I don't post on here very often but still lurke....but I couldn't pass by and not send a :hug99:
My 4 year relationship/engagement ended just before I started CD, when it happened it felt like I had been punched in the chest and even though things had not been great it still hurt.....I cried till my eyes were swolen shut, my face was bloated, my head was thumping etc. This went on for a couple of days and do you know what?.....I just did what I needed to do....cry...hot bath...early nights...cry...huged my pillow....cry etc etc etc.
I remember my friends giving me some great advice...breaking up is like a bereavement, so grieve, but don't be frightened of change.
Right now you need to cry....but you know what....the first few days are the worst....then you will have a day where you don't cry, you will realise that all around you the world is still going on as normal.
For me, as the days passed and i cried less, I realised that I needed to look after myself/please myself. I realised that this was an opportunity to do a 'spring clean' of my mind, body, life!
That is what brought me to CD.
I made 'me' my focus!
What the others have said is true, food will not make you feel better, it will just give you something else to cry about when you are looking at a load of empty wrappers.
Make CD your focus, put your energy into that....the benefits will give you such a great feeling and spur you on to continue, just take it a day at a time.
You will go through tears, pain, numbness, lonleyness, anger, curiosity and 100's of why's....but you will survive.
If your fella finished with you cos of your weight....THAT'S HIS PROBLEM....ask yourself, "do you want someone like that"?
Anyway....this is much longer than I intended
Be good to yourself....do what you need to do....find a focus (CD?) and when you are feeling a bit less 'raw' write down the reasons you want him (you will go through this bit "I want him back"!!!!! No matter what!!!) but also write down the reasons you will be better off without him. Add to it every day and be honest, if you hated the way he ate/farted/left the toilet seat up/scratched his bits
write it down....I promise it will help.
Anyway....I hope this helped....even if it didn't....I hope the hug did!!
XXXXXX