Went to the hairdressers yesterday to treat myself to a new hair do (blonde streaks and funky layers yay) and was discussing the diet with the hairdresser, as you do, and the woman next to me piped up and announced "I went on the Cambridge Diet and lost loads of weight then came off it and put it all back on again plus some more". I know she wasn't being mean and I know that it can and does happen but it really scares me. A lot of people just tell me I'll put it all back on again and now I'm thinking I should never have started this diet. I can't possibly face being heavier than I was to start with.
Do people actually tell you that YOU WILL put weight back on plus more or are the just pointing out the inescapable facts that the majority of individuals do end up doing so?
One thing I have learnt about myself is that I was very good at putting my own slant on peoples comments. It wasn't them making me feel bad it was me making me feel bad!
Perhaps the comments are merely opening up an issue in your mind which is frightening but they are not actually saying that this will happen to you.
You have a big advantage over normal dieters in that you have found minimins and can benefit hugely from the lessons our members have already learnt. Minimins isn't the usual happy clappy clubs that give great pep talks but give you few clues on how to deal with your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors which is the crux of losing the weight in the first place and then keeping it off.
Just because 9 out of 10 dieters do gain back their weight doesn't in any way shape or form dictate that you will be one of them. You have advantages over other dieters in that you have reached the zone you need to be in to successfully diet. I wonder how many of those 9 out of 10 weren't actually in the zone and just making another healf hearted ill thought out attempt because I know they should be doing something.
Let me put it this way, I have had far more than 10 half hearted ill thought out goes at losing weight. I did not manage to lose all the weight I needed to and still worse I didn't manage to maintain the small amount of weightloss I did acheive which put me in that 9/10 band every time.
You could say that my history made me more likely never to succeed but that is absolute crap. I was never 'in the zone' on previous attempts, I never did LL before, I was never dieting as the same person I am right now.
In short, the sistuation I found myself in back in May when I started out can not be compared to any of my other attempts but by heck I learnt from the failures.
The comments others make about most dieters bunging all the weight back on is absolutely right. You have the choice as to whether this will make you give up and not bother because of the maths or whether you thank your lucky stars that they have reminded you so that you can consider how your life needs to change to make you that 1 in 10 that do not.
This isn't about what others say to you, it is about how you allow yourself to feel in response to them