kellymundy
Gold Member
I've posted this on a different forum to but I really value your opinions guys:
My husband had just gone the his cousins daughters christening this morning taking our daughter with him. I have refused to go because my SIL will be there.
(back story) 2 years ago said SIL decided that she didn't like me telling her then 10 year old child not to scream at my daughter (then 7) just because she didn't like her winning on a computer game. Her child then started yelling at me telling me if I didn't mind my own business 'you know what I'll do', to which I sarcastically answered (in hindsight maybe slightly wrong) 'you'll go off and sulk as normal until you get what you want'. SIL didn't like this response and decided not only did I need a good swearing at session I also needed to be pinned against the wall by my throat infront of both my kids and hers (lovely family my husband has!).
Since then I have refused to be in the same room as a woman who I feel physically threatened by and am obviously very uncomfortable with my child being near her. I would let this go if she would just apologise but from my understanding she still believes what she did was right and I was the one out of order so that's never going to happen.
The problem I have is that when my MIL invites us to family functions I tell her I will go as long as SIL is not going, which she always is. My BIL doesn't like to be told his wife can't come to things, which I do understand, especially as he wasn't there when the original arguement happened, so he refuses to come without her, again I do understand this. My problem is that I don't understand why my husband, who quite readily admits she was the one completely in the wrong (he was there and got her off of me), will go to these things without me!
I know it's his family and he wants to see them and be included, but I feel very agrieved (sp?) that his brother stands by his wife even though he knows it probably was her fault (not her first physical assult on someone!!!) yet my husband doesn't seem to care about how I feel.:cry::cry::cry:
Sorry I know I'm waffling on at you guys but I really needed to get this all off my chest.
My husband had just gone the his cousins daughters christening this morning taking our daughter with him. I have refused to go because my SIL will be there.
(back story) 2 years ago said SIL decided that she didn't like me telling her then 10 year old child not to scream at my daughter (then 7) just because she didn't like her winning on a computer game. Her child then started yelling at me telling me if I didn't mind my own business 'you know what I'll do', to which I sarcastically answered (in hindsight maybe slightly wrong) 'you'll go off and sulk as normal until you get what you want'. SIL didn't like this response and decided not only did I need a good swearing at session I also needed to be pinned against the wall by my throat infront of both my kids and hers (lovely family my husband has!).
Since then I have refused to be in the same room as a woman who I feel physically threatened by and am obviously very uncomfortable with my child being near her. I would let this go if she would just apologise but from my understanding she still believes what she did was right and I was the one out of order so that's never going to happen.
The problem I have is that when my MIL invites us to family functions I tell her I will go as long as SIL is not going, which she always is. My BIL doesn't like to be told his wife can't come to things, which I do understand, especially as he wasn't there when the original arguement happened, so he refuses to come without her, again I do understand this. My problem is that I don't understand why my husband, who quite readily admits she was the one completely in the wrong (he was there and got her off of me), will go to these things without me!
I know it's his family and he wants to see them and be included, but I feel very agrieved (sp?) that his brother stands by his wife even though he knows it probably was her fault (not her first physical assult on someone!!!) yet my husband doesn't seem to care about how I feel.:cry::cry::cry:
Sorry I know I'm waffling on at you guys but I really needed to get this all off my chest.