Feeling a bit 'meh'....

[helloworld!]

I feel pretty down today for the first time since I started a week ago. I weighed in this morning and lost 7lb so I should be feeling happy, but I'm not.

My and hubby had a row yesterday because he wanted to sit in and eat at Subway and I wanted him to get it to take away. I can cope with him eating in front of me, but I didn't want to sit there like a lemon being the only one not eating. He said he would be supportive but asking me to do that isn't being supportive . Because I wouldn't sit in he didn't get anything at all and made me feel awful, walking back to the car he walked two feet in front of me the whole way.

I felt really upset with him and when I tried to talk to him he said 'you've said what you wanted to say, let's just forget it' - when I hadn't properly explained, in other words, he didn't want to listen. We are talking now but he hasn't apologised and it's got me down, because he hasn't admitted he was in the wrong to do that and I feel totally unsupported. Sometimes i feel like it's always me that has to compromise and be the bigger person.

 

[Eire]

I feel pretty down today for the first time since I started a week ago. I weighed in this morning and lost 7lb so I should be feeling happy, but I'm not.

My and hubby had a row yesterday because he wanted to sit in and eat at Subway and I wanted him to get it to take away. I can cope with him eating in front of me, but I didn't want to sit there like a lemon being the only one not eating. He said he would be supportive but asking me to do that isn't being supportive . Because I wouldn't sit in he didn't get anything at all and made me feel awful, walking back to the car he walked two feet in front of me the whole way.

I felt really upset with him and when I tried to talk to him he said 'you've said what you wanted to say, let's just forget it' - when I hadn't properly explained, in other words, he didn't want to listen. We are talking now but he hasn't apologised and it's got me down, because he hasn't admitted he was in the wrong to do that and I feel totally unsupported. Sometimes i feel like it's always me that has to compromise and be the bigger person.

I know what you mean exactly. The 2nd night of my being on TFR my husband came home from work and wanted me to ring and order his pizza for him! He just couldn't understand the agony of me wanting one too. And when I told him no he got in a huff.

Sometimes they are like kids! I often think if it was him doing this diet I would never hear the end of his moaning!

I also know that during the 2 and a half weeks I have been on this diet I have felt very emotional and upset a lot of the time so my poor husband probably doesn't know what to say to me!!

 

[helloworld!]

Sigh, what is it with them sometimes?? I must admit he has gone to work and I had a bit of a :cry:. I think maybe I am feeling a bit more emotional than normal at the moment too. I guess it is an emotional journey though!

 

[Sparkling_Fairy]

Hmmm, that's a tricky one too.
I do think OH's should be supportive in getting you through this.
But at the same time, they're not on this diet and you can't really expect them to change their lifestyle.

I guess it's all about finding the middle here, and that's hard

 

[Lynn_]

Just because he is your hubby doesnt exclude him from being selfish lol, so thats something you are going to have to accept. He WAS in the wrong, maybe he knows this and doesnt know how to apologise for it. Your diet is going to affect others around you, and other people have to learn how to make allowances for it. But you will no doubt have to make some compromises too, could he have had his subway in the shop and you go for a walk or window shopping for instance?

You need to sit down and talk it through, and make some ground rules for you both. If its clear what you expect from him and what he expects from you, right from the start, then it will be easier to deal with this type of situation.

 

[helloworld!]

I did suggest I wait outside, but he wasn't having any of it. You are right though I do need to set some ground rules, thank you.

 

[cybill]

Next time, you can leave him in Subway to munch his sandwich, while you go and choose a new outfit to fit your new body

 

[helloworld!]

Lol yeah, I have banned myself from buying new clothes at the moment! Otherwise it will seem like I think I am going to fail! x