Thinking of giving up – last bit of advice please.

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  1. Kate78

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    I have my week 5 weigh in tonight and I really am not sure if I can continue LL any further.

    The first few weeks I had a terrible headache, as this passed I then started vomiting, this has started to pass but I feel terribly weak. I don’t know if this is partly down to the fact that despite being on the contraceptive pill I have bleed through the whole of the programme (although only lightly.)

    I am so miserable and tired. I had to miss my friends wedding as I couldn’t face going and not eating (I have not told any of my friends about LL) and last weekend my boyfriend took me to Royal Ascot, and we had to leave as I just felt so terrible.

    I feel so jealous every time I see someone with ‘normal’ food or drink and the miserableness is just taking over. Even my boss at work has commented on it, and my boyfriend really doesn’t want me to continue with the programme.

    I’m wondering if anyone else out there felt like I did and got over it/if it does pass. I don’t want to stop LL, as the weight loss is FANTASTIC, but I don’t know if I can cope with putting myself through this any further.
     
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    I dont know what to say. You sound so unhappy with the plan. I would personally say dont give up as it is the best thing I have ever done diet wise. I started on 2 Jan 07 and I have lost nearly 6 st, gone from a 20 to a 8/10 and have been told I look 20 years younger (makes me a teenager then).

    However I think you should pick up the phone and speak to your LLC as that is what they are there for talk through everything you have written down and see what she says.

    My hubby had times where he didnt like me as a person on the diet but I took no notice of what he said. My mum and and nan have said enough is enough but this is my life and I wont listen to anyone except myself when it comes to my health and wellbeing.

    My hubby loves the way I look now and we are now enjoying a main meal together everyday now I am in management.

    How much weight do you need to loose? I am asking to see how much longer you have to go on the programme thats all.

    Sorry I could not be of more help

    Jo
     
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    Thanks Jo, your kind words mean a lot, and wow SIX stone, well done girl.

    Ideally I would like to loose 5 stone. So far I have lost about 25 lbs.

    I don’t want to give up, I do really want to loose the weight, and sure that my health in the long run will be much better for it.

    Do feel bad for poor b/f, as he’s just worried about me. He’s really the only person I’ve told, and it’s very hard now that he is no longer supportive.

    It is WI tonight, so I will speak to my LLC. I just such a grump though! Everyone in my class is lovely and they are all getting on well with the plan. I feel like I’m always the class whinge with my ailments and finding it SO hard, I’m really conscious of the fact that I don’t want to bring other people down.
     
  5. DQ

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    For some people, it is a major shock to the system, it can mess about with TOTM and you can feel like crap. You have missed out/not enjoyed two occasions which are going to make you feel even worse, and to top it all off you don't want to bring other people down so you're not using your group as the support network it is meant to be.

    As you are being weighed in tonight, is there any chance you could have a word with your LLC about all of the above? It sounds to me like you need a little bit of extra support - you know the plan is worth it, and that these side effects are not long term - and your weight loss is fantastic.

    It must be so difficult, but it is more difficult to do something like this the second time around so I would explore all avenues before stopping.

    And use your group for support - you're not whinging, you're letting them know how you feel and how it's affecting you - isn't that what they are there for?!

    :hug99: cos I know you are feeling so rough. You have done so well - I would hate to see you give up now.
     
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    Talk to your counsellor and get some help from your group- there is no shame in giving up if you really must, but please try to stick with it if you can- more than 4 stone gone for me, and much better than having an operation or anything like. Hopefully you will fel better soon. IT can really screw up your system, but as you get used to it hopefully things will gt better. Big hug for now- I hope you can make it through!
     
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    DQ & Kathy, thanks you are so right. I will have a word with my LLC tonight and see what she says, either way I will p
    ersevere for another couple of weeks, and hope that my body starts to get used to it all a little bit more. I don’t have any major socials on, until much later next month, so hopefully can just focus on the LL.

    So glad that I have found MiniMins. Thanks for the help, I will keep you posted on how I get on.

    Kate x
     
  8. In search of me

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    Aww big hugs for you cos it is SO hard so days & I know exactly how you feel! If its any help I realised that I needed to ake an iron suppliment & multi-vitamin (ignoring the LL H/O advice that I shouldnt need to) as my periods have been back to previous 3 weeks on 1 off cycle and I was getting run down. Feel much better for it. Have you been cnstipated because that too can make you feel awful. I now take 1 dulcolax every other day without fail & feel better for that. I've also had to slow down a bit as realised that I couldnt rush around as I used to pre-LL. We all react differently and it sounds like your experience is simular to mine so try being gentle with yourself, get enough sleep, dont overdo the excercise and take the mulip vitamin & hopefully you'll feel better soon. Would also have a chat t B/F & say his support is really important and that you'l give it a few weeks and if you dont feel any better then will reconsider & come off? There are times when I've seriously thought about quitting but balanced with over 3 stone lost in 92 days I just dont want to! Also how is your BP? When I felt dire mine was low so made sure I took the iron, multivitamin and drank 2 marigold stocks a day for the salt & within a week felt much better!
    Hope this helps? It may also be the old chatterbox taunting you & the sickness may be a nasty bug thats going round at the moment which is awful when on LL...
    Keep us updated!
     
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    Pretty much suffered from all of the above!! Glad that someone else has been suffering too and I'm not just some medical freak.
    Went out and got some marigold, Dulcolax, Iron and Multivit and will start taking and hope that improves things a bit.
    Sipping on the Marigold now, OMG, nothing has tasted as nice for the last 4 weeks!! :)

    Thank you so much for the advice, will let you know how I feel the next couple of days.
     
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    Sending more :hug99: hugs your way, must be horrible to feel so bad all the time. Hope some of the tips above work so you can continue with LL and that your LLC/group is helpful tonight. If the problems continue take heart from the fact that not all programmes are suitable for all people, thats why theres so many of them, its just a matter of finding the right one for you at the right time. Maybe you could try the Cambridge Diet which has more flexibility and allows some food. I'm sure you'll find a path that suits you and lets you continue to make great progress with your weight loss. You've done so well already. Take Care and let us know how you get on tonight.
     
  11. In search of me

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    Pleased to be of help! Keep us updated & let us know how you're doing. Week 9/10 are quite hard for some reason so just grit your teeth & it does get better again. Promise!
     
  12. Kate78

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    Well I spoke to the class and LLC last night and they were all lovely.

    Quiet a few girls in the class said that I should think really seriously about continuing as I do look really poorly :-(

    LLC was great, really supportive and took me seriously which I was worried that she wouldn't; She was concerend I was pregnant, she asked me to do a test this morning, which I have, and I'm not. She said if that was negetive then she would contact HQ for me and get some advice, so I will give her a call later.

    The girls from class were great, and said they are going to email me to check I'm getting on OK. Got all my vitamins etc and hoping for a better week, going to give it at least a couple more weeks.

    Weight loss was 8lbs last week (that was in 2 weeks as I couldn't attend class last week) how FAB is that!

    Thanks for all your support Minis

    Kate xxx
     
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    :wow:great weight loss I do hope you feel better soon as you are doing so well with your weight loss it also sounds that the girls in your group are very caring and supportive.[​IMG]
     
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    Great loss! Congrats.

    Hope you start to feel better soon!
     
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