I'd like an honest opinion please

[Geri]

Hiya claire,
how about saying to yourself that instead of 100 days its 300 or maybe not quite that high, but you know what i mean i hope lol It may take away from the 100 day time frame.

You are doing soo well, I'm another one who speaks from experience , it can be soo hard to get back into the swing of things.....

How about you plan a night out when you've got to where you want to be? The double JD's will still be there then for ya!

 

[Nigeepoo]

Nige - are you actually doing Lighter Life? I think you must not be because much of what you are suggesting in your posts is not allowed.

I'm not doing LL. I was trying to suggest something less damaging than double JD's (which I presume are also not allowed on LL?).

 

[Isis]

:cry:

I've got so long to go... I want to go out and have a good time with my friends... I want to be how I was... drinking, dancing, laughing, joking... and that ain't gunna happen if I'm sat there with sparkling water.

I'm 21... and I just feel like I'm missing out on so much

Get your violins out... This reminds me of our session the other week... Give me a moment to play the victim :sigh:

Have a good moan, rant, feel sorry for yourself for a while. It's okay to do that sometimes so give yourself permission Claire

Then....have your packs, get a good nights sleep and review everything in the morning, is what I would suggest.

Lacey..xxx

 

[lighterlifeclaire]

Have a good moan, rant, feel sorry for yourself for a while. It's okay to do that sometimes so give yourself permission Claire

Then....have your packs, get a good nights sleep and review everything in the morning, is what I would suggest.

Lacey..xxx

Hope day 1 is going well Lacey xxx

 

[ladylite]

I'm not doing LL. I was trying to suggest something less damaging than double JD's (which I presume are also not allowed on LL?).

Told you I was fick whats a double JD

 

[Nigeepoo]

Told you I was fick whats a double JD

It's what lighterlifeclaire wants to drink. A double Jack Daniels, I fink.

 

[kimmer]

Hi Claire,

I know it's different for all of us, but I would like to tell you what happened when I first did LL, last year.
I was 100% until I had about 2 weeks left, and then I went home to see my family. I took all my shakes and bars with me, and was intending to be abstinent. Instead, I wanted so badly to just hang out with my friends and sister and be normal, I had myself a one weeks' holiday and promised myself I would get straight back on.

It is unbelievably hard, is all I can tell you, to get back to that place where you are now. My group moved into development, and there were new people. Try as I might, I couldn't remain abstinent - I would get a few days in, and then go on a binge. The bingeing continued until I finally stopped trying to be abstinent, but I continued to overeat. Finally, after Christmas I made it back, 3 stone heavier than when I took my break. I'm in week 5, but I could kick myself in the ass every time I think I could have been maintaining my goal weight since August or September.

You've had a difficult day, and I really feel for you. It's not a coincidence that you're missing your friends and feeling low. But, just imagine what you'll prove to yourself if you make it through the 8 days!

 

[HelenG]

Dear Lighterlifeclaire

I sooo feel for you - but hon, DON'T DO IT!

I'm one of the many on here who though 'I can restart whenever I want, I've done it for so long I can take a break and do it again'.

Now, almost three years down the line I am two stone heavier than when I started and trying desperately to stick to any bloody plan for more than a week:cry:

You are so close, don't let someone else sabotage all your hard work - didn't you tell us not so long ago that you have gone from 26-16!

Whatever you decide, we'll all be here to support

 

[ladylite]

It's what lighterlifeclaire wants to drink. A double Jack Daniels, I fink.

fank you - a double southern comfort would do me

 

[Isis]

Hope day 1 is going well Lacey xxx

Thanks hun

I've managed to get through it and am off to bed now so feeling very pleased with myself. Here comes all the trips to the loo but it WILL be worth it

You take good care of yourself and have a good mull over things tommorow..xxx

 

[toller-girl]

Why don't you plan a big holiday for late summer? By then you might be at goal, or even if you're not you'll look so good you wont care about not being able to drink!

 

[Kellie=]]

Claire- Im a year younger than you (im 20 ) and i do not look at it like alife sentance. Its nearly 2am as i type this and iv just got back from clubbing with my mates. who says you cant drink sparkling water? I just did and had a fab time. You totally need to realise that its only you stopping yourself from going out and remaining to have a social life not the lack of alcahol!
one thing that keeps me going is imagining myself on the dancefloor in clothes i am happy and proud to wear with a body I am happy and proud of.
I donthave that right now- so its a small amount of time to get where I want to be.
Dont think about ur social life now- think of it in another 100 days when your getting attention from nicer men! You have come so far and its such a waste to give up now.
please stick with it. Think of urself in the summer- and as the weather gets hotter its easier to stay away from food. who wants to drink pints in the boiling hot weather? hehe.
look at what you HAVE achieved, not what you have left to achieve!
the glass is most definatly half full
stick with it kiddo xxxxxx

 

[Blonde Logic]

I'm not doing LL. I was trying to suggest something less damaging than double JD's (which I presume are also not allowed on LL?).

LOL - well you have a good point there mate!!

Your advice is good, don't get me wrong - I just was wondering who your LLC was, (LL counselor ) bbecause she sounded a lot better then mine!!!

Us LL'ers though, we would tend to encourage water, as thats what we are a llowed!! Water/tea/coffee....and thats our bbuffet of bbeverages!!!

 

[silhouettes]

Claire this is going to sound mean and nasty but it isnt meant to be.
Take a look in your green book at the chapter about game playing. At the moment (to me) you seem to be in, or very close to being in victim mode. You are listing all of the reasons why you could/should come off the diet and the reasons why you have not been in abstinance 100%since christmas. It feels like you are wanting us to either back you up to do it or to make the decision for you. Ultimately the decision is yours and only you know what to do. It is up to you to become your own rescuer.

Bring out your positive rebellious child and get stubborn about sticking to the diet 100% no matter what crap is thrown at you. Stick 2 fingers up at this guy for treating you badly and dont let an idiot like him sabbotage your way of thinking and ultimately your happiness with your new and much slimmer body.

As for your question, I know that i would not take a week off this diet because I need to get my issues with food sorted out before i begin eating again and self destruct.
You are still using food and alcohol as a 'treat' or necessity to socialise. This plain and simply is not true. You can easily go out and enjoy yourself without eating and drinking as the last 92 days has shown you.


As for your going to bed and only having had 1 pack all day!!!! Becareful you do not make yourself ill, I get really headachey, tired, grumpy and emotional if i do not space my packs out. THis is often a time that negative thoughts come into play. Plus 3 packs together last thing at night is going to expand your stomach more than it is used to and possibly mean that you dont sleep well.

Take care claire, and i hope i didnt upset you with my comments. I really want you to keep suceeding as you are doing brilliantly.

 

[silhouettes]

Actually claire, the more think about it, are you discounting (same page as game playing) your upset and pain that you are feeling from this guy, for a need to socialise? IF you are, then comfort eating and drinking will not make you feel better about the situation. It will not solve it or change the way he treated you. (I used to do this all the time and still struggle with it - even on my packs)
He is an arse for treating you the way he did and you deserve to be treated with a lot more respect and love than he has shown you.

sil x
( i couldnt add this to my last message as more than 15 mins lapsed)

 

[Musical Missy]

Claire - as a person who is also in her 20's and also as someone who has been pretty much abstinent for over 6 months I can honestly say the not drinking thing and social aspect is soooooo not a problem. I went out on Saturday night and got into bed (sadly alone but we can't have everything!) at 3am. Some of the people I was with I hadn't previously met but no one commented on me not drinking, they were just grateful of a lift home and I also have a cheap night 'cos water is free! In fact - I was still well awake at 3am compared to some of the people I was with who had basically passed out!
My friends have all 100% backed me throughout this diet and will continue to do so as long as I'm happy, because that's what friends do.
I think the key is to not make yourself a victim, I've always said its entirely my choice to not eat and drink and I can do either whenever I want, I just choose not to. I don't want others to feel guilty about eating or drinking around me and I don't want them to pity me, I'm being proactive doing this diet and I'm constantly being told by friends/family how proud they are of me for doing this and this spurs me on when I'm struggling.
Believe me, wearing a size 12 dress will make it all worth it, I still feel smug everytime I wear mine and am now hoping for a size 10 in the next couple of months!
All that said it is my Birthday weekend the one after next and I will be eating and drinking, its my Birthday treat and I'll be straight back on plan on the Monday come rain or shine!

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

MM x

 

[Sappho]

You know... I can totally understand where ur cumin from and thats what has made me struggle already. Eating at Xmas threw me off track and I have struggled since. I have lost weight but not asmuch as I could do because there hasn't been one week since Xmas where I haven't had SOMETHING. I need to get my disapline back, and I want the feeling I had when I first started... excited to be doing it, happy to be making a change. But I just haven't felt that for about a week now

Hi Claire

Whatever you decide, dont beat yourself up about it, but you say you want the same feeling u had when you started, happy to make a change. The thing is that when you started you were a lot bigger and therefore it was prob a relief to get out of that state of overeating and feel yourself getting smaller. Would it take until you are that big again before you feel the same desperation and feeling when you started? I think you have to do whatever you feel is right for you, but just be aware to what voice you are listening too. Good luck in whatever you decide, you are fab x x

 

[notsotrim]

I don't post often, but I really thought I ought to on this occasion, as I have kinda been in your position (not quite but kinda).

My friend and I both did lighterlife the first time about 3/4 years ago. She had more to lose than me, but when she wanted to stop losing she somehow convinced me to stop too (i still wanted to lose a stone) and we both went into management. Recipie for disaster. We quit management after 4 weeks (alcohol hadn't been introduced at this point) as we wanted a good night out.

Well from that night onwards, our other friends were saying all the things they probably didnt want to say while we were abstinant. Like "Oh that diet was unhealthy, all you have to do is watch what you eat, and you can have a night off once/twice a week like us!". And we believed them and had the time of our lives for a month or 2.

After one night out, you have hangover (you get drunk on so little after LL) and you eat telling yourself "It is ok, I will eat healthily all week - I need this 'insert greasy food here' to feel better today", but that never happened.

I went on lipotrim for 10 weeks to get back to LL end weight. All for a few weeks of "fun".

Then it happened again. It is a total viscious circle. Had to do cambridge next time to get weight off for again 10 weeks.

Then it happened AGAIN!!!! I am now 6 stone heavier and doing LL again as it is the ONLY way I can stop myself doing this. Seeing LL through to the end, to the weight I WANT, and not having ANY friends suggestion sabotage me! I need to do the LL program to the end, as since I didn't do management properly, I STILL don't feel I have the tools to live life treating food as a fuel and not a treat.

Don't take a week off and waste all the effort you put in. I felt like such a failure when I turned up at LL again having put on all my weight. And I know I have to do this for another god knows how long, but the thing is, I just cannot trust myself until I have completed the whole program, including management.

I just wouldn't eat food until you have finished, and that includes management.

G xx

 

[Blonde Logic]

NotSoTrim - excellant advice.

That is what I worry about for anyone. Sure, take a week off for a break.....and then get back on.....IF....you can get back on. But your story and so many othres show one week becomes two, becomes three, becomes a month, etc., and then you find yourself back where you started.

I VOW to do this once, and only once. Start to finish - learn and live.

 

[Lisav]

Please Claire, dont do it! It is SO much harder restarting and I am not joking. The same happened to me first time round, I got to the point where I thought I was invincible, I had solved all my diet problems and I had LL to fall back on, Right? WRONG - I purged, put on weight, felt guilty, miserable and couldnt get back on it - dont make the same mistake I did. Do it properly and right the first time and you should never have to go back on LL