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  1. fizzstar

    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    Hello!

    I feel like such a failure right now. I experienced some terrible head aches (I was in agony) and then snow hit us last Friday (weigh-in / stock up day) and all buses were stopped where I live! I couldnt get in, and spoke with the pharmacist who said to eat healthily and to come in when I could. Well... Saturday came and I couldnt stick to 'healthy'. I kind of binged! And I feel awful and have done since. I so desperatly want to go back on but now, ive no funds until next Friday to go back on. And my partner has said he doesnt want me to go back to it. My family dont want me too either. Its killing me, I sooo want to loose the weight and I want to now but everyone is against me. So it looks like i'll be scouting this place for another diet until my partner comes round :(
     
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    dont worry about it why not try weight watchers or slimming world thoose diets seem to be accepted more and if you follow the plans the weight will still come off :)
     
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    firstly sorry to hear that you couldnt get out that day! secondly,, just a quick thought to put in your head.... why should you make other people happy and not let yourself be happy?? your thinking about doing a different diet, because others dont want you to do the one that YOU chose for YOU. They are giving you their advice and telling you their worries but if you want to do this for you, then you will stick with this one! Dont waste time waiting for your partner to come around,, make the decision for yourself :)
    on the other hand,, if you feel like another diet is best,, i wish you all the best of luck in finding one that suits you! as scary said, weight watchers and slimming world are great, as they have their own clubs to keep you motivated!
    As for the binge.. dont worry just remind yourself that its not the right thing to do,, and try and be more cautious from now on,,give yourself a talk when you are faced with temptation,, or get out for a walk :)

    Hope that came across the right way! just be sure to make the decision for yourself so you can be happy .. good luck xxx
     
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    I have to back up Pudge's sentiment here. It's your life, your body and your health and ultimately your decision how you choose to lose the weight. Ignorance about LT is the primary cause of all the objections. If it were me I'd do the diet regardless what anyone else thought, why on earth can't you be happy and do as you please? You're a grown woman with intelligence who is able to make their own choices about what is right for you.

    Quit pleasing everyone else and do what is right for you. If that means doing LT or switching to WWs etc then fine as long as its YOUR decision and not theirs.

    <rant over /> hehe
     
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    Mirjam Never Ever Give Up!

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    I agree with pudge and cookeh, don't change diets because someone else wants you to! Why doesn't your partner want you to be LT if I may ask?
     
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    it's your life, not anyone else's so don't be dictated to by anyone, do what you want to do, but be sensible. People who are negative about this diet are generally extremely misinformed......followed properly it is a life-saver and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

    I hope that you get it sorted x
     
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    I do agree with what all the others have said, but i think it should be pointed out that other people are still around us and although the decision is ultimately yours, if being on LT is making life hard for others then perhaps it is not the right diet for you.... I mean that in a serious way, not flippantly...

    Joe would hate to see me in pain for the sake of a diet when there are alternatives out there, but I want to do this particluar one so i shouldn't think "sod you, it's up to me" cos in many ways it's not just me the diet affects.

    This diet is so hard and if we mess up we tend to take it quite hard, which means that usually family and friends suffer too, with our moods,strops, crying or whatever...

    It is your decision, of course it is, but that doesn't mean that people who love and care for us are not affected by what the diet does to us physically, mentally and emotionally....

    As i say.. That is only MY opinion x x
     
  9. fizzstar

    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    Sorry for not updating. Thanks for the replies. Im not convinced its LT causing the headaches as theyre still here (ive been off it a week near enough) and theyre getting worse so think it'll be a trip to the doctor.

    Im not 100% sure why my other half isnt supporting me. He took it quite hard that he was at work all day (I look after my son, pets and work from home though!) and he had to cook for himself. This was just the first few days though. I started it on the 1st (saturday) and he cooked sat, sun and mon and I started to cook again, as I felt ready, on the Tuesday. He wasnt happy when I decided I was going on it, and before I signed up here I directed it to him, and also googled LT with some really positive results to it. But he wasnt totally convinced. He thinks that im messing my body up (TOTM wise) but I started this the Sat, and was due on the Wed, big mistake as im a hormonal wreck the few days beforehand (and I do binge those few days before) so being solely on LT and totm - made me 100 times worse off. Hes got it into his head that it's going to stall our chances of getting pregnant. I havent taken any contraceptive since September 08 and have had 4 miscarriages since and he recons this is going to make my whole system 'worse' but I think it'll be better - id be carrying less weight around and could come off it if I found out. But hes just a total unsupportive git at times. Hes suggested celebslim but im not sure if I could do that? I mean, i'd loose weight, slowly. Its just 8pounds cheaper than LT so not that big of a difference yet I still have to eat a 'balanced' meal each day! My 'balanced meal' wouldnt be anything he'd like so i'd be effectivly cooking for him, and my son. Then cooking for me. I feel like im fighting a loosing battle. My parents said on my first day I wouldnt stick it out, and I couldnt - although would have if the weather wasnt poo. My out-laws (sorry, cant stand them!) all said I was stupid, an idiot, a retard... they were too negative about it and everyone around me has proven themselves to be right and I was sooooo up for proving them wrong. I think im going to tell my other half i'll try Celebslim for a few weeks and when he sees im not loosing anything (because you can eat on it, I dont think i'll battle my demons with the whole food issue ive got!) he might then see the sense of LT, for me. Im missing the shakes! They filled me up and I felt ok, not hungry or anything yet i'm back to eating and im never full up! Im constantly snacking. Ohh I feel like headbutting a wall!x
     
  10. pudge

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    oh dear hun.. firstly i can say that being on LT actually improves your chances of getting pregnant. In fact i saw a post on it the other day,it was telling us all to be careful! and i think Abbie got pregnant with her beautiful son while on LT!! So you should show your OH that!.. Otherwise i just done understand why everybody else cant support you. As weve said it is your decision, but if you miss LT and think it will work for you, why not go on it and not tell anybody but your OH. that way you only have to deal with your OH.
    As for the headaches,, i hope the doctors goes ok. Just make sure you have a think about it and a chat with your OH about what hes worried about. Ask him if you could take another run at it just for a while . As long as he sees that you understand where hes coming from,and as long as he feels a part of your decision, then he should be ok. Good luck xx
     
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    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    I've sat and had a think about it, and tomorrow im going to cook a big lasagne and chilli. Then start back up on sat. He wont have to cook, he can just reheat the foods and sorted then :D Its getting to me because I want to go on it, and even if its just for 6 weeks, I want to loose something (and see the loss) I feel I wasted the first week, and went through torment for no reason! But im thinking im going back on it. Even if he disapproves, I dont care anymore. He hasnt ever supported me through any choices I made in life, theres always 'something'. Hes a very jealous person (cant believe im telling people this!! arghh ha!) but he got very paranoid to the point he took holidays from work when I managed to get from 20stone to 17stone as he thought I was gods gift then... I have managed although its took over a year to get another stone or so off but I decided LT was the way for me yet he disapproves, wonder why!! I'm going to keep him happy and go on celebslim for a week. That way he cant hold it against me that im not thinking of 'him'. I think that way he cant hold me against anything and if he dont like it, he knows where the door is :)
     
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    hey im glad you had a think about it and have made a decision about what you think is right for you! best of luck for your journey and im glad youre feeling more positive now ..:D x
     
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    Poor Fizz... You are really going through it hun x x

    Here is some stuff you might want to show your OH:

    http://www.minimins.com/lipotrim-forum/185249-extra-careful-sex.html#post3120658... That is for the pregnancy bit

    And if you have access to a printer (for other people to see):

    Lipotrim - GP Programme..

    You can show your out-laws (LOVING THAT SAYING!!) that GPs must be retards too then cos they back it!! I find those sort of comments really offensive and your out-laws need to learn some manners and a little bit of respect!! Does your OH allow them to talk to you like that???!!

    I take it back... Feck the lot of them.. You do what makes YOU happy, and if none of them like it, they can find their own way out of the door!!!!

    You really will need support if you do it though hun.. We will continue to support you on here, and if you think that will be enough for you then that's great... But if you are going to need support in real life you might need to get your OH on your side too, and try to make him realise that you really want to try LT, and it really does work... There are enough people on here who are great examples of that....
    Could you not suggest a compromise... You do (say) 2 months LT with him fully supporting you (even if it is through gritted teeth), and then you can talk about how you both feel about it, and both be open to continuing with LT or changing, whatever suits you at the time.

    I really hope you come to a solution hun x x
     
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    Fizz... You must have posted as i was typing my essay!!! lol
     
  15. fizzstar

    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    Well, hes come in from work - hes had a 'rough day', really he should try staying in the house and doing my job (puppy, toddler, trying to work from my laptop as well as everything else on top of it, ie my gran turning up and dictating how my home should be run...) he'd soon realise what rough is!

    We've had the chat about it all, he wants me to find out why im having the headaches firstly. If its caused by LT then he wont support me what so ever at all. If its not, we've made a 'deal' ;) I go on Celebrity Slim for 4 weeks. If I dont loose a stone, at minimum. I'll go onto LT for 4 weeks, if I dont loose a stone on LT then I just give up the whole shakes thing! Ahaaa, I WILL loose a stone on LT, it'll be more likely a stone and a half. I cant see CS doing anything for me really. Its a very flexible programme that I feel is a little too flexible. Aye well... :)


    He does let the out laws speak to me like chit unfortunatly, as hes still wrapped in cotton wool from mummy. What mum says, goes. I dont get on with her at all, and as far as im concerned they arent my family in any way shape or form. His dad isnt so bad, he tried to torment me on day 1 with some food and messed around but then he left me to it. He hasnt said anything bad towards it, its mainly his (if I must say, overweight) mother. Its upsetting because I cant get my head around her at times but I dont care anymore. When I first had my son I let my guard down as I had undiagnosed depression for 2 years. So I let her walk all over me, but now I take the anti-d's and my confidence is building up she hates me. Thanks for the links to show him, I will forward them to him soon.

    Regardless, now I feel much better and ready. The next few months is going to be hard but ive got a sneaky feeling CS will help me towards going back to LT. I wont have to suddenly cut out my food, ;) Im going to keep lurking around here though, and will be very soon back on LT100% :D x
     
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    I am really happy you have come to a decision that YOU are satisfied with... when you get weighed on celebrity slim make sure you have a couple of bottles of water or some heavy pebbles in your pockets so you weigh more!! lol

    Good luck, and see you back here soon x x
     
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    Forgive me for saying this but......didn't you say that you were trying for a baby with this man?!?!?
     
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    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    I know. We are having the 'talk' about it all though. Without saying too much, I think some contraception will be on the cards very shortly as hes getting worse and im loosing my temper with him.




    @ Su: HA! Pebbles in the pockets sounds good :D x
     
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    fizzstar bye bye belly

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    Todays been a hard day for us both, I can (and have for a while) been seeing us 'fall apart' in how we are changing. I always knew we would but when I had my son I so desperatly didnt want to be a broken family. I did want the 'perfect' family, I know nothing in reality is perfect but I wanted to be a working class family, with some morals etc I didnt want to fall into the trap of being a single mum. I was pregnant at 15, before becoming a mum at 16. I see so many girls, getting pregnant and being on their own and I wanted to be different to that so I have to admit, I stuck it out through the s--t times and the brilliant times. Truth be told, we can and do get along. We have sort of slipped into a routine, but i'm changing now. I dont want to be the fat mum at the school gates. Or, the one who has to buy from the 'plus size' section. I want to be able to go and buy a size 12 or even better, a 10. So, after I was on here (at a stupid hour) I slept on the sofa as hes a snore monster. Woke him up with a cuppa, and had it out with him.

    I'm going back on LT. Im not doing CS, I cant see how the losses on CS will be at all motivating for me, personally. I am going back onto a contrap, booking in at the doctors on Monday morning. I'm going to start putting myself first (well second, my kid comes first but you know what I mean) and im determined that if I want to be slimmer, i've got to put in the hard work too! So, i'm starting LT next Thursday again. In the meantime, carbs are off limits - expect for breakfast, I need my toast. I'm going to cut out the pop (and cider + blacks that ive been drinking almost daily since I come off!) and get my water going as of now. Going back to black tea / leaf teas and sweetners tomorrow morning. Going to munch plenty of fruits and veg and eat no more than 1000 cals for the next 4 days. I'm going to be what I want to be. And thats a sexy confident young girl! I AM going to wave goodbye to the fat me and start my 20's in a size 12, and thats the maximum size I will be. Ive got until August to achieve that weight loss.

    I've got an online diary, with a few 'followers' and they've all been very supportive reading my blogs and theyre all very looking forward to my before and after pictures. I'm now just trying to think of what I can say to the pharmacist to excuse myself of being an idiot and not being able to get in! Doh..! Any ideas welcomed and thank you (Natalie ann) for directing me here, I know ive aired my dirty knickers for all to see but I feel like ive lost a stone just typing this and have just slumped on the sofa and let out a massive 'ahhhhhh'. Before I go though, thank you to everyone. I'm probably the only person (or, one of a very few) to air my dirt on a forum but you're all so supportive and can honestly say, I probably wouldnt have gone back onto LT had it not been for this brilliant forum. Youre all so upbeat and positive xxx
     
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    It sounds like you're having a tough time at the moment, and you are really brave making these tough decisions. I wish you the best of luck in everything you decide to do. Sometimes it is great to come on here and get some advice from people outside of the situation, loads of us do it! Good luck hun.
     
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