clairabellx
Full Member
Hi everyone,
I just had a hard conversation with boyf last night. He has been behind me using CD rather than a slower and easier (psychologically, socially) method of weight loss since he told me he liked skinny girls. I wanted to lose the weight for my health but also feared the aftermath (stomach rolls - you may have seen my posts about the state of my overhang as a result of 44 week preg).
Now the aftermath is here - I said to him it (overhang) wouldn't go and I think he hoped that it would. Well, it is worse than plumped up flab because it just hangs and feels horrid, and he told me that it turned him off (I think he meant repulsed). Essentially, I think he wants me to have a tummy tuck, and so do I but I am scared of the things that go wrong. It explains why my confidence crashed through the floor in this relationship, that my girlfriends were just saying was in my head!
I suppose I want to ask the men out there - is flab that bad? Can't you get past the odd physical flaw? I know I certainly do with him - he isn't my type at all - have I EVER even hinted at this to him? NO!
I feel I worked SO hard to lose this weight, and going to gym to tone, and now am left a total failure. Wish I'd never bothered. Altho, at risk of throwing anyone off in their motivation, I am happy my health is better. I guess I should checked out the relationship first. Its just so hard because my 6 year old adores him too, and I thought he was a special person.
I just feel so let down, yet I have done so well. :cry:
But at least I don't feel like eating - I'm too sad for that, which is a first!!! :sigh:
I just had a hard conversation with boyf last night. He has been behind me using CD rather than a slower and easier (psychologically, socially) method of weight loss since he told me he liked skinny girls. I wanted to lose the weight for my health but also feared the aftermath (stomach rolls - you may have seen my posts about the state of my overhang as a result of 44 week preg).
Now the aftermath is here - I said to him it (overhang) wouldn't go and I think he hoped that it would. Well, it is worse than plumped up flab because it just hangs and feels horrid, and he told me that it turned him off (I think he meant repulsed). Essentially, I think he wants me to have a tummy tuck, and so do I but I am scared of the things that go wrong. It explains why my confidence crashed through the floor in this relationship, that my girlfriends were just saying was in my head!
I suppose I want to ask the men out there - is flab that bad? Can't you get past the odd physical flaw? I know I certainly do with him - he isn't my type at all - have I EVER even hinted at this to him? NO!
I feel I worked SO hard to lose this weight, and going to gym to tone, and now am left a total failure. Wish I'd never bothered. Altho, at risk of throwing anyone off in their motivation, I am happy my health is better. I guess I should checked out the relationship first. Its just so hard because my 6 year old adores him too, and I thought he was a special person.
I just feel so let down, yet I have done so well. :cry:
But at least I don't feel like eating - I'm too sad for that, which is a first!!! :sigh: