big bear
A bear on a mission!
Ok, H works nights he starts at 12am & finishes at 8am. He gets home about 8.20am has dinner & goes to bed at 9am. He sleeps all day only getting up maybe at lunchtime for an hour & goes back to bed till 10pm.
As most of you know we've got a 2year old boy & 3month old girl. I get up anywhere between 6am - 7.30am as this is when my son wakes up. I obviously get his breakfast then my daughter normally wakes up for a feed so I feed, changed her etc. Then i usually get my son dressed. I play with him, draw, read etc in between tidying up, doing the washing, dishes etc & on the computer in between when I get time.
I then do my son some lunch & feed the baby again about 12.30. My son then goes down for a couple of hours nap in the afternoon, gets up about 3pm & then plays, feeds etc till his bedtime at 8pm. The baby is also fed & usually goes asleep around the same time. The I've got a little bit of time on my own but normally do things I can't do when my son is around. I get H up at 10pm make his lunch etc & then go to bed myself roughly between 11pm-12. My daughter wakes at 2am for another feed, change etc I then get back to sleep up again at 6am & the cycle continues.
I'm completely exhausted, i understand I'm a mother of 2 & it's my job but I think my H is being selfish for just sleeping all day. he thinks because he's the one he goes to work I should do everything else. I tried to have a sleep this afternoon when both kids were asleep & he woke me up because the baby was crying. Why the hell couldn't he see to her? Then my son woke up & instead of saying you have an hours sleep I'll get up with the kids he went back to bed after sleeping all morning.
I understand he's working & I shouldn't be a moany cow as we're lucky he has a job but sometimes it just gets too much for me. I've so much admiration to single parents how on earth they cope I don't know they are amazing in my eyes.
Both the kids have had colds/coughs this week which is making things harder.
I'm really angry right now & finding myself being snappy & shouting at the wee ones which i know is so unfair. My son is going through terrible 2's as well...
I had depression when I went back to work when my son was 1 & now I feel as if I'm going to break down again but all H says is I'm working, at least I'm bringing in money to pay the bills.
I feel a little better for getting it out.
Am I being really unreasonable here or should H get up for some time in the afternoon to play with the kids & give me a little break?
As most of you know we've got a 2year old boy & 3month old girl. I get up anywhere between 6am - 7.30am as this is when my son wakes up. I obviously get his breakfast then my daughter normally wakes up for a feed so I feed, changed her etc. Then i usually get my son dressed. I play with him, draw, read etc in between tidying up, doing the washing, dishes etc & on the computer in between when I get time.
I then do my son some lunch & feed the baby again about 12.30. My son then goes down for a couple of hours nap in the afternoon, gets up about 3pm & then plays, feeds etc till his bedtime at 8pm. The baby is also fed & usually goes asleep around the same time. The I've got a little bit of time on my own but normally do things I can't do when my son is around. I get H up at 10pm make his lunch etc & then go to bed myself roughly between 11pm-12. My daughter wakes at 2am for another feed, change etc I then get back to sleep up again at 6am & the cycle continues.
I'm completely exhausted, i understand I'm a mother of 2 & it's my job but I think my H is being selfish for just sleeping all day. he thinks because he's the one he goes to work I should do everything else. I tried to have a sleep this afternoon when both kids were asleep & he woke me up because the baby was crying. Why the hell couldn't he see to her? Then my son woke up & instead of saying you have an hours sleep I'll get up with the kids he went back to bed after sleeping all morning.
I understand he's working & I shouldn't be a moany cow as we're lucky he has a job but sometimes it just gets too much for me. I've so much admiration to single parents how on earth they cope I don't know they are amazing in my eyes.
Both the kids have had colds/coughs this week which is making things harder.
I'm really angry right now & finding myself being snappy & shouting at the wee ones which i know is so unfair. My son is going through terrible 2's as well...
I had depression when I went back to work when my son was 1 & now I feel as if I'm going to break down again but all H says is I'm working, at least I'm bringing in money to pay the bills.
I feel a little better for getting it out.
Am I being really unreasonable here or should H get up for some time in the afternoon to play with the kids & give me a little break?