suepat10
I am one of the 63336
OK, new year - new diary.
I know I need to work out what the triggers are that make me want to munch. The big obvious one is stress.
What stresses me?
Firstly, PMT time just about everything. Need to be aware of dates BUT my body is playing tricks on me now (menopause looming I guess!!).
Secondly, my son. Not very often and I know it's just him being an 11 year old boy but it is a struggle at times.
Lastly, the BFH - my OH's wife. Can't say ex-wife as they aren't divorced yet (separated 7 months before we met) but fingers crossed they will be by the end of this year.
They have 2 daughters together (14 & 6) and she uses them as much as she can to make life difficult for us. It souonds terrible to say it but the girls (especially the older one) has seen how the mother got her own way by treating my OH like dirt and has an attitude along those lines herself. She is a nice girl 90% of the time but the rest of the time she needs putting right as she can be very rude and VERY VERY selfish.
Unfortunately it will never change as the mother has had her under her wing for too long. My OH has always worked very long hours so mother has had carte blanche with the girls. They are forever off school 'ill' (so much so educational welfare are involved). The girls have not had dentist or optician appointments in years. Mother is more interested in chatting online than looking after the girls. Last summer holiday she took the 6 year old to the park/beach about 4 times - bearing in mind they live opposite a park and 2 minutes walk from the beach.
Mother keeps 'forgetting' when the children are due to come round for tea. She puts it in their heads that they don't want to come and stay. Sometimes the 6 year old isn't allowed to stay if the 14 year old doesn't want to, other times she is.
We often find out changes at the very last minute or as my OH picks up the 6 year old mother will tell her she doesn't have to stay if she doesn't want to so she changes her mind mid-evening.
14 year old doesn't want to stay often as mother lets her stay on the computer until 1am of a weekend AND watch 18 films which we won't allow.
Through all this my 11 year old just poodles along taking all the changes on the chin, very rarely complaining.
So, it can be VERY stressful and makes me crave chocolate.
So for this year I need to learn coping strategies!
I know I need to work out what the triggers are that make me want to munch. The big obvious one is stress.
What stresses me?
Firstly, PMT time just about everything. Need to be aware of dates BUT my body is playing tricks on me now (menopause looming I guess!!).
Secondly, my son. Not very often and I know it's just him being an 11 year old boy but it is a struggle at times.
Lastly, the BFH - my OH's wife. Can't say ex-wife as they aren't divorced yet (separated 7 months before we met) but fingers crossed they will be by the end of this year.
They have 2 daughters together (14 & 6) and she uses them as much as she can to make life difficult for us. It souonds terrible to say it but the girls (especially the older one) has seen how the mother got her own way by treating my OH like dirt and has an attitude along those lines herself. She is a nice girl 90% of the time but the rest of the time she needs putting right as she can be very rude and VERY VERY selfish.
Unfortunately it will never change as the mother has had her under her wing for too long. My OH has always worked very long hours so mother has had carte blanche with the girls. They are forever off school 'ill' (so much so educational welfare are involved). The girls have not had dentist or optician appointments in years. Mother is more interested in chatting online than looking after the girls. Last summer holiday she took the 6 year old to the park/beach about 4 times - bearing in mind they live opposite a park and 2 minutes walk from the beach.
Mother keeps 'forgetting' when the children are due to come round for tea. She puts it in their heads that they don't want to come and stay. Sometimes the 6 year old isn't allowed to stay if the 14 year old doesn't want to, other times she is.
We often find out changes at the very last minute or as my OH picks up the 6 year old mother will tell her she doesn't have to stay if she doesn't want to so she changes her mind mid-evening.
14 year old doesn't want to stay often as mother lets her stay on the computer until 1am of a weekend AND watch 18 films which we won't allow.
Through all this my 11 year old just poodles along taking all the changes on the chin, very rarely complaining.
So, it can be VERY stressful and makes me crave chocolate.
So for this year I need to learn coping strategies!