Cherry_Pie
Full Member
My mum has been overweight for most of her adult life. She's always on bonkers gimmick diets, crash diets, starving herself, etc. You'd think after so many years and none the lighter, she'd realise what a load of nonsense they are. They also wreak havoc with her health - she never has any energy. She'll regularly casually mention that all she's eaten for the day is a bit of lettuce and chicken - right before losing control and eating a full english. One time the only meat she ate for a MONTH was tuna (surprise surprise, she's sick of it now.) Last week she told me how she can't eat any vegetables because they're not allowed on her new crazy diet. She refuses to go to anything with a support network, as everyone will see her and think she's fat(!)
I keep telling her she should just exercise a bit more, eat a bit less, and eat HEALTHY, BALANCED FOODS. But she won't listen. It's depressing watching this constant spiral of her getting depressed about losing weight, hopping onto a crash diet, losing weight, getting fed up, and then putting all that weight back on again - and more! I appreciate it's extremely easy to sound patronising, a daughter lecturing her mother. I'm happy I'm a shoulder to cry on for her, but it's been years, and she never seems to wake up to her ludicrousy - I'm tired of it!
I suppose this post is half-rant, half needing advice. Any of you experienced this with a family member or friend? Have you ever got through to them? Do you just nod and agree?
I keep telling her she should just exercise a bit more, eat a bit less, and eat HEALTHY, BALANCED FOODS. But she won't listen. It's depressing watching this constant spiral of her getting depressed about losing weight, hopping onto a crash diet, losing weight, getting fed up, and then putting all that weight back on again - and more! I appreciate it's extremely easy to sound patronising, a daughter lecturing her mother. I'm happy I'm a shoulder to cry on for her, but it's been years, and she never seems to wake up to her ludicrousy - I'm tired of it!
I suppose this post is half-rant, half needing advice. Any of you experienced this with a family member or friend? Have you ever got through to them? Do you just nod and agree?