I have a couple myself. My husband is half malaysian and I don't know if it's malaysians or simply his family but they can be quite blunt.
His cousin had come to visit the year before our planned honeymoon in Asia. She kindly told me that I should get some shirts in Thailand because her friend who is fat like me got some very cheap even though there's a lot of material. On that same visit she had told my mother-in-law who had just picked them up from the airport that she had put on weight ("Hi! How are you? You've changed. You've put on weight")...Charming!
Worse, my father in law was looking at my baby daughter playing and said to my husband (but I was sitting next to him): "She's getting big, she's going to be fat like her mother"... Actually, on that point I got quite upset but I think each time they just stated it as a fact rather than an insult...Although really, it doesn't make it less mortifying for me!
His cousin had come to visit the year before our planned honeymoon in Asia. She kindly told me that I should get some shirts in Thailand because her friend who is fat like me got some very cheap even though there's a lot of material. On that same visit she had told my mother-in-law who had just picked them up from the airport that she had put on weight ("Hi! How are you? You've changed. You've put on weight")...Charming!
Worse, my father in law was looking at my baby daughter playing and said to my husband (but I was sitting next to him): "She's getting big, she's going to be fat like her mother"... Actually, on that point I got quite upset but I think each time they just stated it as a fact rather than an insult...Although really, it doesn't make it less mortifying for me!
