dushka
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Today I had an interesting situation-
I am on step 2 of CD and so when my mother was over today I had some fish and veg. I avoided potatoes and pudding. She does not know I am doing CD yet as I can not cope with the focus on my weight loss and questions about it.
Whilst here my mother asked my super thin 10 year old daughter if she had lost weight and told her she looked great. My daughter is as thin as a pin and she is very sporty. She certainly does not have a weight problem. Over Christmas she has had a tummy bug and has grown so I think she probably does look thinner.
Anyway I sat there annoyed that weight was already being mentioned. It was a constant source of comment as a grew up and I remember being told (looking back when I was normal BMI) that I would be a 'wow' if I lost weight and highlighted my hair. I have been so careful not to do the same with my children.
Now, saying all this they see me battle with my weight, being unhappy with how I look and now doing CD. What effect is this having on them?
After some thought I have concluded that it best to be honest with them- I have explained the diet to them and all the reasons I have for doing it. These include confidence and appearance but also health. At the same time I have tried to instil in them healthy habits with times for eating what the hell you want! They exercise and thoroughly enjoy sport in a way I never have. My family hate sport and so it was never something encouraged. Mine do karate, diving, swimming, gymnastics, football, cricket, netball and love every minute of it.
Family, children, weight and CD- what a combination!
I am on step 2 of CD and so when my mother was over today I had some fish and veg. I avoided potatoes and pudding. She does not know I am doing CD yet as I can not cope with the focus on my weight loss and questions about it.
Whilst here my mother asked my super thin 10 year old daughter if she had lost weight and told her she looked great. My daughter is as thin as a pin and she is very sporty. She certainly does not have a weight problem. Over Christmas she has had a tummy bug and has grown so I think she probably does look thinner.
Anyway I sat there annoyed that weight was already being mentioned. It was a constant source of comment as a grew up and I remember being told (looking back when I was normal BMI) that I would be a 'wow' if I lost weight and highlighted my hair. I have been so careful not to do the same with my children.
Now, saying all this they see me battle with my weight, being unhappy with how I look and now doing CD. What effect is this having on them?
After some thought I have concluded that it best to be honest with them- I have explained the diet to them and all the reasons I have for doing it. These include confidence and appearance but also health. At the same time I have tried to instil in them healthy habits with times for eating what the hell you want! They exercise and thoroughly enjoy sport in a way I never have. My family hate sport and so it was never something encouraged. Mine do karate, diving, swimming, gymnastics, football, cricket, netball and love every minute of it.
Family, children, weight and CD- what a combination!
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