botozi
Full Member
After loosing 16,5 kg in 6 weeks i get comments like:
- i think you should stop now, otherwise you get to thin (i'm still 20
kg overweighted but hee.......ok);
- don't throw your big clothes away otherwise you have to buy new
clothes when you get fat again
(this one is from my own mother);
- you can join the (christmas)lunch, one meal can do no harm
(from people i explained the diet too and who now i don't eat at all
and what the effect of doing so can be);
- i am sure that when you stop this diet you will gain all your weight
back because that always happens with a crash diet;
- this is not a good diet because it's bad for your health if you don't
eat;
- you can not live like this all your life
(from people i explained too what maintenance is and who know that
when i'm at goal, food will be added gradually);
- don't get too skinny because that doesn't look nice.
The comment that hurts me the most is: no comment. Those are the people who can obviously see that i look much better than 6 weeks ago but don't say a word about it.
All those (non) comments are from the people who made "jokes" about my overweight. So now and then there's a conversation about looks and weight and then someone had to place a comment about my overweight. I always laughed but deep inside it didn't feel funny at all.
Is it my big person people are afraid too loose? Are they afraid that i'll change in another person or that they have to "look up to me"?
I really don't know but one thing i know for sure. Yes, i am changing in another person. My outside changes and with that my type of clothes (more youth and sexy). The inside is changing too, i have more confidence in my self, i shine like a star, and through that it makes it easier for me to be the real me.
Sometimes i think we have all lived in our cocons too long. We're going to break out and become beautifull butterflies!
Hugs
botozi
- i think you should stop now, otherwise you get to thin (i'm still 20
kg overweighted but hee.......ok);
- don't throw your big clothes away otherwise you have to buy new
clothes when you get fat again
(this one is from my own mother);
- you can join the (christmas)lunch, one meal can do no harm
(from people i explained the diet too and who now i don't eat at all
and what the effect of doing so can be);
- i am sure that when you stop this diet you will gain all your weight
back because that always happens with a crash diet;
- this is not a good diet because it's bad for your health if you don't
eat;
- you can not live like this all your life
(from people i explained too what maintenance is and who know that
when i'm at goal, food will be added gradually);
- don't get too skinny because that doesn't look nice.
The comment that hurts me the most is: no comment. Those are the people who can obviously see that i look much better than 6 weeks ago but don't say a word about it.
All those (non) comments are from the people who made "jokes" about my overweight. So now and then there's a conversation about looks and weight and then someone had to place a comment about my overweight. I always laughed but deep inside it didn't feel funny at all.
Is it my big person people are afraid too loose? Are they afraid that i'll change in another person or that they have to "look up to me"?
I really don't know but one thing i know for sure. Yes, i am changing in another person. My outside changes and with that my type of clothes (more youth and sexy). The inside is changing too, i have more confidence in my self, i shine like a star, and through that it makes it easier for me to be the real me.
Sometimes i think we have all lived in our cocons too long. We're going to break out and become beautifull butterflies!
Hugs
botozi