Roziee
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Damn right! Hehehe xxx
Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
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Damn right! Hehehe xxx
cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
Thanks Rozziee that'd be great
Have you started trying yet or getting ready to? xx
I'm the same weight as you.
I'm losing weight to have babies.
Lets buddy up and get the weight shifted. And when we're at target you can go back to the fertility clinic and have a baby
Xxx
Thanks Rozziee that'd be great
Have you started trying yet or getting ready to? xx
Roziee
Gold Member
Thanks Rozziee that'd be great
I haven't started trying because I am petrified to get pregnant at this weight. Women normally put on 2 stones... I'm so uncomfortable now, with a baby inside me I don't even want to imagine what that's going to be like lol
So weight loss first, then babies ^.^
We owe it to our body to look after it... You can do this. I promise you x
fillymum
synful soul
Right on Roziee. You to are going to be so good for each other and I am going to be a cyber granny twice over.
hugs xxxx
Roziee
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Lol bless you fillymum... Xxx
Pebblesx
Silver Member
Hi cheraus
i can't begin to imagine how you are feeling, I have been ttc since January, fell pregnant in April but had a miscarriage. I feel like my body has betrayed me and there is not a day that I don't think about it. To me it feels like a lifetime and has not yet even been a year.
my attitude is that everything happens for a reason, and you only live once, so enjoy this time with your partner (as much as you can) in this situation as when that baby comes you will not have that alone time for another 18 yrs! (And that baby WILL come!)
i know it's easier said thn done but stressing out really does not help!
i also suffer from depression, my doctors aren't very supportive, I have had it for about 6 years and about 4major spouts of it. All my doctor has said is "I cannot suggest anything as you are under 25". Apparently they are not allowed to prescribe antidepressants to anyone under the age of 25 - why I don't know and will never understand! I literally was planning ways I could kill myself and had to beg my gp to give me something to calm me down cos I could feel ok for a while, then I would think of something and it would set me off. He gave me a weeks supply of diazepam, told me take one in the morning and one at night, he also said that my biggest problem is anxiety.
When I lost my baby I was terrified I would go back into depression and that at the time was bothering me more! But my mum really helped - she explained that there was chromosomal problems with the baby and it was best it died than live in pain or with a disability and strangely it helped me cope!
you will get your baby you have always dreamed off, whether it be by ivf or a miracle! Just keep your head up high and try and stay as positive as you possibly can
hth
xx
i can't begin to imagine how you are feeling, I have been ttc since January, fell pregnant in April but had a miscarriage. I feel like my body has betrayed me and there is not a day that I don't think about it. To me it feels like a lifetime and has not yet even been a year.
my attitude is that everything happens for a reason, and you only live once, so enjoy this time with your partner (as much as you can) in this situation as when that baby comes you will not have that alone time for another 18 yrs! (And that baby WILL come!)
i know it's easier said thn done but stressing out really does not help!
i also suffer from depression, my doctors aren't very supportive, I have had it for about 6 years and about 4major spouts of it. All my doctor has said is "I cannot suggest anything as you are under 25". Apparently they are not allowed to prescribe antidepressants to anyone under the age of 25 - why I don't know and will never understand! I literally was planning ways I could kill myself and had to beg my gp to give me something to calm me down cos I could feel ok for a while, then I would think of something and it would set me off. He gave me a weeks supply of diazepam, told me take one in the morning and one at night, he also said that my biggest problem is anxiety.
When I lost my baby I was terrified I would go back into depression and that at the time was bothering me more! But my mum really helped - she explained that there was chromosomal problems with the baby and it was best it died than live in pain or with a disability and strangely it helped me cope!
you will get your baby you have always dreamed off, whether it be by ivf or a miracle! Just keep your head up high and try and stay as positive as you possibly can
hth
xx
sassyuk
Member
im sorry to hear this
try and look at this in a positive way, they now know what is wrong and they can help you. this happened to a mate of mine and while she was waiting for the IVF she fell pregnant so dont ponde on it too much. you will both need to take fertility drugs when having IVF and IVF now has a better success rate than before.
focus on SW, look after yourself. you can do this!
. i will cheer you on every 1lb of the way!]((((hugs))) xxx
sassyuk
Member
Hi Pebbles
I cant believe your dr wont give you antidepressants! I have been on them since I was 13 (on and off) and I have no clue where I would be now if it wasent for them. Usually they are more reluctant to give out Diazepam than antidepressants so thats really strange. There is a slightly higher suicide rate in under 25's but the benefit out weighs the risk. I really would go and get a second opinion, or move GP practice. Because that sounds really off. Have you tried any CBT or counselling? I know thats helped me out a bit.
I cant believe your dr wont give you antidepressants! I have been on them since I was 13 (on and off) and I have no clue where I would be now if it wasent for them. Usually they are more reluctant to give out Diazepam than antidepressants so thats really strange. There is a slightly higher suicide rate in under 25's but the benefit out weighs the risk. I really would go and get a second opinion, or move GP practice. Because that sounds really off. Have you tried any CBT or counselling? I know thats helped me out a bit.
Pebblesx
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Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
I had one session of counselling and although it helped a little it wasn't like I was expecting and don't feel it would have helped in anyway.
At the moment I feel fine so I don't feel the need to get another opinion. I did actually ask the secretary to give me an appointment with a different doctor and he said the same thing as the first.
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Pebbles xx
I had one session of counselling and although it helped a little it wasn't like I was expecting and don't feel it would have helped in anyway.
At the moment I feel fine so I don't feel the need to get another opinion. I did actually ask the secretary to give me an appointment with a different doctor and he said the same thing as the first.
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cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
Thanks again for your kind words everyone. We both break up tomorrow for 2 weeks thankfully so when we get back from our short break in Newquay I'm going to see the doctor to see if he can give me anything for my moods seeing as I won't be conceiving any time soon. Hopefully if my head feels better the weight will come off easier.
Thanks again for your kind words everyone. We both break up tomorrow for 2 weeks thankfully so when we get back from our short break in Newquay I'm going to see the doctor to see if he can give me anything for my moods seeing as I won't be conceiving any time soon. Hopefully if my head feels better the weight will come off easier.
cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
Hi Pebbles I'm really sorry for your loss. I understand your comment about it feeling like a lifetime- I'm struggling to remember how it felt to not have this cloud hanging over us.
I hope you get the help you need for your depression, it's ridiculous that they won't give you anything until you're at your absolute lowest. I think some of these doctors must have no life experience whatsoever x
Hi Pebbles I'm really sorry for your loss. I understand your comment about it feeling like a lifetime- I'm struggling to remember how it felt to not have this cloud hanging over us.
I hope you get the help you need for your depression, it's ridiculous that they won't give you anything until you're at your absolute lowest. I think some of these doctors must have no life experience whatsoever x
heather_85
Silver Member
I am having the same problems and in may we got told my husbands count was the same and we would need IVF. He had to take samples to be frozen and on our follow up appointment we were told that his count was actually ok now and no reason why we couldn't conceive!! It just goes to show that they do get it wrong sometimes. Got a letter this week saying the NHS won't pay for treatment as my husband has children. How that's fair on me ill never know!!! So praying for natural conception! If your head isn't in the right place diets won't work no matter which you do. Why not try relaxing until your in a better frame of mind? You will soon stop craving once it isn't 'forbidden'. Chin up and stay positive
fillymum
synful soul
I am having the same problems and in may we got told my husbands count was the same and we would need IVF. He had to take samples to be frozen and on our follow up appointment we were told that his count was actually ok now and no reason why we couldn't conceive!! It just goes to show that they do get it wrong sometimes. Got a letter this week saying the NHS won't pay for treatment as my husband has children. How that's fair on me ill never know!!! So praying for natural conception! If your head isn't in the right place diets won't work no matter which you do. Why not try relaxing until your in a better frame of mind? You will soon stop craving once it isn't 'forbidden'. Chin up and stay positive
Nice, sensible reply. I do hope she sees it. You sound a very positive person. I wish you all the very best and a baby as soon as possible.
cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
Hi Rozziee sorry for delayed response we've been away to the seaside for a break! I'll dm you my email. Hope you're ok x
Hi Rozziee sorry for delayed response we've been away to the seaside for a break! I'll dm you my email. Hope you're ok x
cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
Hi Heather thanks for your post, this is encouraging! I've read a few people say this so hopefully it will be the case for us! Now we're back from holiday we're going to start planning our meals again so we're both eating well and he's going to take some extra vitamins and knock the smoking on the head for good so if he's not producing hopefully this will make a difference or if there is a blockage we at least stand a better chance of success when we can have IVF if his sperm are as healthy as possible.
It's so cruel that they can say you can't have IVF on the NHS on the basis of your husband already having children. I remember on our first appointment at the clinic we were asked about other children and even how long we had been together. I hate the feeling we are being judged as to whether we are worthy of becoming parents!
I really hope you and your husband are blessed with your own child very soon x
I am having the same problems and in may we got told my husbands count was the same and we would need IVF. He had to take samples to be frozen and on our follow up appointment we were told that his count was actually ok now and no reason why we couldn't conceive!! It just goes to show that they do get it wrong sometimes. Got a letter this week saying the NHS won't pay for treatment as my husband has children. How that's fair on me ill never know!!! So praying for natural conception! If your head isn't in the right place diets won't work no matter which you do. Why not try relaxing until your in a better frame of mind? You will soon stop craving once it isn't 'forbidden'. Chin up and stay positive
Hi Heather thanks for your post, this is encouraging! I've read a few people say this so hopefully it will be the case for us! Now we're back from holiday we're going to start planning our meals again so we're both eating well and he's going to take some extra vitamins and knock the smoking on the head for good so if he's not producing hopefully this will make a difference or if there is a blockage we at least stand a better chance of success when we can have IVF if his sperm are as healthy as possible.
It's so cruel that they can say you can't have IVF on the NHS on the basis of your husband already having children. I remember on our first appointment at the clinic we were asked about other children and even how long we had been together. I hate the feeling we are being judged as to whether we are worthy of becoming parents!
I really hope you and your husband are blessed with your own child very soon x
heather_85
Silver Member
It sounds really crude (but its nature!) the reason f the poor result is because he hadnt let the count build up enough. The consultant said to wait from end of period until ovulating and then have intercourse as the Count will be high. I can't wait that long but worth a go if your really at wits end!
cheraus
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Re: Over 3 yrs trying for a baby, getting fatter & depressed as hell
It's really hard to know what to do for the best isn't it?! They usually say to do the baby dance every other day but a guy on the infertility network said he went in to see if he could produce anything for their IVF cycle but it was zero, then was told to give another sample just over an hour after the first one and there was sperm yet for others like your fella they have to hold off for longer! It amazes me that so many people can just make a baby with no thought or real effort and how these 'accidental' pregnancies happen is beyond me! x
It's really hard to know what to do for the best isn't it?! They usually say to do the baby dance every other day but a guy on the infertility network said he went in to see if he could produce anything for their IVF cycle but it was zero, then was told to give another sample just over an hour after the first one and there was sperm yet for others like your fella they have to hold off for longer! It amazes me that so many people can just make a baby with no thought or real effort and how these 'accidental' pregnancies happen is beyond me!
x
fillymum
synful soul
It amazes me that so many people can just make a baby with no thought or real effort and how these 'accidental' pregnancies happen is beyond me!
Unfortunately so many do that shouldn't and lovely, genuine folks like yourselves have such a hard time to have a baby that would be treasured, loved and oh so wanted.
Good luck.
heather_85
Silver Member
I know my cousin has had 3 'accidents' and my friend got accidently pregnant with someone she only had sex with once a fortnight! Ideally I need a permanent job and a new house before I have a baby so I'm not too desperate yet but glad I got the ball rolling!
