EatenMess
Full Member
Hiya All,
I don't know how to pull myself back together! I'm always the strong one - the one who always copes with everything.
I've woken up this morning and just cried.
I'm useless, i don't work and have started trying to find work but it's horrendous, i'm sure my size is also going to impeed on any chance i have. As the jobs i go for are customer facing jobs in management and all the vacancies detail along the lines of 'impeccable presentation or takes pride in their appearance'
I've just turned 30, 5 ft4 am over 15 stone now (the heaviest i have ever been) and not worked for 2 years. I'm really letting my children down as we never have the money for nice things, to go out anywhere and do anything.
OH has suffered ill health quite drastically for the last 2 years and in this time he's also had mental health issues and developed a heavy drinking problem - whch i've noticed i'm drinking far to much aswell (although not ona scale where we are drinking during the day, or dependant etc!) Although mental health is no longer an issue, he is on top of the drinking and heis health is being treated we are no longer the fab couple we were! And sadly he's let the self employed business he set up fall apart (but then he didnt really have the option to be able to keep it going!) So thee we are having to claim benefits and i feel so ashamed and like scum....
Personally in my previous job i was well respected, bubbly, confident and loved my job (although not the hours!) something different everyday and was easy to chat to so many different people with different intersts, things to say etc! Now is sit indoors and the highlight of my week is grocery shopping :-(
I'm lost, i no longer know who i am! We moved last year and neither of us know anyone around here, because i'm not confident like i was i do not go out and about meeting people, and sadly i have no family to speak of so feel very alone (family aspect a long story, but i am better off without them - even if that means the only people i have in the world are oh and the kids, and his family i suppose!)
I don't know where to start, what to do and just want to cry and bury my head! I've seen so many people around crumple with depresion and i vow never to sink that low - i just need to pick me up and not sure how.
I don't even know why i'm blabbing on here.......
I don't know how to pull myself back together! I'm always the strong one - the one who always copes with everything.
I've woken up this morning and just cried.
I'm useless, i don't work and have started trying to find work but it's horrendous, i'm sure my size is also going to impeed on any chance i have. As the jobs i go for are customer facing jobs in management and all the vacancies detail along the lines of 'impeccable presentation or takes pride in their appearance'
I've just turned 30, 5 ft4 am over 15 stone now (the heaviest i have ever been) and not worked for 2 years. I'm really letting my children down as we never have the money for nice things, to go out anywhere and do anything.
OH has suffered ill health quite drastically for the last 2 years and in this time he's also had mental health issues and developed a heavy drinking problem - whch i've noticed i'm drinking far to much aswell (although not ona scale where we are drinking during the day, or dependant etc!) Although mental health is no longer an issue, he is on top of the drinking and heis health is being treated we are no longer the fab couple we were! And sadly he's let the self employed business he set up fall apart (but then he didnt really have the option to be able to keep it going!) So thee we are having to claim benefits and i feel so ashamed and like scum....
Personally in my previous job i was well respected, bubbly, confident and loved my job (although not the hours!) something different everyday and was easy to chat to so many different people with different intersts, things to say etc! Now is sit indoors and the highlight of my week is grocery shopping :-(
I'm lost, i no longer know who i am! We moved last year and neither of us know anyone around here, because i'm not confident like i was i do not go out and about meeting people, and sadly i have no family to speak of so feel very alone (family aspect a long story, but i am better off without them - even if that means the only people i have in the world are oh and the kids, and his family i suppose!)
I don't know where to start, what to do and just want to cry and bury my head! I've seen so many people around crumple with depresion and i vow never to sink that low - i just need to pick me up and not sure how.
I don't even know why i'm blabbing on here.......