KateF
Silver Member
Hello Lighter Lifers!
I'm a C.D person really but have just started reading about Transactional Analysis cos the therapist I'm seeing uses it.
I was absolutely fascinated when she picked up on a situation where a "friend" told me she was going for a coffee with my ex. I'd presented it as okay but irritating. My therapist said it sounded like she was being "parent", hoping to put me in "child". It succeeded but that turned out to be a good thing as I was about to perform on stage and being emotional helped me. When I told the therapist my friend was quite controlling she said "Ah, she wouldn't have liked to go into child herself just before going on stage, but it suited you because that's where you contact your feelings".
She also said that a drunk man who heckled me at a gig was probably responding more sensitively to my poems than anyone else because alcohol puts you in "child".
I'd heard of the ego states through being on here- but not read much T.A. Now I've devoured an introduction to TA and have got two of Eric Berne's books (including Games People Play). Because I can sometimes be a bit naive about other people's motivation I have found the concept of games and drivers etc absolutely fascinating and revealing.
I just wanted to ask if any of you had found TA concepts useful in your life beyond dieting? Any examples of "games" yoou've seen being played out in your life?
(For example, I think me and my ex may have been engaged in a game of "Kick me" and "Now I've got you, son of a *****" as described by Eric Berne. I did always desperately want to relate to him Adult to Adult but I think we made each other too sensitive. He always played the victim in his life, and I was angry with him for past hurts he'd done me and must have known we were in a negative way of relating.)
I'm a C.D person really but have just started reading about Transactional Analysis cos the therapist I'm seeing uses it.
I was absolutely fascinated when she picked up on a situation where a "friend" told me she was going for a coffee with my ex. I'd presented it as okay but irritating. My therapist said it sounded like she was being "parent", hoping to put me in "child". It succeeded but that turned out to be a good thing as I was about to perform on stage and being emotional helped me. When I told the therapist my friend was quite controlling she said "Ah, she wouldn't have liked to go into child herself just before going on stage, but it suited you because that's where you contact your feelings".
She also said that a drunk man who heckled me at a gig was probably responding more sensitively to my poems than anyone else because alcohol puts you in "child".
I'd heard of the ego states through being on here- but not read much T.A. Now I've devoured an introduction to TA and have got two of Eric Berne's books (including Games People Play). Because I can sometimes be a bit naive about other people's motivation I have found the concept of games and drivers etc absolutely fascinating and revealing.
I just wanted to ask if any of you had found TA concepts useful in your life beyond dieting? Any examples of "games" yoou've seen being played out in your life?
(For example, I think me and my ex may have been engaged in a game of "Kick me" and "Now I've got you, son of a *****" as described by Eric Berne. I did always desperately want to relate to him Adult to Adult but I think we made each other too sensitive. He always played the victim in his life, and I was angry with him for past hurts he'd done me and must have known we were in a negative way of relating.)