lynnwilliams
Silver Member
I started childminding 1 year ago.I looked after my niece since she was a baby. I helped my sister and her boyfriend out financially by not charging them full fee's.
Over the years me and my niece bonded. She did not like leaving me, and she loved being with me. My sisters boyfriend got kind of jealous about it and has never liked me because of this.
1 more niece on....
I looked after both of them (still helping them out financially(mug yes i am) as im not well off.
Anyway my eldest niece turned 21/2 they decided to put her in to nursery(probably because it was her boyfriends decision to part me and my niece(i am upset about this.Its like losing my own child (again).
Anyway i started charging full fee's this time with their youngest i mean i am trying to run a business and i only have the one child.
He has gone away to plymouth for the last 3 weeks and because littleone does not go to nursery on wednesdays and he usually has both girls, they asked me to have them.
When i told her what the charges will be she freaked. Her partner doews not help her out financially so she says he wont help her with childcare.
I said does she want me down for emergency contact because of the holidays first she said yes, then she said no, as they will take time off work to have her.
Now i have booked a week off for the 1st week of november as my man has booked that off work, and he has gone and taken a week off for his favourite child for half term, to spend a week with her, does he not realise he has two children.
She took a day off work and said rather than pay me she would rather take the day offf
Im so angry, and upset and feel so used all the help i have given her not just financially. I let her and the girls stay when her and her bloke had arguements.
Im actually going to give up childminding and work in a nursery because
1. I wont get used by parents
2. I wont have to worry about all this damn paperwork
3. I wont have to deal with my nin and tax and end of year tax forms which is killing me.
4. I WONT TO START THE NEW YEAR STRESS FREE AND A NEW STRONG ME WITH CONFIDENCE.
Here is my other load! This is the worst.
I had my daughter 16 years ago, i was a young 18 when i had her.
I had certain members of family that took over her at times, and spoilt her and tried bringing her up because i was so young.
Anyway
16 years on, she left school, and i had a few probs with her being a little 16 year old, with stealing from me, and finding a drug in her room, now she has always be good but just bad temper tantrums..lol
Last year me and my hubby had words with her because she was being a bit like a 16 year old lazy ect and it turned in to an arguement and my aunty took her in and said she is not coming back home. Anyway after phonecall from police and social services she came back home.
This time round she went to my aunty's sent me a nasty text saying she will have a better life with my nan and my aunty, and she is never coming back home. You can imagine how that felt, your only one child you have and family members took her away from me, and did not encourage to come back home at all, then they said ah we need to take her child benefit money(coz my aunty is like money, money money)
Anyway my daughter has not come back home i have been upset by this for a long time, i have to bottle it up inside. I used to think my family was so close and my family were great until this happened.
Sorry for the long typing i probably bored you all
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Over the years me and my niece bonded. She did not like leaving me, and she loved being with me. My sisters boyfriend got kind of jealous about it and has never liked me because of this.
1 more niece on....
I looked after both of them (still helping them out financially(mug yes i am) as im not well off.
Anyway my eldest niece turned 21/2 they decided to put her in to nursery(probably because it was her boyfriends decision to part me and my niece(i am upset about this.Its like losing my own child (again).
Anyway i started charging full fee's this time with their youngest i mean i am trying to run a business and i only have the one child.
He has gone away to plymouth for the last 3 weeks and because littleone does not go to nursery on wednesdays and he usually has both girls, they asked me to have them.
When i told her what the charges will be she freaked. Her partner doews not help her out financially so she says he wont help her with childcare.
I said does she want me down for emergency contact because of the holidays first she said yes, then she said no, as they will take time off work to have her.
Now i have booked a week off for the 1st week of november as my man has booked that off work, and he has gone and taken a week off for his favourite child for half term, to spend a week with her, does he not realise he has two children.
She took a day off work and said rather than pay me she would rather take the day offf
Im so angry, and upset and feel so used all the help i have given her not just financially. I let her and the girls stay when her and her bloke had arguements.
Im actually going to give up childminding and work in a nursery because
1. I wont get used by parents
2. I wont have to worry about all this damn paperwork
3. I wont have to deal with my nin and tax and end of year tax forms which is killing me.
4. I WONT TO START THE NEW YEAR STRESS FREE AND A NEW STRONG ME WITH CONFIDENCE.
Here is my other load! This is the worst.
I had my daughter 16 years ago, i was a young 18 when i had her.
I had certain members of family that took over her at times, and spoilt her and tried bringing her up because i was so young.
Anyway
16 years on, she left school, and i had a few probs with her being a little 16 year old, with stealing from me, and finding a drug in her room, now she has always be good but just bad temper tantrums..lol
Last year me and my hubby had words with her because she was being a bit like a 16 year old lazy ect and it turned in to an arguement and my aunty took her in and said she is not coming back home. Anyway after phonecall from police and social services she came back home.
This time round she went to my aunty's sent me a nasty text saying she will have a better life with my nan and my aunty, and she is never coming back home. You can imagine how that felt, your only one child you have and family members took her away from me, and did not encourage to come back home at all, then they said ah we need to take her child benefit money(coz my aunty is like money, money money)
Anyway my daughter has not come back home i have been upset by this for a long time, i have to bottle it up inside. I used to think my family was so close and my family were great until this happened.
Sorry for the long typing i probably bored you all
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