katty
Silver Member
hello, i couldn't think of anywhere else to air my frustrations so here i am. if i don't write it down i feel like i'm going to burst. i'm hoping someone can relate or reassure that its not just me going mad in the head lol.
i'm married to a soldier and we travel round every 3 years, so over the years i've made some close friends and we kept in touch. we meet up at least 4 times a year for girly weekends or just a night at each others houses. i always make an effort despite being a busy mum to 3 gorgeous kiddies.
so i started slimming world last august and in turn i decided to cut out alcohol 90% of the time, so i drink when i see my mates but i don't go overboard and i plan ahead so not to ruin my hard work of losing weight. i don't go on about slimming world to them as i realise i may come accross as boring or whatever to them, they've told me as much before.
the last time(3 weeks ago) i went on one of these overnighters, i planned my food and bottle of wine. i didn't join in with a kebab at 11pm.....which might i add was fine by me as i didnt want one anyway.....however the seemed quite upset that i wasn't eating one with them. the thing though that really upset me was them pouring booze in my glass when my back was turned and expecting me to drink it cos i 'wasn't drunk enough', the next day cos i was eating fruit one of my closest friends accused me of starving myself cos i wasnt joining them with pancakes.
i was invited out tonight again with them, i refused because i am so tired of trying to please them by joining in with the drinking because if i happily drink diet coke i am considered boring. i politely text to turn them down as my hubby is away soon and despite me being close to them....my family does come first. and i have recieved nothing back from them about it. so in a nutshell, i feel like i am no longer the happy, good to be around person i used to be when i ate crap and got bladdered? i feel let down because i am doing something good for myself and others don't seem to be happy for me?
i'm sorry its long, if you fell asleep at your computer i do apologise lol, i just needed to write it all down.
hope u all have a lovely weekend
i'm married to a soldier and we travel round every 3 years, so over the years i've made some close friends and we kept in touch. we meet up at least 4 times a year for girly weekends or just a night at each others houses. i always make an effort despite being a busy mum to 3 gorgeous kiddies.
so i started slimming world last august and in turn i decided to cut out alcohol 90% of the time, so i drink when i see my mates but i don't go overboard and i plan ahead so not to ruin my hard work of losing weight. i don't go on about slimming world to them as i realise i may come accross as boring or whatever to them, they've told me as much before.
the last time(3 weeks ago) i went on one of these overnighters, i planned my food and bottle of wine. i didn't join in with a kebab at 11pm.....which might i add was fine by me as i didnt want one anyway.....however the seemed quite upset that i wasn't eating one with them. the thing though that really upset me was them pouring booze in my glass when my back was turned and expecting me to drink it cos i 'wasn't drunk enough', the next day cos i was eating fruit one of my closest friends accused me of starving myself cos i wasnt joining them with pancakes.
i was invited out tonight again with them, i refused because i am so tired of trying to please them by joining in with the drinking because if i happily drink diet coke i am considered boring. i politely text to turn them down as my hubby is away soon and despite me being close to them....my family does come first. and i have recieved nothing back from them about it. so in a nutshell, i feel like i am no longer the happy, good to be around person i used to be when i ate crap and got bladdered? i feel let down because i am doing something good for myself and others don't seem to be happy for me?
i'm sorry its long, if you fell asleep at your computer i do apologise lol, i just needed to write it all down.
hope u all have a lovely weekend