The job saga continues....UPDATE - I did it!!

[lucylastic]

(I know you are right - I just don't know if I have the nerve!!)

Yes you do If you put a tenth of the caring in to explaining to her, as you do helping others on here, she will absolutely have nothing but total respect for you. She'll wish you well, and thank you for your honesty and integrity. You know it's true

 

[slendablenda]

Bite the bullet

Don't put it off a minute longer than youneed to. The sooner you tell her the better you will feel. She will respect you and understand I'm sure.
You can do it strong girl. Remember all the tough things you have had to face in the past year.
Good luck.Let us know how you get on. xx

 

[Blonde Logic]

OK. What I think I am going to do is, present a letter of resignation, and explanation and then ask for a meeting to discuss it in more detail.

But I need opinions please....i am pasting the letter below, and just wonder if this sounds alright to you? It is not the traditional "professional" I give two eeek notice, thank you and goodbye" kind of letter....it's a bit more personal, but that is how they have made me feel, so it felt right when writing it - would just appreciate any comment if it sounds OK, or if its too informal, etc.

Thanks!!

here it is: ===============



It is with great regret and difficulty that I am writing to you to tender my resignation from BUPA International.

This has been an extremely difficult and painful decision to make, as there is not anything about working at BUPA that I do not like. I don’t know if I can convey to you just how difficult this has been, coming to this decision. You and the team have been wonderful, and have made me feel so welcome….it has truly been a marvellous experience, and after just a few short weeks, it makes me very sad to be leaving as I know I would have been very happy here.

I have been offered a job, which is just 3 minutes from home, working 9-5, at a substantial increase of pay. It also has several benefits and after anguishing over the pros and cons of both jobs, I realise I cannot pass up this offer. It is a good career move for me and I feel I must follow my heart and at least give it a try.

I just want to tell you, this job was offered to me a few days after I accepted BUPA’s offer, before I actually started here. I said thank you, but no. But they have continued to enquire, and have now made an offer I can’t pass up. This has been a very difficult decision for me...one I have not taken lightly, and I feel very bad leaving so soon after starting. It was never my intent – and there has not been a thing here that has been disappointing to me – I just feel I owe it to myself to take up this challenge as it is more of a lead role where I will be able to utilise my skills and learn many more facets of the insurance industry.

I want to thank you so much, for everything you have done for me here, and to apologise for ANY inconvenience or upset this may cause. That would be the last thing I would want to do to you, or to anyone else here. Honestly – this is one of the nicest teams I have ever had the privilege to join, and that makes this one of the hardest decisions ever.

They would like me to start on 5 May 2009. I do not know at this stage what is expected with regards to notice, considering I have not been through induction yet. I will ask you to let me know how that will work.

In closing, saying thank you does not seem enough. You have made this experience, albeit a short one, an extremely memorable one, and for that I thank you and everyone on the team.


Most sincerely,

 

[HelenG]

BL,

I can honestly say that if I were your manager I would be very proud to receive that letter but I would be selfishly cross that I have lost a very worthwhile employee.

(Hope all the other issues you are having to deal with at present are also resolved satisfactorily soon)

 

[Carolanski]

Hi BL

I concur! It conveys what a difficult decision you have had to make and lays no blame at their door.

However - be prepared to think about this...what happens if they come back with a better offer? You are obviously such a great asset it wouldn't surprise me if your manager would want to try and keep you.

Sorry - spanner...works....

At the end of the day you need to think about yourself first and foremost. Many years of experience have taught me that whilst companies may care about you when the going is good, as soon as things get tricky they would have no qualms in doing exactly what they need to survive. Business is business. I once turned down a fabulous job, even after discussing it with the company I worked for, who promised the earth then made me redundant 3 weeks later.

Good luck - do what feels right for you.

Carol x

 

[Sean(JSF)]

Absolutely perfect BL

I'd be proud to receive that letter from my Team. Just don't delay and so it NOW

You'll feel so much better as a result.

 

[Blonde Logic]

THanks guys - I really appreciate your feedback.

I have just had, by special delivery, my formal offer. The other got lost in the post!! I swear, all this waiting on pins and needles has got me running in circles.

But its all falling into place, and I think I will be giving my notice in today, rather than the easy route next week. (chewing madly on fingernails!! no lie! ) I don't know why this is so hard for me!! lol

I decided to do it today, rather then tomorrow. It would seem unfair to drop the news on her just as she is heading off to the airport on holiday, ya know?

So - ugh - wish me luck! (i know you do. )

Thanks again!!

xx

 

[SexyBecks1]

That was such a moving letter BL. I was nearly in tears reading it. I'm sure your manager will not think bad of you. I was in the same position as you last year although I had worked for the other company for 3 n 1/2 years. It was so difficult but I knew I was doing the right thing.

I really commend your bravery. It is better to be honest. And as Carol said, they may possibly value you so much that they themselves might make you an offer to keep you. You are obviously worth keeping as the other company wouldn't have made the second offer.

Good luck for whatever happens. I would be really proud too if I had recieved a letter like that x x

 

[Carolanski]

Fingers crossed x

 

[asilasil]

ooooohh good luck for today BL. The letter was perfectamundo.
xx

 

[Blonde Logic]

PHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's OVER! It's DONE! Thank F for that!!!!

So, I left my letter on my bosses desk. I was sat directly across from her. She came in and when she picked it up my heart and stomache lept out and landed on my desk. I'm sure of it. It felt like that anyway!!

She read it twice. And then she would not even look at me. I finally said "I am really sorry" and she looked up, saw me, and flashed a very kind smile and said don't be and then she went to management And then went quiet. I did not know what to expect next!

I emailed the team adn they were all lovely, and said some realy nice things. Got me all teary eyed. They all immediately gave me their email addresses etc, which made me feel good. They were really supportive, and sad.

When my manager came back, she called me aside and we had a chat. She was so nice, and she said she was gutted. She sasid she had looked so long and so hard for someone like me to be on their team, that she was devestated I was leaving, but she completely understood. She said I can always knock on their door again, without hesitation, if the other job does not live up to what I want. That made me feel really good.

Some of the new guys that started said they could see I already had a huge impact on the team, and that they thought at first I was an old-timer, cause they said I just fit in so well with everyone. They just made me feel really good - all of them.

My manager has asked me if I would stay and work my notice so she doesn't have to let go yet....and I said of course, and that I was so happy she wanted me to - that I half expected to be escorted out of the building. She was shocked I felt that way....I just said sometimes old habits die hard.

So - AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

That is a SIGH of relief.

Done and dusted. Finally. This all started on 2 March 09.....what a long 6 weeks its been. perhaps I can stop eating my fingernails now. At least they are low-carb.

Thanks for all your support - and while I knew I woulkd have to face her, your encouragement just helped make that easier. And I was so glad I did. I told her I considered the easy way out, waiting till next week when she was gone, but I told her I really did like her too much to do that - she was so glad I hadn't - she really was lovely.

I am going to sleepwell tonight, and I think I can now change my emoticon from the STRESSED face. At last.

Tooth - check
Job - check
Neck MRI's, nerve tests, Hip MRIs - check (still awaiting results)
Fence -
Family -

OK, a few more things to do - but certainly going to start feeling a bit free again, and I have missed that.

Roll on a normal routine!!!

<<<<hugs to all for your support!!>>>

 

[Foxtrot]

Whoop whoop!! Well done that girl!! I bet you're having such a feeling of relief tonight! Good luck with your new venture and I hope it turns out as good as you could wish for. (Especially the Christmas holidays!!)

 

[lucylastic]

Well done BL!!! The letter was fab, there was no way she couldn't be anything but totally lovely to you - behaviour breeds behaviour So pleased for you xxx

 

[Blonde Logic]

Thanks guys! I do feel such a sense of relief that its 'over'. I hate stuff like that - really throws me out of my comfort zone. Not sure why - but know it does.

Feels much better now!
xx

 

[slendablenda]

Thank goodness

The long wait is over. I'm glad you got the support you needed on here.
What a lovely reaction from your BUPA people. They all lived up to how nice you said they were.
You treated them with honesty and consideration too. I truly believe you get
back what you give out.
I hope you can start to have some peace again now. You have been through a tough couple of months. Well done skinny xxx

 

[thin_inside]

BL - so pleased for you. Amazing letter and I definitely think you did the right thing in not waiting. What a lovely response too. At least you know they will have you back if necessary.

Now - I hope you are relaxing in your own way. Fingers crossed your outstanding challenges will be resolved soon xxx.

 

[Carolanski]

Well done - things are almost always better when you face them head on. Lovely to know that thay'd take you back too. Although I hope the new job is everything you hope for and you wont need to.

Glad to see you "mellow" again!

Carol x

 

[daisydoll]

hi there
glad to hear it went well for you
you can enjoy the weekend now
daisy x

 

[bexnkev]

Well BL...sounds like you have been through the ringer mate!!! So pleased that it's now resolved!! Wishing you every success in your new job!!!