I hate the word ‘cheating’, but I’ll use that for want of a better word.
Is a person who cheats, better than a person who doesn’t? Nah. Neither is the better person the one that goes through the diet without cheating. They are both equal when it comes to their aims and what they want from the diet. You can chose your idea of a good person based on many other things, but not on how they do their diet. That’s their personal choice.
Imagine this scenario. Janet and William both want to go from Scotland to Bournemouth. William can’t wait to get there. He’s been promised a huge celebration on his arrival, and he wants to get there as quick as possible.
Janet also wants to get there and will also get that huge celebration on arrival but she would really like to visit some family on the way. She loves Aunt Mavis. She is happy to make the journey longer, because she really wants to see her.
There are risks though. She might plan for a 20 minute stay, but she knows that other members of the family might pop in, and the visit could be much longer. She has to make a decision. Is it worth it to her? Does she actually want to stay longer and see them all, or does she want to get to Bournemouth as soon as possible (like William).
Either way, doesn’t make her good or bad. She needs to make that decision, aware of the consequences and decide on what she really wants the most. A speedy arrival, or a later one. She could consider leaving off the visit and making a phone call to Aunt Mavis when she arrives in Scotland but she might not want to. It’s her choice.
As long as she is aware of the alternatives, and bases her choice on what she really wants, with no regrets, then she’s a winner.
Same goes for William. If he really and truly wants to get to Bournemouth more than visit his Aunt Ethel, then not stopping off is a better choice for him. Either way doesn’t make one person better than the other.
I think that as long as everyone weighs up the pros and cons, can tackle the consequences (longer stay at Aunt Mavis’s or no chance for stopping for some relief from the journey) then both parties should be happy with their personal choice.
It’s the same with this diet. We are all individual. We have different dreams and needs. We are at different stages in our lives and what might seem easy at one time might feel incredibly difficult at another.
We have different pressures. We hate and love different things. Sometimes it’s important for us to get to places quickly, sometimes it doesn’t matter so much. Others things are more ‘pressing’.
Of course, it’s great when people give suggestions on how to make that journey quicker without too much compromise ie phoning Aunt Mavis on arrival, rather than stopping on the way. Or reminding people that the visit may take longer than expected, and to be warned, so they can then weigh up the options.
Whichever way you decide to do your journey is fine, as along as you are aware of the choices and accept the consequences. No beatings up allowed, because after all, you’ve made that decision based on what you really want and what you want might be a completely different thing to the next person.
So, map your journey. Know your choices; think through alternate options and what you really want. Then be happy with your decision, because you’ve made the right one for you, just as William made the right one for him. As along as your decision isn’t one that you may regret long term.
Personally, it makes no odds to me what way people come. Just that I would like to see them have a safe and happy journey, and arrive at some point because it’s fab here
Is a person who cheats, better than a person who doesn’t? Nah. Neither is the better person the one that goes through the diet without cheating. They are both equal when it comes to their aims and what they want from the diet. You can chose your idea of a good person based on many other things, but not on how they do their diet. That’s their personal choice.
Imagine this scenario. Janet and William both want to go from Scotland to Bournemouth. William can’t wait to get there. He’s been promised a huge celebration on his arrival, and he wants to get there as quick as possible.
Janet also wants to get there and will also get that huge celebration on arrival but she would really like to visit some family on the way. She loves Aunt Mavis. She is happy to make the journey longer, because she really wants to see her.
There are risks though. She might plan for a 20 minute stay, but she knows that other members of the family might pop in, and the visit could be much longer. She has to make a decision. Is it worth it to her? Does she actually want to stay longer and see them all, or does she want to get to Bournemouth as soon as possible (like William).
Either way, doesn’t make her good or bad. She needs to make that decision, aware of the consequences and decide on what she really wants the most. A speedy arrival, or a later one. She could consider leaving off the visit and making a phone call to Aunt Mavis when she arrives in Scotland but she might not want to. It’s her choice.
As long as she is aware of the alternatives, and bases her choice on what she really wants, with no regrets, then she’s a winner.
Same goes for William. If he really and truly wants to get to Bournemouth more than visit his Aunt Ethel, then not stopping off is a better choice for him. Either way doesn’t make one person better than the other.
I think that as long as everyone weighs up the pros and cons, can tackle the consequences (longer stay at Aunt Mavis’s or no chance for stopping for some relief from the journey) then both parties should be happy with their personal choice.
It’s the same with this diet. We are all individual. We have different dreams and needs. We are at different stages in our lives and what might seem easy at one time might feel incredibly difficult at another.
We have different pressures. We hate and love different things. Sometimes it’s important for us to get to places quickly, sometimes it doesn’t matter so much. Others things are more ‘pressing’.
Of course, it’s great when people give suggestions on how to make that journey quicker without too much compromise ie phoning Aunt Mavis on arrival, rather than stopping on the way. Or reminding people that the visit may take longer than expected, and to be warned, so they can then weigh up the options.
Whichever way you decide to do your journey is fine, as along as you are aware of the choices and accept the consequences. No beatings up allowed, because after all, you’ve made that decision based on what you really want and what you want might be a completely different thing to the next person.
So, map your journey. Know your choices; think through alternate options and what you really want. Then be happy with your decision, because you’ve made the right one for you, just as William made the right one for him. As along as your decision isn’t one that you may regret long term.
Personally, it makes no odds to me what way people come. Just that I would like to see them have a safe and happy journey, and arrive at some point because it’s fab here
