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Think I've had a breakthrough! :)

S: 16st2lb C: 13st11lb G: 12st10lb BMI: 29.3 Loss: 2st5lb(14.6%)
#1
Ah I just want to share my happiness.

A bit of background. I did LL at the start of the year and lost almost 2 stone, I got to 14st ish which is the lightest I've been. Once finished I went up to almost 15st. Since then I've been flitting around diets and have lost some, back to around 14st7 ish, maybe less, but I still hadn't felt comfortable about going below 14st..

The other day something fell into place and I decided to let the little OCD/skinny person out to control my eating. Also decided to ban myself from the scales to stop myself from freaking out about going any lighter than my lightest - it sounds absurd but that's what had been worrying me. My identity as a person was that I was big - hard to explain but I just felt that it was part of who I am, to be big.

Since letting my skinny person out it's been going absolutely smoothly.. I'm calorie counting so I allow myself a 20g bar of chocolate every day and am within my allowance. Whilst I was eating it today I caught myself thinking "Hmm. It's a little bar of chocolate.. But then I'm a little person, or soon will be!".

It's hard to explain why this feels such a breakthrough, but suddenly my head has changed from thinking about myself not as a big person who doesn't want to lose any more, but as a little person with a stone or 2 to lose?! It feels like a revelation!

Anyway I know it's a little thing but I just thought I'd share :D
 
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S: 12st7lb C: 11st12lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 27.6 Loss: 0st9lb(5.14%)
#2
good!!!
I am happy for ya! I too just randomly had the "skinny me" say... "hey, why are you fat? why? " and it really made me think. Eating crap doesnt help me ... and it doesnt actually make me feel better in the long run, it makes me feel worse.

I love CCounting, it is the best thing coz you can eat ANYTHING as long as you are in your limit. woop!
I hope the next time you weight, you are pleasantly suprised ... and do a little dance :D
 
#3
That's a great way to think! It's being nicer on yourself, which I think people need to be while on this journey (and in general of course. :)) I'll bet it will produce much better results.

Good luck. :hug:
 
S: 16st2lb C: 13st11lb G: 12st10lb BMI: 29.3 Loss: 2st5lb(14.6%)
#4
:thankyou::grouphugg:
 

rhuba

i really don't know life
S: 13st7lb C: 11st9lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 25.5 Loss: 1st12lb(13.76%)
#5
yay! i have experienced a similar thing recently: more a realisation that i never believed i would ever get to goal, rather than a fear of it, but a revelation that now i do none the less. well done on your revelation, i guess it's something that has to come on this lttle journey of ours in order to get and keep the weight off. good luck on the home straight!! 2 stone is completely doable, especially with such a great mindset!!
 
S: 16st2lb C: 13st11lb G: 12st10lb BMI: 29.3 Loss: 2st5lb(14.6%)
#6
Totally.. I was initially heading for 1stone off but now my mind is in the right place I want to go for 2 :)
 

rhuba

i really don't know life
S: 13st7lb C: 11st9lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 25.5 Loss: 1st12lb(13.76%)
#7
that's funny, actually. my initial goal was 11st, but then one day i read an article which was talking about a survey conducted amonst dieters. the first of the questions was 'what is your target weight?' (me-11st) the next question was 'what is your ideal weight?' (me-10.5st) third question was 'why is your ideal weight not your target?' (me-yeh, why isn't it??!!) i promptly decided that come hell or high water i would one day weigh 10.5st.

apparently the vast majority of women questioned set their target at least half a stone above their ideal weight, because they simply didn't believe that they would ever achieve their ideal weight. how stupid is that? we control what goes into our bodies, and therefore we control what weight we are - no matter how hard it may be, why shouldn't we be the weight we want to be? i for one am setting my standards high, but the difference is that this time i'm convinced i'm going to do it!

yay! bring on goal!!
 
S: 16st2lb C: 13st11lb G: 12st10lb BMI: 29.3 Loss: 2st5lb(14.6%)
#8
Haha! Very well said actually. If we can lose 1lb why can't we lose 1 stone. If we can lose 1 stone what's to stop us losing 2, 3 or 4?! it's like we set ourselves up to not quite get there isn't it?!
 
#9
Exactly Ellie

It's all in our heads. Good luck with the rest of your weight loss.
:)
 

SexyBecks1

is loving CWP xx
S: 21st2lb C: 20st10lb G: 15st0lb BMI: 48.3 Loss: 0st6lb(2.03%)
#10
Wow, that is really deep Ellie but really motivating.

I have decided not to weigh myself this week at home. I have been cheating again so not done so well this week. I think if I stay off the scales then I won't be tempted to cheat.

I feel the same as you, I have not been in the 13's for about 8 years so it's really scary.

Good luck with the rest of your weight loss x x
 
#11
that's funny, actually. my initial goal was 11st, but then one day i read an article which was talking about a survey conducted amonst dieters. the first of the questions was 'what is your target weight?' (me-11st) the next question was 'what is your ideal weight?' (me-10.5st) third question was 'why is your ideal weight not your target?' (me-yeh, why isn't it??!!) i promptly decided that come hell or high water i would one day weigh 10.5st.

apparently the vast majority of women questioned set their target at least half a stone above their ideal weight, because they simply didn't believe that they would ever achieve their ideal weight. how stupid is that? we control what goes into our bodies, and therefore we control what weight we are - no matter how hard it may be, why shouldn't we be the weight we want to be? i for one am setting my standards high, but the difference is that this time i'm convinced i'm going to do it!

yay! bring on goal!!
Go you. :D

That's very true though. We seem to think we can maybe lose 1 or 2 stone, but not 3 or 4. Which of course is totally illogical! The only thing setting anyone back from their ideal weight (unless a medical problem or such of course) is themself. 9 times out of 10 it's just the brain playing tricks, and there's no reason why that person can't get to their ideal weight.

:)
 

mommyB

love it
S: 14st13lb C: 14st7lb BMI: 30 Loss: 0st6lb(2.87%)
#12
It has taken me s while to realise that i am failing because i'm worried that when i get to target, them what? for years i have been defining myself by my weight problems so what'll i do when thats gone?

My answer to myself is that i'll be working in keeping the weight off but i also long ago realsied that getting to target wouldnt suddenly solve all my problems and make me happy, its actually the other way around-sorting my head out will actually help me to loose weight.

I hope that ramble made sense!!
 

AmandaJayne

Trainee Maintainer
#13
Ah I just want to share my happiness.

A bit of background. I did LL at the start of the year and lost almost 2 stone, I got to 14st ish which is the lightest I've been. Once finished I went up to almost 15st. Since then I've been flitting around diets and have lost some, back to around 14st7 ish, maybe less, but I still hadn't felt comfortable about going below 14st..

The other day something fell into place and I decided to let the little OCD/skinny person out to control my eating. Also decided to ban myself from the scales to stop myself from freaking out about going any lighter than my lightest - it sounds absurd but that's what had been worrying me. My identity as a person was that I was big - hard to explain but I just felt that it was part of who I am, to be big.

Since letting my skinny person out it's been going absolutely smoothly.. I'm calorie counting so I allow myself a 20g bar of chocolate every day and am within my allowance. Whilst I was eating it today I caught myself thinking "Hmm. It's a little bar of chocolate.. But then I'm a little person, or soon will be!".

It's hard to explain why this feels such a breakthrough, but suddenly my head has changed from thinking about myself not as a big person who doesn't want to lose any more, but as a little person with a stone or 2 to lose?! It feels like a revelation!

Anyway I know it's a little thing but I just thought I'd share :D

Hia Ellie:wavey:

Loved this bit of your post ... "...Whilst I was eating it today I caught myself thinking "Hmm. It's a little bar of chocolate.. But then I'm a little person, or soon will be..."

It's the kind of thing I've been doing, that is, I've been questioning some thoughts and behaviours that have wanted to creep back, and asking some pertinent questions. For example, is this behaviour how a 'slim' person would behave? Am I actually hungry or is this an emotional or habitual urge? The other thing to think about is learning to eat to live rather than living to eat. It is a difficult habit to break and I reckon it will take years of conscious effort before it becomes normal.

Good luck with your continued efforts!

AJ
 




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