when other people cook for you

[lilpixiesue]

been so good all week, went out for a curry and stuck to a chicken dhansak and plain rice, didn't eat all of it, diet coke instead of wine etc... went out last night and stuck to 2 vodka and diet cokes and said no to several free jaegerbombs...

then went round to the inlaws for sunday roast and it all went wrong! Potatoes swimming in oil, cabbage cooked in butter, gravy with beef fat, etc etc! MIL put everything on my plate and gave it to me, i didn't have a chance to say no gravy etc. I did say no to pudding though.

I really hope this one meal didn't undo all my hard work! It was a little frustrating as I was just looking at the dinner thinking it would be so easy to make a syn free version

But of course i was grateful to be invited for dinner and have someone else cook for me - and am not going to be that person who refuses to eat if it isn't diet friendly.

WI tomorrow, I really hope I haven't ruined the whole week...

 

[donna88]

I hate other people cooking for me to be honest, the only ones I can manage are my friend who is also on slimming world (although sometimes she's not 100% with it) and my mum because I've converted her to frylight.

When we have to go to my boyfriends mums or to our friends I really hate it. I just feel really bad when a whole meal is over your days syns but you could have made it syn free or low syn and possibly been nicer as well

 

[ScarlettStar86]

I had this over easter weekend, we were invited to my boyfriends parents for a roast and I knew it was chicken so planned to fill up on veg and chicken and syn two roast potatoes and a bit of gravy. Got there and other than the peas (which had a big dollop of butter over them in the bowl!), all the veg had been covered in oil and roasted. Ate one bit of each veg to be polite but felt so annoyed about it especially as they know im on sw and spent the whole meal taking the mick out of the fact sw has "syns" and asking if I'm allowed a pudding it is it sinning too much. Was so peed off I got my boyfriend to have a word! I know they weren't being intentionally horrible but the joke went way too far to be funny and I could see my bf was really annoyed with it too. I make sure I'm prepared with plenty of syns when I go now so I have the pudding too and they can't say anything!

 

[sunshine24]

That's not nice at all, i can understand you being annoyed!

The 'jokes' really only seem to be funny to the people who aren't trying to improve their health by loosing weight don't they!? This is the main reason I don't tell people I'm on SW coz their jokes don't make me laugh!

Xx

 

[ScarlettStar86]

Exactly why I didn't tell anyone other than my boyfriend for ages and after that wish I hadn't mentioned it. I didn't have much to loose to be fair, I've got my one stone award and am now 6lbs from target so i think because i keep getting the "oh you don't need to lose weight" all the time people think its ok to take the p*ss like I'm becoming obsessed with it or something. When people started noticing I had lost weight and asking questions I told them about sw thinking they could see it was working for me so they wouldn't make fun but I was obviously wrong. I know its not directed at me, but when its such a big part of your life and you are working so hard for something it is hard not to take it personally. x

 

[Xcharlibobx]

I'm know this feeling well! I used to live with my in-laws & they were rude whenever I said I'd cook my own dinner to stay within syns! And if I cooked for them they'd all complain the food had no taste & put butter & salt on everything (I'm actually a very good cook according to my friends & family) & it really disheartened me. They ostracised me so much, I moved out!!

Even now they make fun if I even mention being healthier when I'm there, you'd think after I've lost 3 st & got their son to lose too they'd be a bit nicer! Luckily my mum is also on SW so my family are used to it lol

Most of the time I think it's because people are ashamed. So many could do with being healthier, when they see you trying so hard they are embarrassed that they do nothing themselves & attempt to sabotage (whether intentional or not). I've given up telling people & if I can't eat something blame it on my IBS, because for some reason that's more acceptable than trying to lose weight!!

I think it's such a shame that we feel we should hide such a positive thing from people, but I know I do & tbh I have to for my own sanity! But remember you're doing this for YOU. As hard as it is, let them laugh, let them mock & allow yourself the smug feeling that you are doing something amazing with your life & no one can take that from you

Charli XxX

 

[lilpixiesue]

its funny how people react when you say you are trying to lose weight. I went out at the weekend and was only drinkin diet coke to stay within syns. Someone i'd only jst met was buying a round and was trying to get me to drink spirits and I said no, when she asked why i said i was trying to lose weight, she said "ah, you're fine, don't be daft, have a drink, you look fine" etc. Which is nicer than someone looking at me and saying, ah yes of course LOL but still annoying. Next time i go out i'm telling people i am a recovering alcoholic, that'll stop the pressure to drink!!

(oh and I lost this week, so was definitely worth stiking to my diet coke! Ha!)

 

[Keldelacoe]

I'm know this feeling well! I used to live with my in-laws & they were rude whenever I said I'd cook my own dinner to stay within syns! And if I cooked for them they'd all complain the food had no taste & put butter & salt on everything (I'm actually a very good cook according to my friends & family) & it really disheartened me. They ostracised me so much, I moved out!!

Even now they make fun if I even mention being healthier when I'm there, you'd think after I've lost 3 st & got their son to lose too they'd be a bit nicer! Luckily my mum is also on SW so my family are used to it lol

Most of the time I think it's because people are ashamed. So many could do with being healthier, when they see you trying so hard they are embarrassed that they do nothing themselves & attempt to sabotage (whether intentional or not). I've given up telling people & if I can't eat something blame it on my IBS, because for some reason that's more acceptable than trying to lose weight!!

I think it's such a shame that we feel we should hide such a positive thing from people, but I know I do & tbh I have to for my own sanity! But remember you're doing this for YOU. As hard as it is, let them laugh, let them mock & allow yourself the smug feeling that you are doing something amazing with your life & no one can take that from you

Charli XxX

I totally agree! I have come to blaming made up I tolerates and ibs etc... How sad we have to do it. My dad came to stay and although he doesn't have a bad bone in his body he really peed me off as he insisted on havng different than the meals I cooked and all earlier than I ate...he was over to help whilist my hub was out of the country but made live harder! He also said I was a pig as I ate so much.... Yeah cheers lol

 

[gazter]

been so good all week, went out for a curry and stuck to a chicken dhansak and plain rice, didn't eat all of it, diet coke instead of wine etc... went out last night and stuck to 2 vodka and diet cokes and said no to several free jaegerbombs...

then went round to the inlaws for sunday roast and it all went wrong! Potatoes swimming in oil, cabbage cooked in butter, gravy with beef fat, etc etc! MIL put everything on my plate and gave it to me, i didn't have a chance to say no gravy etc. I did say no to pudding though.

I really hope this one meal didn't undo all my hard work! It was a little frustrating as I was just looking at the dinner thinking it would be so easy to make a syn free version

But of course i was grateful to be invited for dinner and have someone else cook for me - and am not going to be that person who refuses to eat if it isn't diet friendly.

WI tomorrow, I really hope I haven't ruined the whole week...

Sometimes it's hard to be mad at people. A friend offered to cook for myself and an other friend of mine who is also on SW. The person doing the cooking told us she knew all about SW and it would be ok.

The dinner was creamy chicken with pasta. Not a piece of superfree in sight, and then afterwards cheese and crackers.

It was really nice of them to cook for us, but it was just all wrong. It wouldnt have taken much to make it SW friendly as well.