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  1. princess-of-power

    princess-of-power this is SPARTA!

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    Im having a good day LT wise. I managed to have 2 shakes in work today!!! V impressive.

    But, as usual, there is a fly in the ointment.

    I have a friend who wanted to do LT after seeing how well I did, her BMI was 26 and I didnt think the Pharm would give it to her but they did and she couldnt cope with the shakes, gave up after the 1st one.

    But our mutual friend, well, she was giving her a lot of stick for even considering it, even though she had been saying to me that she supported my choice to do LT.

    Now my friend has given up, our mutual friend was saying a lot of rubbish...

    saying that she was stronger than such an extreme diet and that she should find something to challenge her in a good way.

    saying people on LT are akin to those who have liposuction, they will never be happy with their bodies because they dont have the pyschological capacity to accept their new bodies

    and that if my friend worked hard at dieting and going the gym she would appreciate it more.

    I was a bit peed off to be honest at what she was saying. Although I knew it wasnt a personal attack on me, I felt it was an attack on LT and no-one talks that way about my LT!!!

    But I told her I didnt agree and bascially she started on this big tirade about how irrational I was and she just doesnt believe in the diet, she thinks its unhealthy and she will never change her mind although she is sure there are billions of medical journals saying how great this 'idea' is.

    It made me, yet again, so sad.

    I do think Im hormonal but I wish people would support rather than give me crap because Im doing something a little bit different!!!
     
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  3. Stinkybreath

    Stinkybreath Size 14 here i come!

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    If it was unhealthy then doctors wouldn't have started being the ones recommending it. Sounds like sour grapes to me just ignore her. Maybe she feels LT dieters don't work hard for our success, well little does she know.

    Don't be sad, friends like that aren't worth it!
     
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    festivalfairy Finally a size 12!

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    I was on the diet for 4 months and lost a lot of friends at the beginning but when the weight drops off and u gain more confidence those friends will be banging on your door asking u where u got the diet from

    Keep going :) xxxxxxx
     
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    icemoose The Diet Guy

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    At the end of the day people will always make their own decisions and opinions, I was told by loads of people that I would just put all the weight straight back on as if they knew what I would do, you are the expert of you! you are happy with what you are doing so let her problem be her problem and not yours as you is doing just fine :)
     
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    icemoose The Diet Guy

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    That is true BUT I also remember who my true friends were who loved me when I was 25 stone, supported me while i trimmed down and then love me now, a true friend wouldn't give a monkies what size you were, they just want you to be happy :)
     
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    liberty_girl Peace Love Happiness

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    Ducking hell, I want to punch this woman on the nose! You don't need friends like this Laura, you have everything going for you. Tell her to shut up and sod off. ;):D
     
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    I know exactly how you feel, my older sister is the same and my mam was but she's being more supportive now :)

    I also have a "friend" who when I told her i was on LT immediately gushed about how she's wanted to do it for ages. She's a petite girl and in no way needs to go on LT. I said this and stated how it was ppl who needed to lose 3 stone or more. she was still adamantly bout going on it. I started telling her how the shakes taste awful and are hard to keep down. her response "well you always were a bit of a moaner" :eek::mad: Cheeky cow. but i continued to try dissuade her, telling her how while you weren't hungry, it was still really hard as you still just really really wanted food. Her response (laughing) "well that was always your problem" :eek::mad::mad:
    My housemate, who was out with us, was as shocked as i was. I was speechless. Thank god my housemate changed the subject as i was about to explode :mad:
     
  9. princess-of-power

    princess-of-power this is SPARTA!

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    SERIOUSLY?? Omg, is she still your 'friend' because that's so out of order!

    What is with these people? You'd think they'd want us to be happy???
     
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    Hiya princess of power, unfortunately ya are going to get people like that. If it wasn't healthy then why did my doctor introduce it to me 2 weeks ago. She should be more supportive towards ya and instead is being downright nasty and is probably jealous of your success. All the best and don't let her win!!
     
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  11. princess-of-power

    princess-of-power this is SPARTA!

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    Thing is, Im a Doctor too!!! You'd think they'd appreciate I wouldnt do something dangerous.

    Funnily enough, the most support Ive gotten (apart from here and the OH) has been from all my Doc and Nurse mates in work.
     
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    no she aint still my "friend", had other issues with her but that was the last straw! I refuse to make any attempt to keep our "friendship" going, and seen as she is lazy and self centred, she wont lift a finger, so friendship over :D.......:(.....:D
     
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    Good for you. Im so impressed. Ive had issues with someone else for years (not this current one) and Ive never been brave enought to cut the threads...im a strange un! lol.
     
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    nope not strange at all, I was the same for such a long time. then something snapped and I refused to be a doormat anymore. cut out everyone who wasn't worth my time. now I got my core friends who are great and I love to bits. :D
     
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    Yay! You've inspired me, maybe now Im getting more confidence I can do the same. No more toxic friends for moi!

    Thanks hun!
     
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    i often find that 'friends' like that are usually just jealous. I have a friend who is just like that, we are best mates so i forgive her, but its mainly just cos shes over weight herself and it makes her feel worse.


    When i lost 4 stone on the akins diet, i hadnt seen that group of friend since i stared it, when i went to see them (id moved away from where they were) my other best friend asked where id left the rest of me, other friends said it was an amazing difference, it was the first thing sthey said... she said nothing.


    at the end of the day, your doing this for yourself... not them, so sod em, you'll feel a million times better in the end and a silly fight wont change that!

    A real friend will be happy you got there, not how you got there!

    .x.
     
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    I would so take that personally, firstly she was criticising (how the hell do you spell that?!) the PEOPLE who do LT -mental capacity and psychological bla de bla! Only when you stood your ground did she say she disagreed with the diet. Bwitch.
     
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    Oh she reckons she supports it and I should respect her for supporting me when she doesnt agree with it. Apparently Ive hurt her by telling her how she's not a supportive friend...*sigh* I dont know. Im sure I could have worded things right but still...what she said annoyed me and I think Ive every right to say what I think just as much as she does.
     
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    of course you do! I dislike it when ppl back track on what they've said when they realise that you're not just gonna lie down and take it.
     
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    Its always the same hun people are scared of change & probably jealous of your success!!! (thats how I think of it anyway)
    I have so many trying to sabotage my LT journey with their ridiculous quotes of 'surely you can eat a little & it wont harm' & 'you are starving yourself it cant be good' & advising all the other diets that I KNOW are great if thats what you wanna do but they just cant find it in em to support with LT cos they dont understand it.
    I get annoyed cos generally these are thin people & I find it patronising to say the least.

    In your case tho that other woman shoudl be commending you cos she obviously knows that it isnt easy for gods sake she couldnt get past the first day lol

    Just laugh at them behind your oh so silth like exterior now :) You are a star in my book hun
    Niki
    x
     
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