Unsupportive friend - PART 2!!!

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  1. Tracie Green

    Tracie Green Silver Member

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    hi all, hope you all had a good weekend and were good x

    I fell off the wagon a tiny bit but managed to lose 5lb this week!! :eek: any way, i posted a few weeks ago about an unsupportive freind and alot of you suggested she was jelous and oh my god that was confirmed this weekend!! we were out in town for a birthday night out, and had said to myself that i wasnt going to mention my weight loss because of how she was before, but she bought it up and remarked on how good i looked which is great and i thought.. ooo we have a turn around maybe... no! she then went onto continue saying that my 9 and a half stone was too ambitious and then said well what about me when you get down to that weight, ill then be fat. there it is!!! unbelievable!! so yep im "the fat friend" in her eyes arnt i!!! gggggr its made me even more determind though go me!!!!! i will do it!!! now in week 7 x;)
     
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  3. Claire1981

    Claire1981 Is so very nearly there!

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    OMFG!!

    How bad is that - I would ask her what her prob is and to get a grip of herself

    Come on girl let her be the fat friend :)
    x
     
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  4. Susiewoosie

    Susiewoosie In it to lose it

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    You show her. That's the best attitude. Great news about the 5lb though.:girlpower:
     
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  5. Tracie Green

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    thanks girls x x i will show her x x x
     
  6. biggirl86

    biggirl86 Postaholic/lurker!

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    That reminds me...
    I was the one with the friends who were size 8/10 who would say that they look fat! Back when I was a size 12/14 I thought "What does that make me then!". It really winds me up when people do that, they just want compliments.
    Your friend probably has the thought that if there was a man that he would prefer her over you because you are bigger. Not that she wants a man or anything but women are like that at times - they just want to be noticed.

    You keep going strong girl!
     
  7. Gene Genie

    Gene Genie Mad as cheese

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    id personally just slap the silly moo :| :D you can do it sod her
     
  8. Rachella

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    She is obviously insecure herself if she says hurtful things like that!

    I started SW last year then stopped because I broke my foot... but when I first started I told a friend at work that I'd lost a couple of pounds in the first week and how happy I was... all she said was 'yeah well don't go overboard, look after yourself' and just by the tone of voice and choice of words I could tell she was a bit perturbed that I was finally doing something about my weight. I would understand that sort of comment if I'd lost 2 stone in the space of a week but it was nothing like that!

    She was obviously insecure about me getting thinner than her for some reason... it's almost as if some people see weight as being a big part of an imaginary 'friendship hierarchy system'.

    Anyway just try and ignore silly comments from friends, they're obviously the one with the problem, not you! Congrats on your weight loss so far and keep positive x
     
  9. BrittW

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    Sorry but... why is this woman in your life?

    Silly, jealous and quite obviously insecure.
     
  10. SpaceAngel

    SpaceAngel I ate my willpower!

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    Cheeky Moo!

    I joined SW with my mate and every week she says, there is no way I am going to lose, I have been bad etc, and every week she has lost, without fail. It's just an attention seeking thing.

    If you lose weight then it means she will have to look at herself and lose a few pounds. I have always been the "fat friend" but in general my best friend has always encouraged me to lose the weight, so long as I am not slimmer than her!
     
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    then said well what about me when you get down to that weight, ill then be fat...

    I would have laughed, looked her up and down and said "yeah you will be wont you!!" :p
     
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  12. Claire1981

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    Right well.... I have 2 friends (sisters) been friends since school - one will be my bridesmaid.... She is 6ft tall n a size 10 Iv always been bigger than both of them buts its never been an issue! Nothing ever said unless said by me..Yet I have another friend who is about a size 22 (lost a few stone at beg of yr using tablets) but now gone bk to original weight and looks bigger imo... Me dieting with her is an issue, We went to Morrisons the other day and had brekkie - I have a bowl of Special K and she had a FULL English Brekkie and made a HUGE issue of it.... and when I was a size 18 I got a few sarcy comments etc etc - very odd if you ask me how sum ppl are....

    I know that the more I lose the unhappier she is and will pick at anything but I could not give a toss... its coz she aint happy not my prob if she wants to do summat its up to her!

    Friends who needs em! x
     
  13. kjs1628

    kjs1628 Surely....

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    i have only lost a lot of weight once, between children when I shifted 2 1/2 stone. I decided that I was not gouing to tell people I was dieting, partly because I didn't want to and partly because I wanted to see whether people noticed because i looked different, rather than because I'd told them. i swear this was my most successful weight loss attempt ever because i wasn't burdened by other people's negative comments and because i knew that any positive comments were genuine.

    I do think people, girls espesh, struggle with other people's weight loss if they are trying to lose weight themselves. one of my closest friends is also doing sw at the mo, and she only ever tells me her weight loss if it's big. it's also the only time she asks me how I'm doing! But that's fine - it's her way of doing it, and to be honest i wouldn't handle it very well if she was losing loads more than me either.

    i don't think you need to have an argument with your friend - I think you need to pity her and use her issues to spur you on to greatness. Sod her!
     
  14. Minders

    Minders Finding inspiration

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    Next time she makes a comment like that, just smile and invite her to SW class with you. Give the responsibility for her weight back to her. :)
     
  15. gillybeans

    gillybeans want to be me again ...

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    strange how the green eyed monster pops up !
    I remember years ago a good 'friend ' telling me how its a shame i am overweight as i have such a lovely face!!! was that a compliment or what hahahaha
    keep going girl .. you look fantastic xxx
     
  16. bettylollypop

    bettylollypop soon to be skinny minnie

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    I agree with what everyone has said, your 9.5 stone isn't too ambitious. You will achieve it. You just show her. I hate people that make comments like that. She doesn't realise that her wee sarcy comments are making you more determined. You lose that weight for yourself. As long as you are happy with yourself that is the main thing. She is obviously not happy in herself.
     
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    I'd have had to have said something by now, what a cow! Just ignore her, and achieve your goals then she can be the 'fat friend'...
     
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    i intend to haha!! x x x i will do oit!! x
     
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