Should I change group?

Discussion in 'Slimming World' started by Rosie134, 29 June 2014.

  1. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    I don't know whether I should change my group or whether I am just being weird or something. I don't really like my consultant; that is the main problem. I don't like how guilty she makes me feel for not making her look good. When I was constantly losing she loved me but when I started going off plan for a while she acts like she hates me. I am not the only one in my group that has noticed it. I am assuming that I made her look good before and now have taken that away. I was on a contraceptive pill that I tried for three weeks and on it I gained 4lb and she constantly berated me and made me feel awful even though I was following the plan. She also acts like she doesn't care if we come to group or not; she never helps any of us when we need it, she took a month to get back to someone who gave her a food diary, and she didn't even explain Slimming World rules very well. I was never told that if I didn't come to group I would have to pay for the last week, not that I am complaining about that I just wasn't told. I also was unaware that my club 10 week was supposed to be free, I never got my free week. I left her group and then returned as a new member so now I can't even get that free week that I was supposed to. I just don't feel inspired by her and she has never told any of us what she lost with Slimming World, she also doesn't give advice; if someone has a problem she always directs it to the rest of the group, she never pulls anything up from her experience. I was at this group for around a year so this isn't out of the blue. Sorry about the LONG post.
  2. GingerJV

    GingerJV Well-Known Member

    If you do not like your consultant, you should definitely change the group! It seems your consultant is really not a very good person and consultant. Consultant should help, give motivation and inspiration! So do not hesitate to go to the group where you will be feeling comfortable and happy!
  3. Jeanne Von Buttonpopper

    Jeanne Von Buttonpopper Reformed biscuit dunker

    From your description, I'm not quite sure what she gets out of being a consultant. She certainly doesn't seem to be giving anything. Not that it's any excuse, but maybe there is something behind it all that you are all unaware of that's causing her bad attitude, but if that is the case she needs to either be a bit more upfront with you all or leave. I don't imagine it will be long before other members consider leaving the group too if they are feeling the same as you.

    I think it is a good idea that you start looking at other groups and go along to one or two if they are close enough and see if you like both the group and the consultant. I'm sure getting a new consultant with a positive and helpful approach will make a big difference for you. Good luck :D
  4. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    I just found out on the SW website that she lost 1st7lb. That isn't exactly inspiring to someone who needs to lose over 7 stone. I think I will look elsewhere.
  5. janetelizabeth

    janetelizabeth Well-Known Member

    I'd be looking around for another group if I were you. That is the whole point of going to group to have support from the consultant.
  6. lickthelid

    lickthelid Lives here....

    Clearly a poor example of a consultant. Although don't judge her on her loss, it's all relative. She may not have had much to lose so as long as she lost it through SW its irrelevant whether its 1st or 10st. She chose to take on the SW franchise and so essentially it's her business at stake. Vote with your feet and go elsewhere where you can find the support you need.
  7. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    Oh I'm not judging her on her loss, there is a woman in my Slimming World who has lost two stone and I think she would be an amazing consultant and always take her up on her advice. It is the fact that she doesn't give advice or seem to know what she is talking about. When I have to rely on advice from other members more than my consultant there is something wrong. The only reason I think someone who has lost 1st7lb can't help me is because I lost 4st and then hit a wall; I started thinking about how much I had lost and how much I had left, and this panicked me. I don't think she can help as she hasn't lost enough to get to that point, where the rest of the very long journey seems hopeless.
  8. Yes, you should change if you are not happy. You are the customer, you have the right to change if you want to.

    Consultants are not supposed to berate their members or make them feel bad. She is not doing her job properly.

    In your place, what I would do is to leave, find another group, then write a letter to this consultant, with a copy to SW's Head Office, explaining exactly what you have told us. SW has a retraining programme for its consultants and she sounds as if she urgently needs it. If no-one speaks out, nothing will change.
  9. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    Thanks everyone for the advice. I am going to a different group this week to see what it's like. It is a 40 minute walk away instead of the usual 20 seconds walk to my group now, but what is the point of paying someone for nothing. May as well get used to walking. Good body magic anyway :)
  10. janetelizabeth

    janetelizabeth Well-Known Member

    Please let us know how you get on at the new group. :thankyou:
  11. John 1

    John 1 Member

    Good Luck at the new group Rosie!
  12. solange

    solange Well-Known Member

    Hey Rosie
    Good luck. The walk will be good and you won't be throwing good money away! Looking forward to hearing how the new consultant pans out.
  13. Gwella

    Gwella Well-Known Member

    Good luck. You can always drop in to your old group to weigh in if for some reason one week you don't have time for the walk.
  14. GingerJV

    GingerJV Well-Known Member

    Good luck at the new group Rosie! you are getting more benefits from the very beginning - the longer is walk the more is weight loss;-))))
  15. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    Thanks everyone. It is tomorrow at 10am, which I like because it means I don't have to eat anything beforehand teehee :D
  16. jogirl

    jogirl Well-Known Member

    Let us know how you get on!
  17. sweetierufus

    sweetierufus Well-Known Member

    Hope you enjoy your new group:D
  18. Rosie134

    Rosie134 Well-Known Member

    It was amazing! The consultant was lovely and so was everyone else. This consultant does Slimmer of the Month as well, and gives out certificates for weight loss instead of just stickers. I really regret not going there in the first place. This is the first time in months I have come away from group feeling like I can do this! :D
  19. jogirl

    jogirl Well-Known Member

    I'm glad it was a good experience!
  20. sweetierufus

    sweetierufus Well-Known Member


    An enthusiastic consultant will keep you going :thumbup:

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