why do i keep sabotaging myself

[kelly.]

My wish in life is to be thin again id even sell my soul to be honest, i really hate my self at the moment because i keep sabaotaging myself....

when i do exante 100% i end up getting to day 3 then binging or i do a week or so but drink a million cups of tea with milk...

im telling myself thats it tomorrow im going to do it this time but well looking at my past record i dont know i really want too... ive done it before for 2 months 100% ans lost 2 stone so i know i can do it but why cant i do it now ????????

please help any advise would be great am i the only one that keeps sabotaging there selfs....:cry:

 

[Katt]

*hugs* sorry you are finding it hard hun - I think we all have times where we are our own worst enemy

Have you tried putting pictures of yourself that you hate all around the kitchen? So that you are forced to think about every food decision you make?

I internally tell myself off if I feel I am about to give in - I have spent the last 18 days thinking food is the enemy and it got me fat so I don't want/need it and so far I have not had anything but I won't say that I don't feel hungry or bored sometimes. I am really strict - I don't even have tea because I won't risk the milk (not sure how I have coped with that one) as it may lead to me just having a little of this or that and then I know I would be lost - I am almost seeing this as punishment for getting where I am so I have no sympathy for myself (I sound mad lol but it works for me)

It is easy to feel down and eat and we have all done it and then you feel like crap afterwards and it just ends up happening again. Please don't feel bad that you are in this situation you are only human and we all find things hard at times and a diet like this does take a hell of a lot of willpower and drive and sometimes it can seem like we are never going to be allowed food again - but soon you will be a new you and you can wear beautiful clothes, feel good about yourself and eat anything you want in moderation without feeling bad about yourself - come on hun you can and WILL do this! One day at a time

 

[kay80]

Hi kelly, im feelin exactly the same way im havin & bad dys but not 100% TS. This is doin my head in.im an all or nothing persn & im finding getting bk on it do tough.
Katt ur words r so true we are worth & ur motivational words really help. C im fine all day then cme eve dinner with the in law & it all f*uked up ( he doesnt knw im on exante) but hubby is very supportive. Its so tough!

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[kelly.]

Thank you Katt and Kay im going to keep in my head what you both said and your both so right ! This is my day 1 again so im going to be re reading what you said throught out the day to keep me stronge...

hugs girls and thanks xx

 

[dawndesperatetoloose!]

Hi Kelly, I just keep thinking 12 weeks is nothing, after years of being miserable (and desperate too) about my weight. Honestly must be 35+ years of sheer misery about my weight.
If I could do 3 months here and get myself 'right' then bloomin heck got to be worth it.
Try a count down maybe...one day at a time...if theres a slip so what, new day tomorrow.
I just keep thinking...only 3 months!
Good luck Kelly!

 

[kelly.]

Thank you i know its not really a long time but it sure feels like it while your on it lol my husband keeps saying that i gave stuff up when i was pregnant so whats 4 months when your preg for 9 lol

its so hard when your cooking for the kids and the smells are going round your heart lol

im going to look out horrible pics of my self and put them up every where im miserable as sin being fat so i dont know why im finding it hard :cry:

i know i can do it i done it before i just need 2keeps under my belt and then it will be plain sailling

 

[Scanbran]

Yep, I know exactly how that feels, Kelly.

In 17 years of me trying to lose weight, I have managed to do it significantly exactly twice.

Once when I was 22, and very highly motivated with great reasons to do it, and then again last year.

Motivation is the key issue. I think you need to have a reason which will maintain your focus.

I recently put almost 2st back on through general lazing about and eating the wrong things all the time, and I have arranged a meeting with some old friends at the end of September. The reason here is that I don't want them to see me at the weight I am at, so I've got until then to lose what I gained.

For me, this makes me retain focus, so that when I'm buying chips for the rest of the family, making cheese on toast for supper, or buying the kids sweets, I am fully aware of the consequences of eating even one wrong thing throwing me off my plans, and therefore far less tempted.

Short term goals are the best tool for me.

Also, I like the idea of photos put up around you. I have around a dozen extremely unflattering pictures posted up by the side of my bed so that I am reminded of them every morning and every evening.

Good luck!

 

[kelly.]

thank you im already thinking just start tomorrow so i thought jump on minimins im thinking what to do for the kids lunch but its making me think i want it too its a crazy situation i wish food would disapear till i hit targot lol

good luck in loosing your weight when you meet your friends xx

 

[Scanbran]

good luck in loosing your weight when you meet your friends xx

Thanks for that

 

[Katt]

I have only managed to get my weight down once before when I was about 18 and it lasted until I was 21. I lost a bit for my wedding but I was around 14 stone for it so I didn't try that hard!

You really really need to want it more than anything else in your life because otherwise the negative thoughts and self doubts creep in - I know I have had lots of them over the years!

On a bad day it is so easy to feel sorry for ourselves because we are deprived of so much on a diet like this and that is hard physically and emotionally so it is easy to see why people do have bad days - it is really hard to keep having good ones but I am thinking by Christmas it should all be over and I can spend 2012 being happy and proud of myself and that thought gets me through.

I also set time targets to have pack by and if I am hungry between those times it is tough - so I drink lots instead! It does help because I am always thinking 'oh I can't have anything it is not time yet' lol

I am also an all or nothing type and I know if I even ate one thing I shouldn't I am likely to think 'Oh well, ruined that...I may as well eat now' Hence why I am so strict with myself because I know my internal voice will be making excuses for me and I can't listen to it

We all have our own way of dealing with each day but the most important thing to remember is you are here and you are trying your best and some days will be good and some will be bad but in the end you will get there

 

[Catscratch]

My wish in life is to be thin again id even sell my soul to be honest, i really hate my self at the moment because i keep sabaotaging myself....

when i do exante 100% i end up getting to day 3 then binging or i do a week or so but drink a million cups of tea with milk...

im telling myself thats it tomorrow im going to do it this time but well looking at my past record i dont know i really want too... ive done it before for 2 months 100% ans lost 2 stone so i know i can do it but why cant i do it now ????????

please help any advise would be great am i the only one that keeps sabotaging there selfs....:cry:

Hi Kelly,
I have messed about with diets for years, in fact since I had my kids and the youngest is now 29...... This is the first time I have really stuck to anything, my motivation is that we are going to visit our daughter in Australia end of October and from past experience there I would melt at the weight I was. Exante is wonderful, I find it easy ( well after the first week). You need some kind of motavation, if you haven't any events coming up how about promising yourself something really special for Christmas, even put money away for every pound you lose.
As for the milk in tea, I have had milk in my tea ever since I started, maybe I would of lost more if I hadn't but I'm happy with 42lb in 11 weeks... Come on, give it a go, come on here regular, we'll all support you...:grouphugg: