nzmegs
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Conversation with hubby last night:
Me: When I reach my goal and have completed maintenance and I want to eat a food which I would have normally considered to be off-limits (such as desserts, biscuits, cake etc) can I rely on you to not make any comment about if I should be eating that or give me the old "look".I want to feel that I can eat anything I want when you are around and not feel like I have to hide my eating.
Him: The fact you asked that question makes me wonder if you have learnt anything at all while on LL. I can't promise to say nothing because if I see your eating getting out of control I will say so.
Me: I want to do that for myself. I need to be trusted that i am capable of working out for myself what I need or want and what I am able to eat or not eat. I am a normal weight - I just want to feel normal.
Anyway - the problem is that I will always feel uncomfortable eating "treats" (sorry about that word but it sums up how I feel about sugary foods) around my family. They have seen me avoiding those foods for years (and then not seen me eating them as often as possible at other times...).
I want to break that cycle and (within limits which I will set for myself) I want to eat in the same ways that other people do. With no guilt.
How do I lose that guilt associated with these "bad" foods and allow myself to eat them around other people in an open way? I will always feel like my husband is looking over my shoulder and I worry I will simply go back to eating in secret.
Should I just admit to myself that sugary foods are off limits for me altogether? I openly admit I am sugar addicted.
I just hate feeling like i am being watched. I have said that no one else has to right to question what I am eating. I am healthy and a healthy weight, so why should anyone else feel like they can comment? Is it just a habit that my husband has gotten into as well? How do i deal with it?
He is very slim and fit, by the way...
Me: When I reach my goal and have completed maintenance and I want to eat a food which I would have normally considered to be off-limits (such as desserts, biscuits, cake etc) can I rely on you to not make any comment about if I should be eating that or give me the old "look".I want to feel that I can eat anything I want when you are around and not feel like I have to hide my eating.
Him: The fact you asked that question makes me wonder if you have learnt anything at all while on LL. I can't promise to say nothing because if I see your eating getting out of control I will say so.
Me: I want to do that for myself. I need to be trusted that i am capable of working out for myself what I need or want and what I am able to eat or not eat. I am a normal weight - I just want to feel normal.
Anyway - the problem is that I will always feel uncomfortable eating "treats" (sorry about that word but it sums up how I feel about sugary foods) around my family. They have seen me avoiding those foods for years (and then not seen me eating them as often as possible at other times...).
I want to break that cycle and (within limits which I will set for myself) I want to eat in the same ways that other people do. With no guilt.
How do I lose that guilt associated with these "bad" foods and allow myself to eat them around other people in an open way? I will always feel like my husband is looking over my shoulder and I worry I will simply go back to eating in secret.
Should I just admit to myself that sugary foods are off limits for me altogether? I openly admit I am sugar addicted.
I just hate feeling like i am being watched. I have said that no one else has to right to question what I am eating. I am healthy and a healthy weight, so why should anyone else feel like they can comment? Is it just a habit that my husband has gotten into as well? How do i deal with it?
He is very slim and fit, by the way...