Seraphine
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MIL = Mother in Law
I love her dearly, but she just. doesn't. get. it.
In February, I went with her and my SIL to Scottish Slimmers. I did okay with it (because I didn't cheat) but was hungry all the time. I thought it would be easier if we were all on the same plan as we share family meals up to twice a week, but eventually when I moved back to Atkins, the two of them just can't quite figure out why I'm losing weight and they aren't.
They both cheat like crazy on their diets - always having that "little something". My BIL (SIL's husband) is quite snide about it - he tells them that they can give him £5 a week and he can tell them they are fat, and they won't have to go to the meetings anymore. They both lose and gain the same stone back and forth - this has been going on for years.
Yesterday, my MIL said to me: "so it's Atkins you are on, right?"
Me: Yes, lots of meat, lots of green veg, no sugar, no wheat.
MIL: You did that years ago, and you put all the weight back on! It can't be good for you!
Me: Well, I did have two babies since I did it the first time, plus I cultivated a serious chocolate problem. I didn't just get fat overnight!
MIL: You've done well to get it off, but I hope it doesn't all go back on. I still don't know how you can keep up the will power.
Me: I'm just not hungry all the time anymore. I found something that works for me, even though it might not work for everyone. :slap:
So they understand I can't eat potatoes, and that I don't eat bread. That part they seem to have gotten through their heads(although they still offer them incessantly - "how could one or two chips hurt?") But they don't understand why I can't eat carrots, low fat yogurt, diet crisps, lite salad cream (yuck!) or any of the Scottish Slimmers cookies and crap they bring home from meetings. I told them so many times - it's not the fat, it's the sugar!
But I can handle myself. Last night was a roast beef dinner at their house (my husband is away for a few weeks, and they like to have us round so we don't get too lonely). I had roast beef (lots) and brussel sprouts, and a little gravy. I skipped the bread, yorkshire puddings, steamed carrots and roast potatoes. And dessert. My mother in law kept saying, "but you aren't eating anything!" But I was fine! I don't have a huge appetite now anyway.
And they just couldn't understand how I could pass up dessert. I told them I could eat something like strawberries and cream, but nothing like pavlova or chocolate cake like they were eating. I actually said that losing weight felt better than eating it.
Last night I showed them some labels - one of their little low fat puddings had 30g of carbs in it! That's more than I eat in a day!
I guess the one thing that bugs me about them is that "low fat = healthy", even for the children. She tried to give my 17 month old daughter a chocolate mousse yesterday, telling me, "it's okay, it's a low fat one". I told her that it didn't matter if it was low-fat or not... in fact, I'd rather her have the full fat versions of anything! She doesn't need all that toxic, sugary, fake food garbage - give her real cream, full fat milk, butter, good meat and veg. Don't get her started on Quavers and diet yogurts!
And thankfully, my daughter turned her nose up at the mousse... good girl! (and she normally eats anything offered to her).
Sorry for the vent. I know I'm right, but I can't get anyone in my family to understand that! (and am trying not to come off as a know-it-all).
I love her dearly, but she just. doesn't. get. it.
In February, I went with her and my SIL to Scottish Slimmers. I did okay with it (because I didn't cheat) but was hungry all the time. I thought it would be easier if we were all on the same plan as we share family meals up to twice a week, but eventually when I moved back to Atkins, the two of them just can't quite figure out why I'm losing weight and they aren't.
They both cheat like crazy on their diets - always having that "little something". My BIL (SIL's husband) is quite snide about it - he tells them that they can give him £5 a week and he can tell them they are fat, and they won't have to go to the meetings anymore. They both lose and gain the same stone back and forth - this has been going on for years.
Yesterday, my MIL said to me: "so it's Atkins you are on, right?"
Me: Yes, lots of meat, lots of green veg, no sugar, no wheat.
MIL: You did that years ago, and you put all the weight back on! It can't be good for you!
Me: Well, I did have two babies since I did it the first time, plus I cultivated a serious chocolate problem. I didn't just get fat overnight!
MIL: You've done well to get it off, but I hope it doesn't all go back on. I still don't know how you can keep up the will power.
Me: I'm just not hungry all the time anymore. I found something that works for me, even though it might not work for everyone. :slap:
So they understand I can't eat potatoes, and that I don't eat bread. That part they seem to have gotten through their heads(although they still offer them incessantly - "how could one or two chips hurt?") But they don't understand why I can't eat carrots, low fat yogurt, diet crisps, lite salad cream (yuck!) or any of the Scottish Slimmers cookies and crap they bring home from meetings. I told them so many times - it's not the fat, it's the sugar!
But I can handle myself. Last night was a roast beef dinner at their house (my husband is away for a few weeks, and they like to have us round so we don't get too lonely). I had roast beef (lots) and brussel sprouts, and a little gravy. I skipped the bread, yorkshire puddings, steamed carrots and roast potatoes. And dessert. My mother in law kept saying, "but you aren't eating anything!" But I was fine! I don't have a huge appetite now anyway.
And they just couldn't understand how I could pass up dessert. I told them I could eat something like strawberries and cream, but nothing like pavlova or chocolate cake like they were eating. I actually said that losing weight felt better than eating it.
Last night I showed them some labels - one of their little low fat puddings had 30g of carbs in it! That's more than I eat in a day!
I guess the one thing that bugs me about them is that "low fat = healthy", even for the children. She tried to give my 17 month old daughter a chocolate mousse yesterday, telling me, "it's okay, it's a low fat one". I told her that it didn't matter if it was low-fat or not... in fact, I'd rather her have the full fat versions of anything! She doesn't need all that toxic, sugary, fake food garbage - give her real cream, full fat milk, butter, good meat and veg. Don't get her started on Quavers and diet yogurts!
And thankfully, my daughter turned her nose up at the mousse... good girl! (and she normally eats anything offered to her).
Sorry for the vent. I know I'm right, but I can't get anyone in my family to understand that! (and am trying not to come off as a know-it-all).