He left me, Now I can't stop eating, please help

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  1. khazarji

    khazarji Full Member

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    My boyfriend just ended our relationship saying he does not want to commit, But deep down inside I feel it's because of my weight, I am devastated.
    I was on CD ss before the break up, and I was doing well, now I feel like I have lost the will to live, and I feel like I need a reason to do this diet, I need a reason, would you please spare a few minutes of your time and tell me what to do, I have no one to talk to....
    I need to get back on the diet, because I am not happy the way I am, I feel this weight is stopping me living

    Many thanks for taking the time
     
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    Aww im sorry.
    Please dont beat yourself up about it. He obviously wasnt worth it, and im a great believer in whats meant to be will be.

    you concentrate on looking after yourself and getting yourself fit and healthy to make YOURSELF feel better. Bugger to everyone else. lol

    once u feel better about yourself everything else seems so much easier. x x
     
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    :cry: So sorry to hear your news. You have done sooooooooo well already please don't give up now. Remember you are doing this for yourself because YOU want to, not to please anyone else. You CAN do this and you must use this experience to drive you on. Go and have a look in the gallery and see how beautiful the girls look in their before and afters. This is all about YOU and not your dum ass boyfriend.

    Dotti xx ;)
     
  5. misscheeky

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    heya hun,

    I went through the same thing back in jan. I wasnt longer after restarting cd ss but i stuck to it cuz i didnt feel like eating.. although i have messsed up since :rolleyes:

    Its soo hard..i dont know what to say only i know how you feel. Were still trying to clear up after the break up it would be so hard if there wasnt a child or house involved.

    If you wanna chat or anything hun my pm box is always open :) xx

    Ps try and get back to cd in the morn dont let him ending your relationship wreck u getting slim :hug99:

    take care xx
     
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    you know when you touch a sad person, or say something kind and they start crying, this is what happened after reading those kind replies, But I just feel so hurt, I wish it could stop.
     
  7. Lostris

    Lostris Serena's title didn't fit

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    Ok! So, I will tell you what I myself would want people to tell me in your situation!

    STOP EATING! IT WON'T MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!

    Realise that you are changing yourself, not just on the outside but n the inside too. You will get a better, nicer, more beautiful, more caring more respectful boyfriend at the end of the road!!!!! You're opening a big can of lovely boys with what you're doing, you're working on yourself through this diet and that;s fabulous!

    Show that .... what he's missing!!!!!!!

    You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Awwww hun sending you big cyber (((hugs)))

    Your boyfriend is not worth it you are so much better than him. I know it doesnt feel like that right now but you will see that soon.

    Do cd ss for yourself. For you mentally, physically and health wise. In couple months time you will be sooo over him, looking and feeling on top of the world.

    Good luck and keep posting we are here to support eachother.
     
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    Lostris: Thanks a lot, I've always loved whatever you have to say, Still I feel I need someone to put it all into prospective.... Please
     
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    YummyMummy: thanks so much, how did you do it?
     
  11. Serena A

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    Big hugs to you xxx

    Stick with CD hunni for all the wonderful reasons that everyone else has posted. Also tell yourself - once the pain has eased off in a few weeks/months or however long it takes, do you really want to be still stuck with a 2 or 3 stone reminder of this horrible time? (i.e. the effect of not losing weight/putting some on combined with what you could have lost) Or emerge from the experience 2 or 3 stone lighter and triumphant in your own strength? Stick with it darling you deserve it xx
     
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    I don't really know what to say to you besides what I just said hehe, glad you didn't take it the wrong way!!

    He really, really isn;t worth it! I know it doesn't feel like that now but he really isn't!! You're better than he is, you're worth more!

    Watch sad movies, cry, cry... let it out! Stop eating, it will make you feel worse (it may not when you eat but after you will feel terrible <3), have nice hot tea or have a nice hot bath.. do something to pamper yourself and try to get your mind off the food and that jerk!!

    x
     
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    Lostris: yup that one did it
     
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    Chin up hon!! :)

    xxx
     
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    There's nothing wrong with being sad or with crying. All the things they tell you about emotional eating are true - squashing your feelings with food won't make it better. Whatever happens between you and him, keep back on with the diet because it's what you want. He's hurt you enough already, if you eat because of him then you're letting him hurt you even more. I know it's easy to say and hard to accept and put into practice but stay on here and get support - and also a distraction from the fridge. Keep posting hon. Lots of hugs.
     
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    I'm very sorry that things didn't work out with your boyfriend. However, it's probably for the best, because if he's not willing to love you 100%, as you are, for who you are, then he's not worth keeping around. The right person will love you no matter what your weight.

    That being said, you shouldn't use breaking up with your boyfriend as an excuse to toss your diet in the rubbish bin. I am sure you have many other reasons for wanting to lose weight, so you need to focus on those reasons.

    Besides, if you quit your diet and start overeating, you'll just feel lousy about it later.

    I'm really sorry. I know this hurts, but please don't let it get you off track. You've done so well for so long, so just keep at it!
     
  17. Prettyfacebut?

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    I don't post on here very often but still lurke....but I couldn't pass by and not send a :hug99:

    My 4 year relationship/engagement ended just before I started CD, when it happened it felt like I had been punched in the chest and even though things had not been great it still hurt.....I cried till my eyes were swolen shut, my face was bloated, my head was thumping etc. This went on for a couple of days and do you know what?.....I just did what I needed to do....cry...hot bath...early nights...cry...huged my pillow....cry etc etc etc.
    I remember my friends giving me some great advice...breaking up is like a bereavement, so grieve, but don't be frightened of change.
    Right now you need to cry....but you know what....the first few days are the worst....then you will have a day where you don't cry, you will realise that all around you the world is still going on as normal.
    For me, as the days passed and i cried less, I realised that I needed to look after myself/please myself. I realised that this was an opportunity to do a 'spring clean' of my mind, body, life!
    That is what brought me to CD.
    I made 'me' my focus!
    What the others have said is true, food will not make you feel better, it will just give you something else to cry about when you are looking at a load of empty wrappers.
    Make CD your focus, put your energy into that....the benefits will give you such a great feeling and spur you on to continue, just take it a day at a time.
    You will go through tears, pain, numbness, lonleyness, anger, curiosity and 100's of why's....but you will survive.
    If your fella finished with you cos of your weight....THAT'S HIS PROBLEM....ask yourself, "do you want someone like that"?
    Anyway....this is much longer than I intended;)
    Be good to yourself....do what you need to do....find a focus (CD?) and when you are feeling a bit less 'raw' write down the reasons you want him (you will go through this bit "I want him back"!!!!! No matter what!!!) but also write down the reasons you will be better off without him. Add to it every day and be honest, if you hated the way he ate/farted/left the toilet seat up/scratched his bits:eek: write it down....I promise it will help.
    Anyway....I hope this helped....even if it didn't....I hope the hug did!!
    XXXXXX
     
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    Islandbreez and oinkstop, thank you guys, I'm starting to feel better, I feel like I have angels talking to me... lol
     
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    Aw hun sorry to hear this, My 7 year relationship ended 5 months ago and since then I have put on 2 1/2 stone, has it made me feel better, not at all so my advice is stay strong remember why you are doing this. Just wish I took my own advice
     
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    Prettyfacebut? Seriously? what a post, Thank you so much, Is it normal to want him back after I lost the weight? or is that just pathetic?
     
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    sorry to hear your news, but think of yourself sending big hugs x
     
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