slim and trendy!

    Yes you could go out for a meal - BUT you don't wish to sit eating calorie laden food which will ultimately make you feel bloated and add to your weight problem.

    Yes you could tuck into scampi and chips, BUT you don't need that sort of comfort food...

    You have taken control and for a short time in the grand scheme of things are putting yourself truly first!!!!

    In no time at all you will be gorgeous and totally at ease with yourself, you will look back at this difficult time and thank goodness you did it.... Probably whilst many of your friends and relatives are still plagued with weight worries and wishing they had the balls to do what you are doing....

    Keep up the good work! Your weight loss is inspiring to me and others... but most importantly to yourself.....

    < Can you tell I've been doing a lot of personal soul searching myself tonight too?>
     
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    Ceri to the rescue! Again! :p Thank you you always say the right things. When I feel crappy I always forget the bigger picture, I forgot about moving up the plan although I just commented somewhere else about still losing 1-2lbs on the 1000 plan (possibly this thread - lost track trying to get carried away..)

    As I think I mentioned before I started a new job it was only day 4 today with Glasto in between (please god no one ever find this site and discover who I am!) They were all talking about their sex lives and boyfriends and previous boyfriends, sexy underwear etc etc.. and I think thats why I'm feeling this way now. I felt similar if not worse last night too after the day ended with a similar conversation. I know its stupid but I can't help it lol.

    Thank you for your lovely words :hug99::):hug99: xx
     
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    Maybe soon the new slimmer you will give you the confidence to go out without needing a drink :) It worked for me!

    I've never been very confident and always used to have a good drink before leaving the house for a night out, just for that dutch courage you know...since losing weight I've realised I don't need it because I feel a lot more confident now I'm slimmer :) My friends never believed I'd be able to do it, I've always been the biggest drinker - it was worth the sacrifice for a few months :)

    It's not an easy diet I know...some days are very very hard...some days just whiz by.
     
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    Totally understand. Was in exactly the same position as you are now when I was your age. When you have hang ups about yourself it is so hard to be outgoing without a drink.
    I used to think that a boyfriend would help. I know it is harder when you have to meet someone new and you are not very confident. But I did, and he's a real dish. I met him when I was 22. I'm 30 now and we've been married 3 years. And, even if I was not the most confident person in the world I used to attract the attention of some gorgeous men ( I nor my friends could never understand it!!) I mean really yummy!!
    Bet you do to, just don't realise it for lack of self-belief!
    Best wishes
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    Lol I can tell IWDITT! Thank you I really appreciate yours and everyone elses kind words and opinions. Everyone on this website is such a great help, specially you guys tonight whilst I'm feeling like this! I don't normally say how I feel etc but I knew if I didn't I'd end up exploding, possibly cheating!

    Are you too feeling the having to stay in thing this week? I guess I was being selfish before, I just assume everyone else is happy with their lives as they are besides diet, I didn't think other people would feel the same way for this kind of thing (can't think of the word for that!)

    Thank the lord we can all come here to vent huh?!!

    You're all right though, it will be worth it in the end. I totally agree with everything I said. Its just getting through the pain in order to gain pleasure eh :) xx
     
  12. I will do it this time!

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    I said to my hubby tonight (fridays are always takeaway nights) it is so difficult because a curry would give instant pleasre (even though it be short lived) but to get the real pleasure (ie goal weight) it's gonna take months,.....

    thats why it is hard...... to concentrate so hard to get to goal some months away, whilst giving up all those foody treats that we often use to get ourselves through difficult situations....

    BUT thats why CD seems so good, as it will break the unhealthy relationship between life and food....

    Good luck for the rest of your dieting week... and just keep posting... it might be driving everyone else mad but it's keeping me sane!
     
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    That's better! I can go to bed now knowing that you've perked up a little!
    Got to go early tonight, am staying up all night tomorrow in a haunted gaol! It's a sponsored event to raise money for the special needs school I teach at. So goodnight and sweet dreams to you all.
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    I must say I can't wait and really hope I get to the "not having to drink" stage. That really would be amazing. I make a tit of myself always anyway without the help of alcohol. Alcohol has a bad name in my family from what its done to certain people, so I'm quite anti-booze in a way, I don't miss the stuff one bit on this diet which I am thankful for, I must say its literally a confidence thing when out when I drink the stuff. I even noticed I smoke a lot for confidence too which is weird :-S

    It is a bit fkjdslkfjds though coz most my friends know me as bubby and confident although they know I get para about things lol. Strange. I guess we all put a brave face on to an extent though!

    I'm glad you're happily married Ceri, and everything you said deffo puts some faith back into my frame of mind.
    I'm not suprised you caught some dishy men ;-) haha, you've certainly got a way with words, and a lovely personality!

    Bring on the yummy men :-D x


    Kath, wasn't it you who said the other day you too went to Glastonbury this year?? I couldn't find the thread again (I'm forever losing them when I don't pop on for over a day lol) Did you enjoy yourself? x

    Thanks all xx
     
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    You too Ceri, that sounds great I have you have a wonderful time. Come back and fill us in on it tomorrow! Thank you for helping me feel better :):hug99: I really appreciate it. Nighty night, happy dreams xx
     
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    Yep twas me, it was my 10th Glasto :)

    I love it, best place in the whole world! Took a few glasto virgins with us this year too, they had the time of their lives and haven't stopped talking about it since :D

    You should try taking yourself out for the night with friends without drinking - get yourself a fab new outfit and get your hair done maybe, then you'll be feeling confident without the drink :)

    Or you could arrange a night out sledging or bowling or go to a gig maybe :)
     
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    You're completely true IWDITT. And you know what else I've noticed? With CD you HAVE to stick to what you're given, there are no bending the rules and its very hard to not notice if you've slipped up. Other diets for example SW, WW, I always tended to add extra cheese to pasta, have 2 pieces of bread rather than one and cheating in a sly way if you like.
    That really is one beauty of CD, its very easy and straightforward. Its just the lack of normality I guess, but I'm not doubting it wont all be worth it in the end, FOR ALL OF US!

    Thank you!

    Good luck to you, and everyone else also xx
     
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    I thought it was you! Yay, I've been wanting to ask you about it. Ah great, 10th Glasto thats amazing! How did you find it this year as appose to other years? I had such a great time although I probably looked quite miserable most of the time without make up and tidy hair and constantly dripping wet haha. I just want to be back there now, and I can't wait to go there for my 2nd time round, then 3rd 4th 5th etc etc etc! Where abouts did you park your tent??

    Cheers m'dear, I think I'm gonna give it a go soon you know. Tis my 21st end of next month and a few people have said to me what am I going to do, I want to really stick to this diet which is a little sad but I just wanna get to target by September 7th (I think the 7th, maybe before). I think I'm going to have to suggest bowling tomorrow, thats not a bad idea at all you know! And again gigs is a great suggestion too as whenever I go to gigs I only ever have 1 drink coz I'm scared I'll need the loo once I've pushed to the front :p

    THANK YOU XX
     
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    You know it was pretty hard going this year, the rain just seemed incessant - ok so it always rains but not constantly. Don't get me wrong it still completely rocked but I have to wonder whether we'll ever return to the glastos of lounging around on the grass all Sunday afternoon, drinking pear cider and waking up all the sleepy souls that need to move out of the sun :D 2005 had some horrific mud but by the Sunday we were practically dry and we even found some grass to lounge about on. Well at least it was dry Wednesday for us to get the tents up :D We always camp in the same place, Rowmead dead in front of the Pyramid. Got a wicked camping spot this year big circle of space for a massive fire and a gazebo yay! :bliss: Where did you camp? Have you bought the Glastonbury Q Review with the aerial photo in? Love seeing my tent on there :D

    Yay, that's it, get some mates to get out to some gigs with you, loads of great new music out there at the moment and tickets are usually pretty cheap for the emerging talent bands. Have you got a Carling Academy where you live? There's one in Birmingham and the gigs there are really cheap :)
     
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    Thats what I've always thought of Glasto of, to be honest I expected rain but I also thought at some point we'd have the odd sunny moments where we could do exactly as you say; lounge around in the sun (with loads of suncream on as I burnt in the rain randomly lol!)

    Crikey you were lucky with your spot to get a gazebo up too! We woke up on the Friday morning to a tent smack bang in front of ours, we didn't mind at all to be honest but we was hoping for a little fire lol. Maybe next year eh?! :) I'm deffo going to attempt for tickets next year, I'll be more prepared as this year I think I took alot of stuff including clothes that weren't really needed. Leggings were the best thing ever though, perfect for socks over them and the wellies on too!!

    I can't remember what it was called where we parked out tent, but it was right next to the Cinema and close to John Peel stage. It was quite quiet there really, lovely because on the Sunday me and Soph were really tired we were going to see The Long Blondes but decided to chill outside the tent whilst it wasn't raining, we could hear everything going on in the background, it was a great feeling minus the feet ache :)

    I can't wait till I can say like you I have been 10 times! Also when I can have a signature saying lots of stones lighter hehe.

    We have a Carling Academy near by, in Bristol. Takes about an hour and a half to get to. Its my favourite place in the world! Guarenteed to get quite up close with a bit of shimmying to the front. I love it!

    Thanks for all your support x x
     
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