SharonA_1970
Full Member
Thanks to Mrs Lard I managed to complete a Thought Record this morning
What happened?
I ate two packets of crisps and jelly babies
Evidence for hot thoughts
Hilmi is always honest and doesn’t lie to make me feel better therefore when he said that I am always grumpy and always moan that must be true. By verbalising these feelings he has that means to me that I am an inconvenience when I am ill and he cannot be bothered
Evidence Against hot thoughts
If I was really that awful DH wouldn’t still be here.
More realistic thought
DH has it tough as he works hard and is under stress so maybe he was just tired and didn’t have the patience to listen to me telling him how I felt or the patience to ignore the fact that I was being grumpy
How I feel now
What happened?
- Felt ill
- Argued with DH
- No sympathy
- Took crisps
- Ate two packets
- Ate Jelly babies
- I’m unappreciated
- I’m misunderstood
- An inconvenience
- Unloved
- I’ve eaten one packet may as well carry on
- Ill
- Unloved
- Guilty
- Indiffferent
I ate two packets of crisps and jelly babies
Evidence for hot thoughts
Hilmi is always honest and doesn’t lie to make me feel better therefore when he said that I am always grumpy and always moan that must be true. By verbalising these feelings he has that means to me that I am an inconvenience when I am ill and he cannot be bothered
Evidence Against hot thoughts
If I was really that awful DH wouldn’t still be here.
More realistic thought
DH has it tough as he works hard and is under stress so maybe he was just tired and didn’t have the patience to listen to me telling him how I felt or the patience to ignore the fact that I was being grumpy
How I feel now
- Better for seeing the whole picture
- Guilty for having the binge
- Hopeful that DH will be a bit more understanding now I can explain things calmly
- Next time I feel ill just explain to Hilmi that I feel ill and go to bed with a book to avoid confrontation
- Try to explain rather than complain