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Need some help please

I am a 29 year old male, I have had weight issues all my life, and no matter what I do, I can't lose weight. I have social anxiety disorder, so I don't get out much to be active. I do have a exercise bike, but have got lazy and not been using it. I am also notorious at binge eating, and this has been the main cause of weight gain.

I just can't get my head around healthy eating. I did Slimfast about 2 years ago and lost 3 stone, everyone was so proud of me, but it was torture lol. I went to a birthday party, and ate 1 burger, and it totally ruined my 3 months as I resorted to eating **** again. I have been on and off Slimming World like a yo yo, and keep going back to eating junk! I think it is comfort eating as I am also pretty depressed.

I was doing Slimfast with my ister so it became competitive, and thats what drove my success. But I have nobody to diet with anymore, and there is nobody to support me, or egg me on to do well!

I just don't know what diet to do, I am above 19 stone now, and I really want to be 15 stone it would be a dream. I have a months worth of Slimfast in but I go so hungry on that diet! But I am scared I will fail again on Slimming World, but that seems the better option. Is there an inbetween diet? or can anyone offer me some advice how I can sort my life out? My weight has become such an issue it is destroying my life and everything around me.
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S: 15st0lb C: 15st0lb G: 9st4lb BMI: 37.2 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
Hi Nightwolf and welcome to the site :) You'll find lot's of support on this website, it's helped me a lot!

What day do you weigh in? There's lots of groups to "report in" to and places to set challenges, helps me keep on track! I weigh in on a friday, with the Friday Girls, but we have a couple of guys there too, and you're welcome to post with us if you weigh in on fridays too.

Have you found the Slimming World subforums too? If you want help with sticking to that plan I'm sure they can support you whereever you need it. (Sorry I can't be of more help with that - I'm calorie counting so don't know enough about the plan).

Don't worry about failing either, one little blip doesn't mean you have failed, just pick up from where you left off. You've lost weight before so you know you can do it!

Good Luck!


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S: 19st7lb C: 18st12lb G: 14st4lb BMI: 36.8 Loss: 0st9lb(3.3%)
hi nightwolf, think you will find lots of support here too. i myself am about 19st and would love to be 15 too so maybe i can egg you on? i'm trying to do it without changing my diet too drastically and exercising much more but if you go with the slimming world i'm sure you can get support here for that. think positive and set yourself small goals. i'm going for 1-2 lbs a week:)
S: 12st6lb C: 11st8lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 26.1 Loss: 0st12lb(6.9%)
Hi Nightwolf - if one of your problems is that you feel hungry while you're dieting, I've heard that diets that induce ketosis like the Cambridge Diet and the Atkins Diet don't leave you feeling hungry. These are low-carb diets that make your body burn fat. I've never tried these as I prefer to try and just eat more healthily, but different things work for different people. It might be worth looking on the Cambridge Diet and Atkins Diet forums here to get more info. You could also try doing a search for 'ketosis'. Best of luck anyway with whatever you try. Also, are you getting any help with the social anxiety disorder? To me this sounds like a really bad thing to have, worse than being a few stone overweight.


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S: 19st7lb C: 18st12lb G: 14st4lb BMI: 36.8 Loss: 0st9lb(3.3%)
Hey breadbin, if you need help to let me know we can support each other lol.
yeah no worries:)

i find its not the hunger that drives me to eat:( i get a sudden flash of something nice i saw earlier and i can't not eat it. its like homer simpson:) it starts with just a quick flash of something and then, i'm thinking of how good it will taste and all that and ends most of the time with me eating it and then feeling guilty bout it. although that bits not like homer at all;)

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