So near, yet so far...

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  1. emmapetty

    emmapetty Going for Goal!

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    Hi all, I did post this in the 100% posts section - i'm not sure many people use it tbh, it certainly varies! The truth??? I am struggling with my last 2.5 stone. I am constantly re-analysing my goal weight. Does anyone else do this? I just don't know what to do...My cdc is wonderful, and I have spoken to her about this. But she is very much of the attitude "continue until you feel you are happy" but I feel like I need a number to aim for. Saying that, it gets me down knowing that I am 2.5 stone away from my goal - it seems so far! Saying that, back in April at my biggest I would have given anything then to be where I am now. I'm confused to why my head is playing such cruel games. GRRRRRRRR !!!! I think at the back of my head I have a nagging voice telling me that at 5"4, 11 stone will still be big. I have been looking at other people's goals who are of a similar height to me who are aiming for between 9 and 10 stone. Back in April, at a shameful 21 stone and 2lbs I was soooo motivated to loose that 10 stone to reach my target. Just lately my motivation seems to have vanished and I'm nibbly here and there, then I had a cold which took me again out of ketosis as I was having lemsips, toast and weetabix. I feel like I am stuck in a rut :(:(:(:(
     
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  3. quizzicalgrrl

    quizzicalgrrl Posting Mad!

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    Hi Emma...

    I am not great at responding to posts but am going to have a go at it.

    Firstly, your weight before wasn't shameful, it was just a weight. You are such an inspiration to everyone here, I hate to hear you saying stuff like that about what you were like then.

    Secondly, you have done so amazingly well. Really! I mean wow!

    Don't judge how you "should" be based on what others are aiming for. You know yourself best, and you need to pick a goal weight that makes sense for you. Would it help to make 11.5 an "interim goal" that you could evaluate once you get there?


    If you are having nibblies, what about moving up a plan so that your mind doesnt play trick on you? It might not seem as appealing to nibble if some food is allowed?

    In any case, I can tell you I struggle a lot and will try to take my own advice too.

    Love, C
    xxx
     
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    parisbeach Silver Member

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    Emma - i think we all get like this at points, as for years i had been doing slimming world on and off, i rejoined a group again in 2007 At a weight of 20st 9lb, the scale site devastated me, but i got down to the diet and lost over 3 stone, but then i got into a rut and for a year i just yoyo from 2st7 lost to 3st. i just couldn't get back into it. Then i found CD and it gave me the losses i liked to see, I have had days where i cant do CD 100%, but my cdc is fab about it and when i say i possibly picked on pickled onions or beetroot she always say well it could have been worse choices like a choc bar, that boosts me to try again the next day and put that one behind me. Maybe i could have lost more if i hadn't had a few blips but i regard 40lb in just over 10 weeks as good, it more than i did in 2 yrs at SW.
    I know it a small aim but break this last bit down and say to yourself 7lb by christmas would be great and then maybe another stone by february, we all know it can be done quicker, that why i have broke my tickers down as my aim doesn't seem that far in the distance i haven't even added my ultimate one yet as not sure how far i want to go .lol
     
  5. Guru

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    Emma I have been in a similar situation for the past two months. I lost my motivation and tried both 810 and Slimming World - with poor results, in that I stayed the same weight but at least I didn't gain.

    I went back to my CDC two weeks ago with my tail between my legs and told her I need help and I don't know what to do about it.

    She was brilliant. She told me to do what suits me and yes, there are rules and regulations around CD but we are only human so if we make slips, so what? She asked if I wanted to try 810 again and I said no, I know only SS works for me. So we decided that I would do SS, but that IF I slipped up I would try to make good choices instead of just blowing it completely, and then would get back on the wagon the next day.

    This has meant in the last two weeks I have slipped up. I had ham one day, and I had a piece of homemade fudge at the weekend (not such a great choice, but at least it was 1 piece, not 10). However, I stopped there and got back on the wagon.

    I feel more in control. I know that some people will say that giving yourself permission to slip is like just opening the door and wishing yourself through it. But it is not the case for me.

    I think very carefully before I make a choice to eat ANYTHING and yes I have given in twice, but I do not regret it and if it shows on the scales then I only have myself to blame.

    You have done amazingly well to get this far. I admire those that manage to stick to SS 100% all of the time, but I suspect for the vast majority of us this isn't the case and we still struggle with our demons. Don't be too hard on yourself.
     
  6. mrsessex

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    Hi emma :D

    im same height as you and currently 11 stone 10'ish i say ish as havnt been weighed for a week as waiting till after my holiday lol

    I dont think i look 'big' personally...so get that outta ya head that 11 stone at our height is big :D :D its NOT... its ok! ok..not technically 'healthy weight' but im more than happy at the moment when i walk past mirrors lol im aiming for 9'7 though and like you all i can see is 'another 2 stone!!!'

    We'll get there ;) Future forward to feb/march when you'll be 2 stone down! (inc christmas of course ;) ) thats what im doing :)

    Hang in there petal x
     
  7. Chlo

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    I keep changing my goal weight as well, I am now working towards a healthy bmi of 25, and will reassess then. I also have a couple of stone to go.

    I too have started to nibble. I regularly have meals based on low carb, and my weight loss has slowed a little bit, but still losing around 3 lbs a week, so if that is what it takes to keep me going so be it. My CDC is quite supportive about tweaking the diet to fit in with your lifestyle, but I do find that I am cheating more and more, and am a bit disappointed with myself, but really struggle with SS now. I think once you have cheated a bit, and realise it doesn't do as much damage as you thought it would do, you struggle getting back in the 100% frame of mind. But I am going to try. what you need to remember is you have done fantastically well, and it is the most difficult time of year, lots of meals out, but it is a question of doing your best. Good luck with your last 2.5 stone, I am sure you will get your mojo back... sounds like it has been on holiday with mine.
     
  8. Mrs Taurus

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    Hi Emma, do not forget how far you have come,you are an inspiration!!!! There is no pressure to get to 11stone by a certain date is there? When I lost weight(not on cd) in 2000 I had never been below 15st as an adult and had no idea 'when I would look normal', any way my body did really just stop at 11.7,my face looks a bit long then and so settled then at 12stone, which is just within my healthy bmi.....obviously after Master T I couldn't settle at 12st!
    So my advice would be remember what you have achieved,just be patient and I am sure you will know what weight is right for you when you get there. I always thought at my largest pre-cd I should be 10st, but as I say I surprised myself with how happy I was at 12st.
    Buck up and treat yourself to some escapist tv to take your mind off the diet x
     
  9. emmapetty

    emmapetty Going for Goal!

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    Definately must have been hun, you sound like you have been going through the same experiences as me - Your CDC is supportive and allows me to tweak, resulting in me cheating too! Where was your sensible head 2 months ago when this annoying cycle started :confused:;)

    lol

    I started today with my full intentions of remaining ss. How about you, and how's it going?

    Hope you start shifting the pounds along with me very soon :D:D:D

    Hugs x x x
     
  10. Chlo

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    I have my weigh in tomorrow, so might start a new regime of no meals except for work nights out etc. I do not have the self discipline to go on a works Christmas Do and have a bar, and really wouldn't want to. That way, although I will be having the works meals out, I can look forward to them, which might get me through SS for all the other days.... I feel a bit of motivation seeping back.
     
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    DisneyParis An Attitude of Gratitude

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    Emma, you have come a long way and achieved such a lot. :happy096: That same strength & determination will help you get there l'm sure.
    Try breaking those last couple of stone down into mini goals of 7lbs at a time, that's what l did, it made it seem so much more do-able to chip away at it like that.
     
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    [QUOTE=Chlo;2159695
    I think once you have cheated a bit, and realise it doesn't do as much damage as you thought it would do, you struggle getting back in the 100% frame of mind.


    this is so true, and it gets harder and harder each time, but you mustn't give in
     
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