kjs1628
Surely....
Just interested to talk to people with 3 kids to see their views...
DH and I always intended to have 3 kids. Always. BUT, now we've got 2, and the youngest is coming up to 2, we're hesitating about it. We have a boy and a girl, both absolutely delicious, full of love and life, and pretty well behaved. We have a great life together; we adore our kids but still manage to make each other the priority (which was not so true when baby was first born). We have a good support network and are able to have a weekend or two away a year without the kids. We have managed financially, never been on the breadline, but are looking forward to having a bit of extra cash in the pocket when son goes to school in September.
In some ways, the pleasures of our life make me think we should have another child, so that we can share our good fortune. In others, I think 'what if having another baby upsets the apple cart': we would have another 2 or 3 years of less money; we wouldn't be able to rely on other people so heavily; we would be knackered again!
Any advice anyone? I'd love to hear from people who do have more than 2 kids. For us, having our first was a piece of pleasurable cake, and our second (to begin with) a nightmare. How is it 3rd time round? Do your kids play together well? (I am worried about spending my days wittling about who's being left out by who).....
Sorry it's so far off track, but I don't know who else to ask about this. I know it's our decision, and ours alone but I'd be interested to hear other people's experiences.
Thank you....
DH and I always intended to have 3 kids. Always. BUT, now we've got 2, and the youngest is coming up to 2, we're hesitating about it. We have a boy and a girl, both absolutely delicious, full of love and life, and pretty well behaved. We have a great life together; we adore our kids but still manage to make each other the priority (which was not so true when baby was first born). We have a good support network and are able to have a weekend or two away a year without the kids. We have managed financially, never been on the breadline, but are looking forward to having a bit of extra cash in the pocket when son goes to school in September.
In some ways, the pleasures of our life make me think we should have another child, so that we can share our good fortune. In others, I think 'what if having another baby upsets the apple cart': we would have another 2 or 3 years of less money; we wouldn't be able to rely on other people so heavily; we would be knackered again!
Any advice anyone? I'd love to hear from people who do have more than 2 kids. For us, having our first was a piece of pleasurable cake, and our second (to begin with) a nightmare. How is it 3rd time round? Do your kids play together well? (I am worried about spending my days wittling about who's being left out by who).....
Sorry it's so far off track, but I don't know who else to ask about this. I know it's our decision, and ours alone but I'd be interested to hear other people's experiences.
Thank you....