donna88
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Going to try and cut a long story short but really want to get all the information in as well.
My little boy goes to a school nursery, he has a best friend there who a few months ago he was inseparable from he's better now and does play with other boys and girls but they still play a lot together and talk about each other loads at school.
Anyway a while ago another boy started playing with his friend, my little boy didn't like it and they had a few arguments over it.
One day I picked up my little one and the other boy and his mum were behind us, as we were walking she said ''has anyone been spiteful to you today?'' he said no, but another mum said ''is someone being horrible to him?'' she then whispered something and as I turned around I could swear she was gesturing towards my little boy.
That obviously really upset me, one I was shocked that she would call any 3 or 4 year old spiteful, but also I didn't like how it appeared she was slagging my little one off to other mums. I spoke to the teachers the next day, I didn't give names but I asked if he was having any problems being nasty to any of the children, I told them I'd overheard one of the mums saying something. They did say he had hit someone the other day and he'd been told off for it, but they asked if it was a little boy or little girls mum and when I said boy they were shocked and said no it was a little girl and they'd not had problems before that incident or after but that they'd make sure they'd tell me if anything happened again.
Anyway since then my little one has played fine with the other little boy, when I drop them off in the morning they talk to each other and run around and play. He wants to invite him to his Birthday party, which up until this week I was happy about.
The other day I dropped him off, he was talking to that little boy again but when they went inside his mum dragged him off, my little one took his coat off as normal and went off to find the little boy, he then asked if he wanted to be his friend today, to which the little boy replied ''you pick on me'' he repeated this a couple of times and walked off leaving my little one in tears. I cuddled him and told him not to worry about it, when his ''best'' friend walked in the started playing together and I said goodbye gave him a kiss and told him not to let anyone upset him, to which I got his usual reply ''why?''
I really don't know what to do though, I'm pretty positive that this little boys mum is saying things about my boy and telling her little one not to play with him, if I tell mine not to play with him as well, he will ask why? he'll also get upset, so I could tell him not to play with him but then what do I say when he asked why?
Should I speak to his teachers? The only thing with that is there isn't really much they can do can they? plus I've never actually heard her say anything directly about my little one even though its clear to me that's what she's doing!
Or do I just leave it, luckily (I feel horrible saying this as he's a lovely little one) the other little boy isn't staying at that school, so its only going to be a problem until the 6 weeks holidays, do I just leave it and not invite him to my little ones party (we're having it at home so I can't invite the whole class anyway so it won't be like he's being singled out) but how do I explain not inviting him to my boy?
Then of course there's the other option of speaking to his mum, but I have no idea what I'd say. Plus I'm bad at things like that, I went round to my neighbours the other night to ask them to turn their music down and I was shaking by the time they answered the door :/
I just don't understand how an adult can be so against a child, at the beginning of the year another little one hit my little boy a couple of times, so I told him not to play with him. But then my little one started saying how that little boy was bad, he even walked off a couple of times when the little boy started playing with something he was playing with, saying he's a bad boy. So I had words with him and told him he wasn't bad and that its wrong to treat him like that, I encouraged him to play with him...unless he hit him again, and told him that he wasn't to tell that little one or any others that he was a bad boy.
My little boy goes to a school nursery, he has a best friend there who a few months ago he was inseparable from he's better now and does play with other boys and girls but they still play a lot together and talk about each other loads at school.
Anyway a while ago another boy started playing with his friend, my little boy didn't like it and they had a few arguments over it.
One day I picked up my little one and the other boy and his mum were behind us, as we were walking she said ''has anyone been spiteful to you today?'' he said no, but another mum said ''is someone being horrible to him?'' she then whispered something and as I turned around I could swear she was gesturing towards my little boy.
That obviously really upset me, one I was shocked that she would call any 3 or 4 year old spiteful, but also I didn't like how it appeared she was slagging my little one off to other mums. I spoke to the teachers the next day, I didn't give names but I asked if he was having any problems being nasty to any of the children, I told them I'd overheard one of the mums saying something. They did say he had hit someone the other day and he'd been told off for it, but they asked if it was a little boy or little girls mum and when I said boy they were shocked and said no it was a little girl and they'd not had problems before that incident or after but that they'd make sure they'd tell me if anything happened again.
Anyway since then my little one has played fine with the other little boy, when I drop them off in the morning they talk to each other and run around and play. He wants to invite him to his Birthday party, which up until this week I was happy about.
The other day I dropped him off, he was talking to that little boy again but when they went inside his mum dragged him off, my little one took his coat off as normal and went off to find the little boy, he then asked if he wanted to be his friend today, to which the little boy replied ''you pick on me'' he repeated this a couple of times and walked off leaving my little one in tears. I cuddled him and told him not to worry about it, when his ''best'' friend walked in the started playing together and I said goodbye gave him a kiss and told him not to let anyone upset him, to which I got his usual reply ''why?''
I really don't know what to do though, I'm pretty positive that this little boys mum is saying things about my boy and telling her little one not to play with him, if I tell mine not to play with him as well, he will ask why? he'll also get upset, so I could tell him not to play with him but then what do I say when he asked why?
Should I speak to his teachers? The only thing with that is there isn't really much they can do can they? plus I've never actually heard her say anything directly about my little one even though its clear to me that's what she's doing!
Or do I just leave it, luckily (I feel horrible saying this as he's a lovely little one) the other little boy isn't staying at that school, so its only going to be a problem until the 6 weeks holidays, do I just leave it and not invite him to my little ones party (we're having it at home so I can't invite the whole class anyway so it won't be like he's being singled out) but how do I explain not inviting him to my boy?
Then of course there's the other option of speaking to his mum, but I have no idea what I'd say. Plus I'm bad at things like that, I went round to my neighbours the other night to ask them to turn their music down and I was shaking by the time they answered the door :/
I just don't understand how an adult can be so against a child, at the beginning of the year another little one hit my little boy a couple of times, so I told him not to play with him. But then my little one started saying how that little boy was bad, he even walked off a couple of times when the little boy started playing with something he was playing with, saying he's a bad boy. So I had words with him and told him he wasn't bad and that its wrong to treat him like that, I encouraged him to play with him...unless he hit him again, and told him that he wasn't to tell that little one or any others that he was a bad boy.
