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  1. sim94

    sim94 Cambridge Diet Counsellor

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    Hi All,

    Sadly my Dad didn't make it and died before I could get to Barbados.

    I've been in Barbados for the past 3 week arranging his funeral and sort some on things out.

    When I got to Barbados I felt lost without my Dad and but had my 17 year old daughter for support. I did have other members of the my dad's side of the family but they were busy fighting and blaming each other.

    I feel like I'll never get over this and as an affect my weight has suffered badly. While he was in a coma the weight fell off me as I couldn't eat. Now I've gone to another extreme and know I need to gain control of my eating.

    I only have limited access to the net at the moment as I was offered a new flat hours before my dad died ( Friday 22nd June) and had to be out of my old flat by the following Monday. I only spent 2 nights in my new then to fly to Barbados on the Wednesday, so no time to get internet put on. Using my mum's at the moment.
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  3. sonkie

    sonkie Gold Member

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    Awwwww hun I am so sorry, I know how you feel too, I never made it to see my mum before she died. You dont need the hassle of dieting at this time, you must wait until you have given yourself time to grieve properly.

    Thinking of you hun .....take care xx
     
  4. KD

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    Awww, so sorry to hear your bad news :(
     
  5. Karen

    Karen Serial Foodie!

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    sim, Im so sorry u couldnt be there in time but im sure he knows u love him and u did ur best. he'd be proud he has a daughter that would race to be there for him. i agree about the weight. be aware of it but u have bigger fish to fry right now. xxxxxx
     
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    Hi Sim,

    I am so sorry about your dad and that you did not arrive in time.

    When my dad died I was totally lost for a long time. Do not worry about your weight too much you must first deal with your grief and you have your daughter and mum to help you.

    When the time is right your focus will return.

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  7. sim94

    sim94 Cambridge Diet Counsellor

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    Hi Karen,

    One thing that comforts me is that I spoke to my Dad about 6 weeks before he died and he alway ended by saying you know I love you all.

    Though my mum and dad hadn't been together since I was about 8 year old he would also say tell your mother I still love her :), she was the love of his life and I know she still had feelings for him (they were still good friends).
     
  8. sophia-jo

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    sim, I'm so very sorry to hear your devastating news.
    We are all thinking of you. Lots of warm hugs and well wishes to you sweetheart. xxx
     
  9. Mini

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    Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your Beloved Dad.

    Sending prayers and hugs your way.

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    Sending hugs to you and your family.

    Hope you settle into your new home soon

    xxxx
     
  11. Nessa

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    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I'm sure your dad is proud of you.
     
  12. Debz

    Debz Cambridge Counsellor

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. Take some time for yourself. I took about a year off from watching my weight when my Mum died and yes put on a bit of weight, but you can't do everything all in one go.
     
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    Sim....

    So sorry to hear about your father's death...I found out today that a good friend of mine lost her brother yesterday after he lapsed into a diabetic coma on Saturday...

    My sympathies to you and your family...
     
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    Russiandoll Carpe diem

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    I'm really sorry to hear your news xx
     
  16. Mrs Depp

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    I'm so sorry to hear your Dad died Sim. Sending you hugs lovie.

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    Just wanted to say, thoughts are with you at this time.
    Look after yourself.
     
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    I'd only be repeating everyone else if I was to say anything right now.

    Just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts.

    All the best sim, I'm so sorry xx
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad.
    My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family.
     
  21. JodieJoJo

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    So sorry to hear about your Dad. I lost my Dad nearly a year ago so i really feel for you.

    It sounds like he was a lovely man, always saying he loved you at the end of your calls.

    I turned to food (as i always have done during difficult times) but when i started to feel stronger i decided to do something about it.

    Go with your feelings, dont worry about food for now, you will know when the time is right for you to focus again.

    My thoughts are with you and your family.
    xx
     
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    Oh Sim - I am so sorry to hear about your Dad - You are in my thoughts and prayers xx
     
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