5 stone 7lb to lose - I will be slim when my hubby comes home

[Escapade]

Thanks everyone, still plodding along. The exante products I had from my friend run out yesterday and I had a good think about my relationship with food and why Im desperate to lose my weight so quickly.

Am I going to suddenly feel so much better about myself just because Ive lost weight fast? Am I going to get a better relationship with food by doing food replacement? For some reason I got it into my head I had to be at goal for when hubby got home.... but why.... I was 12 and a half stone when I met him and 13 stone when we got married, he knew me and loved me when I was 16 stone, he loved me just the same at 9 stone, he always tells me how proud he is Im his wife, even when Im an obese mess, he loves me just the same, he has never once told me I need to lose weight, in fact he hated it when I was on Exante last time because he didn't think it was healthy so why do I feel that I need to lose 5 and a half stone before he comes home... why am I desperate to lose as much as physically possible before he gets leave in March and even if I do manage it, will I have learnt enough to not regain?

Anyway Ive decided to just stick with myfitnesspal, if I stick to the calories on there, I should lose around 2lbs a week, that's still 8lbs a month and as he is away for around 7 months that could see me lose another 50lbs easy, even if I didn't get 2lbs every week, 59lb if you include what ive already lost, so I would be down to just over 11stone and hopefully by doing it by healthy eating, I will learn portion size and healthy ways to eat things I like. Im still going to try and cut back on the carbs and stay away from high fat, high calorie stuff, lots of salads etc but Im not sure I can justify spending over £100 a month on food when Im not sure I can stick to it 100% as its just a waste of money.

 

[girlsbig98]

Have you looked into slim and save. They are wonderful and much cheaper and have a wider variety than exante. I have been on the plan a few weeks now and i have lost quite a bit of weight. Im hoping to be at my 2 stone mark next week. With slim and save you can also eat "normal" food like veggies. I bought their taster pack at £28 and they dont tie you into anything. Its a weeks worth of products and is a mixture of shakes, soups, meals and bars.
I can sort of relate to what you are going through as i have a friend whos husband goes away on tour and i know how hard it was for her. He'll be back before you know it. I wish you the best of luck. We are all here behind you. Let me know how you get on. Check out their website hunny. xoxo

 

[emmaedes]

Thanks everyone, still plodding along. The exante products I had from my friend run out yesterday and I had a good think about my relationship with food and why Im desperate to lose my weight so quickly.

Am I going to suddenly feel so much better about myself just because Ive lost weight fast? Am I going to get a better relationship with food by doing food replacement? For some reason I got it into my head I had to be at goal for when hubby got home.... but why.... I was 12 and a half stone when I met him and 13 stone when we got married, he knew me and loved me when I was 16 stone, he loved me just the same at 9 stone, he always tells me how proud he is Im his wife, even when Im an obese mess, he loves me just the same, he has never once told me I need to lose weight, in fact he hated it when I was on Exante last time because he didn't think it was healthy so why do I feel that I need to lose 5 and a half stone before he comes home... why am I desperate to lose as much as physically possible before he gets leave in March and even if I do manage it, will I have learnt enough to not regain?

Anyway Ive decided to just stick with myfitnesspal, if I stick to the calories on there, I should lose around 2lbs a week, that's still 8lbs a month and as he is away for around 7 months that could see me lose another 50lbs easy, even if I didn't get 2lbs every week, 59lb if you include what ive already lost, so I would be down to just over 11stone and hopefully by doing it by healthy eating, I will learn portion size and healthy ways to eat things I like. Im still going to try and cut back on the carbs and stay away from high fat, high calorie stuff, lots of salads etc but Im not sure I can justify spending over £100 a month on food when Im not sure I can stick to it 100% as its just a waste of money.

Hi lovely,

I think you have made the right decision! i think doing it gave you a massive kick start which is amazing, but the only hard thing about those diets is that eventually you have to eat and its those habbits and problems that need sorting.

This is what i was thinking, i want the weight gone ASAP but is there a point if its going to come straight back on! this is why im doing Slimming World, it teaches you to eat fresh food, and it cuts back on your carbs and processed foods. So it is basically healthy eating!

whatever you decide to do then everyone is here to support you

i think if you lose weight and change your lifestyle thats always better than just losing weight if you see what i mean.

With me i eat when im stressed, bored, unhappy and lonely.....on the other end i use it as celebration, happy occasions etc etc! I read Paul McKenna's i can make you thin and that was great!!! it made me really look at my habbits and i did break them, until i stopped reading the book! silly me.

xxxx

 

[Escapade]

Thanks everyone.

I did look at slim and save but I still think despite food replacement working for me before, it didn't teach me how to eat properly and I just regained it all, I don't want to keep going from healthy weight to obese

Yesterday I made a batch of honeyed carrot soup, mega easy to make and so yummy! And only 116 calories a serving! Im going to be a total bore and list everything I eat on here so I can keep track of what ive eaten.

Breakfast - Weetabix with semi skimmed milk and a teaspoon of sweetner - 182 cal

Lunch - honeyed carrot soup - 116 cal
pack of quavers - 88 cals

Dinner - mango chicken noodles - 484 cal

Total cals - 870

But I did make a Christmas cake for the Christmas coffee morning on camp and I couldn't stop myself licking the bowl so that was probably another 100 calories or so say 1000 calories yesterday

No calories for drinks as I only drank water. I should be aiming for around 1200 calories a day but Im sure some days will be better then others so Im not going to stress about being a couple of hundred calories below target on some days.

I've spent a lot of time looking on the internet for different types of diets and healthy eating plans to try and plan ahead for how I am going to maintain once I get to goal, Im thinking something based around the 5-2 diet plan might be the way forward. For me to maintain 10 stone I would need to consume around 1800 calories, so that's 12600 calories a week, if I had 2 days at 500 calories = 1000, 3 days on 1800 calories = 5400, which would mean I could have 2 days at 3100 calories a day so I could have a meal out or take away and some wine at weekends and still stay within my weekly calorie allowance. That's the idea anyway, I think I could easily stay within 500 calories by having Weetabix for breakfast, soup for lunch and chicken salad for dinner would be around 565 and I think as long as I stuck to certain days were low calorie days it would help me remember and stop me from going on mad ones and regaining it all.

Some might say oh I don't want to be counting calories my whole life... well no... no one does but when we have life long issues with food and weight gain, its going to take more then 6 months to a year to learn how to eat properly... we might learn how to cut calories and how to diet... but we wont learn how to eat when we go out into the big wide world of eating "normally". In reality what I class as eating normal, isn't normal... because I gain weight and I gain it fast but I cant diet every single day, I cant spend the rest of my life saying no to things I want... so instead I can say not today but tomorrow or in 2 days etc, I like dinner out and nice food, Im not going to say I don't, its something I enjoy so I just need to find a way that works for me which means I can still have what I like without regaining all the weight I lose.

So the new plan is to hopefully get down to between 11 and a 11 and a half stone by the time hubby gets home which means I have just under 4 stone to lose so say between 50 and 56lbs to lose in 7 months, so 8lb a month which is possible so fingers crossed

 

[emmaedes]

Thanks everyone.

I did look at slim and save but I still think despite food replacement working for me before, it didn't teach me how to eat properly and I just regained it all, I don't want to keep going from healthy weight to obese

Yesterday I made a batch of honeyed carrot soup, mega easy to make and so yummy! And only 116 calories a serving! Im going to be a total bore and list everything I eat on here so I can keep track of what ive eaten.

Breakfast - Weetabix with semi skimmed milk and a teaspoon of sweetner - 182 cal

Lunch - honeyed carrot soup - 116 cal
pack of quavers - 88 cals

Dinner - mango chicken noodles - 484 cal

Total cals - 870

But I did make a Christmas cake for the Christmas coffee morning on camp and I couldn't stop myself licking the bowl so that was probably another 100 calories or so say 1000 calories yesterday

No calories for drinks as I only drank water. I should be aiming for around 1200 calories a day but Im sure some days will be better then others so Im not going to stress about being a couple of hundred calories below target on some days.

I've spent a lot of time looking on the internet for different types of diets and healthy eating plans to try and plan ahead for how I am going to maintain once I get to goal, Im thinking something based around the 5-2 diet plan might be the way forward. For me to maintain 10 stone I would need to consume around 1800 calories, so that's 12600 calories a week, if I had 2 days at 500 calories = 1000, 3 days on 1800 calories = 5400, which would mean I could have 2 days at 3100 calories a day so I could have a meal out or take away and some wine at weekends and still stay within my weekly calorie allowance. That's the idea anyway, I think I could easily stay within 500 calories by having Weetabix for breakfast, soup for lunch and chicken salad for dinner would be around 565 and I think as long as I stuck to certain days were low calorie days it would help me remember and stop me from going on mad ones and regaining it all.

Some might say oh I don't want to be counting calories my whole life... well no... no one does but when we have life long issues with food and weight gain, its going to take more then 6 months to a year to learn how to eat properly... we might learn how to cut calories and how to diet... but we wont learn how to eat when we go out into the big wide world of eating "normally". In reality what I class as eating normal, isn't normal... because I gain weight and I gain it fast but I cant diet every single day, I cant spend the rest of my life saying no to things I want... so instead I can say not today but tomorrow or in 2 days etc, I like dinner out and nice food, Im not going to say I don't, its something I enjoy so I just need to find a way that works for me which means I can still have what I like without regaining all the weight I lose.

So the new plan is to hopefully get down to between 11 and a 11 and a half stone by the time hubby gets home which means I have just under 4 stone to lose so say between 50 and 56lbs to lose in 7 months, so 8lb a month which is possible so fingers crossed

Hello Lovely

this post is such a great one!! im pleased you have thought about things and have found a way that will work for you - and extra points for already thinking about maintaining thats my downfall, always lose weight and then pile it back on because i think i will magically stay slim!! and your right of course no one wants to count calories but in all honesty no one wants to put weight on either so its sort of tough luck! you cant have everything and like you i would prefer to count calories than put on weight.

im really determined now! im sticking to Slimming World and staying on that even at goal - i'll just up my syns to maintain. Its just a way to eat healthy. I think the 5:2 diet is great idea its just really sensible isnt it and is a good way to teach you to eat in moderation and like you say teaches you that if u want a treat then you can have it but it may just be you wait a day - which is a great way of thinking.

How are you feeling now? are you feeling better after making the decision and getting your head clear on the diet front? 8lbs a month is such a realistic goal and hubby will be thrilled to see you anyway regardless of how much you have lost, so anything you lose will be a bonus as im sure will make you fell happier and more confident!!

xxx

 

[Escapade]

Thanks hun, yeah Im not feeling too bad today, had an easy day with food, not feeling hungry or craving anything bad

Today Ive had -

Breakfast - Tesco light choices hotcross bun - 170 cal

Lunch - honeyed carrot soup - 116

Dinner - tin of tuna, sweetcorn, lighter then light mayo and salad - 189 cal

Snacks - melted snowman biscuit - 170
2 Jaffa cakes - 92 cal

Total - 737 calories

Yup... below 1200 goal again... hence why I had the snacks to try and bring it up a bit... but I don't want to sit and eat unhealthy food just to get to 1200

 

[traveljody]

Hiya!

Hope you don't mind me popping in. Your post about your relationship with food really struck a chord with me, see, I don't eat because I am hungry most of the time, I eat because I like the taste of things, or I am bored, or it's something hubby and I do together. It's easy to justify eating by saying 'oh I'm starving' but when I look back at what I was eating and how often, I was really far from starving. I find food is a bit of an emotional and obsessive crutch, I either obsess about eating it or I obsess about not eating it........either way, it's all about food!

I started trying to lose back in August and did ok, just over 10lbs off and I seriously work out these days, at least 4 times a week but usually 5. I've recently started slimming world because I hate calorie counting and I was bored of having to make calories 'fit' a pre determined target, I noticed I'd eat things that weren't particularly good for me, just because they were low enough in calories or sugar. I only started SW last week but spent a few days looking at recipes and reading peoples diaries to see what they were eating and whether I thought it looked sustainable, even for a salad dodger like me. So far, so good, I think, I prep and I eat, voila!

Keep thinking positive and try and stay active too, I know it's hard to get started and keep it up but I get withdrawals if I don't do something for two days running now and I've just started C25K too

 

[traveljody]

You posted whilst I did............

You haven't eaten any fruit or veg (sweetcorn doesn't count as veg really), so whilst your calories are under your goal you aren't eating 'well'. You also have no dairy and no real fibre either. Sorry, I hope you don't think I am being mean, I am not an expert but I know you need to be eating a much more varied and healthy diet my love!

 

[emmaedes]

Thanks hun, yeah Im not feeling too bad today, had an easy day with food, not feeling hungry or craving anything bad Today Ive had - Breakfast - Tesco light choices hotcross bun - 170 cal Lunch - honeyed carrot soup - 116 Dinner - tin of tuna, sweetcorn, lighter then light mayo and salad - 189 cal Snacks - melted snowman biscuit - 170 2 Jaffa cakes - 92 cal Total - 737 calories Yup... allow 1200 goal again... hence why I had the snacks to try and bring it up a bit... but I don't want to sit and eat unhealthy food just to get to 1200

Good news about the cravings!! Wish I could say the same!!! Bloody food wish I could live without it now. I've had enough to last me my lifetime .... Lol

I agree ur doing the right thing no point eating just to up ur calories, if ur not hungry ur not hungry. There's got to be an element of listening to ur body not just ur brain. Sounds like ur getting more tuned into your body.

Xxx

 

[Escapade]

No that's fine Jodie, I normally do have Weetabix and milk for breakfast but had no milk left this morning, but fiber wise, I had 8g where as I should of had 14g, if I had of had my normal breakfast that would of been another 4g of fiber, the carrot soup is homemade with a ton of carrots and I had plenty of salad, not just sweetcorn with my dinner so not overly worried about needing more veg etc in my diet, maybe I could up the fruit I eat but I find fruit makes me really hungry, maybe that's just me though? haha

It is easy to make excuses isn't it, I find any kind of socialising involves either food or drink! If I go and see my female friends, there will be wine and nibbles, if me and hubby go out, normally we'll have dinner, then go out, often to music gigs or to watch bands play in local pubs so that involves drink and I cant sit while everyones drinking and just have a diet coke!

Im sure I'll get days where I get cravings as well Emma :-/ how are you getting on?

 

[Escapade]

Ive tried to up my calories a bit today but still a bit low

Breakfast - Weetabix, semi skimmed milk and teaspoon of sweetner - 182cal

Lunch - honeyed carrot soup - 116cal
wholemeal pitta bread - 170cal

Dinner - Chicken breast - 260 cal
Sweetcorn - 31cal
Lighter then light mayo - 20cal
Jacket potato - 169cal

Total - 951cals

 

[Escapade]

Nearly got to 1200 cals yesterday

Breakfast
Weetabix - 182

Lunch
Pita - 170
Honeyed carrot soup - 116

Dinner -
Chicken salad - 232

Snacks
Hot cross bun - 170
maoam sweets - 315

Total - 1185 calories

Probably not the best choice to have sweets but hey ho, was still within my calorie allowance.

Im not really expecting to lose anything this week as normally going back to eating normal food after total food replacement see's a gain for me, so just to STS will be a bonus.

This morning I made another batch of homemade soup, tomato this time, so that should last another 5 or 6 lunches. I do struggle a bit with salad for dinner when its so cold outside so Im going to go crazy tonight and have a jacket potato! Living life on the edge as usual haha

Im actually finding the diet quite easy to stick too, im off out tomorrow with some of the girls on camp to have some food and see a film but Im hoping we can go to nando's or something so I can just have chicken in pita or something like that and stay well clear of the pick and mix at the cinema, so shouldn't do too much damage, better then going drinking!

 

[Escapade]

2lbs off today! Was really shocked by that, I was really expecting to stay the same after adding carbs back into my diet, if I could get another 2 or 3lbs off next week that would be fantastic and 3lbs would mean Ive shifted a stone in 3 weeks but anything is better then a gain.

Ive also decided once I get into the 12s I am going to make the most of living on an Army camp and start to use the gym, the PTI's (physical training instructors) run two free classes for wives every week, Im too scared to show how unfit I am in front of them at this size, Ive got a real thing about being the biggest in the class but another couple of stone off and I'll still be bigger then most but at least I wont be nearly double the size of the others, I know I should just do it now, but the mere thought fills me with dread, it might sound stupid but I don't want to embarrass my husband by going to the gym with his work colleagues and be a right mess within 5 mins.

Onwards and downwards

 

[Saruk88]

Well done on your weightloss! Amazing stuff.

 

[Escapade]

Thanks Sar.

Well yesterday didn't really go to plain, because they all wanted to go to pizza hut so I ended up going over my calories for the day but oh well, I've been below calories all the rest of the week so hopefully it wont do too much damage.

Today Ive been extra good

Breakfast hotcross bun - 170

Lunch - Tomato Soup and Pitta bread - 300

Dinner - Jacket potato, half tin of tuna and lighter then light mayo - 274

Total - 744 calories

One thing I did notice though in Pizza hut, normally I could of had a big bowl of salad and a whole pizza, last night I was stuffed after half the pizza.

 

[Escapade]

Todays been ok so far and Ive just had dinner so that's me done with eating for the day.

I think this is something that could actually work for me in the long run, I got too hung up on wanting to lose weight as fast as possible, which is great when your dropping a dress size every 4 to 6 weeks but for me, it just didn't work in the long run. Im still umming and arring over what my final goal weight is going to be, I did say 10 stone but I did enjoy being 9 stone, I felt slim, when I was in a group of people, there were people who weren't at all fat who were bigger then me and for some reason Ive got a real hang up over being the heaviest or biggest in a group of people, but I think I'll just stop at 10 stone and try and maintain for a few months, then maybe try lowering my calories a bit again to see if I can get down to 9 stone, even if its just a pound a week but I will see how I get on once Im down to 10 stone... still a long way to go!

I feel how I eat now, is something I could easily stick too, not every single day but the majority of the time and most days I come in below 1000 calories without feeling hungry, I am still having carbs, trying not to have loads of them but if I want pasta or a potato I have it, I cant bare the idea of the awful cravings I used to get when I was on total food replacement, really craving the most simple of things and even when I was losing all that weight, I did have a few binges where I would stand in the kitchen shuving food in my mouth and while I was still chewing that, be opening something else, I am sure a diet which drives you to do that, isn't teaching you good eating habits. And if I did have a day off and just eat normally, not a huge amount of calories, I would gain a couple of pounds, so I would really beat myself up over it and think ahh well damage is done for this week, might as well carry on eating, but after my night out, I just thought cut back calories a bit and I can stop any damage being done, which is really how I need to think in the long run, no one can be good 100% of the time, because bad food tastes yummy and it smells good and if you go out you cant sit there and drink a glass of water while everyone is having a lovely meal and a glass of wine, because I know i'll just be miserable and life is too short to spend time unhappy, as long as its just a one off and you don't go too stupid, it shouldn't matter too much.

Made another batch of soup this afternoon ready for lunch tomorrow. Butternut squash and carrot this time. I found the tomato soup just wasn't as filling as the honeyed carrot but I don't want to just keep eating that until I get fed up of it, so going to try and make a few different types of thicker soups. Cant believe how easy it is to make either and its far nicer then tin soup and you know exactly whats in it! I find one batch of soup is enough for a week, still got loads of tomato soup left so ive just freezed it for another time.

Today ive had

Breakfast - Weetabix 182cal

Lunch - tuna, sweetcorn, salad in a pitta bread - 217

Dinner - chicken with a spoonful of pasta sauce and 50g of pasta - 344cal

Snack - hotcross bun - 170

Total for day - 913 calories.

 

[emmaedes]

Todays been ok so far and Ive just had dinner so that's me done with eating for the day. I think this is something that could actually work for me in the long run, I got too hung up on wanting to lose weight as fast as possible, which is great when your dropping a dress size every 4 to 6 weeks but for me, it just didn't work in the long run. Im still umming and arring over what my final goal weight is going to be, I did say 10 stone but I did enjoy being 9 stone, I felt slim, when I was in a group of people, there were people who weren't at all fat who were bigger then me and for some reason Ive got a real hang up over being the heaviest or biggest in a group of people, but I think I'll just stop at 10 stone and try and maintain for a few months, then maybe try lowering my calories a bit again to see if I can get down to 9 stone, even if its just a pound a week but I will see how I get on once Im down to 10 stone... still a long way to go! I feel how I eat now, is something I could easily stick too, not every single day but the majority of the time and most days I come in below 1000 calories without feeling hungry, I am still having carbs, trying not to have loads of them but if I want pasta or a potato I have it, I cant bare the idea of the awful cravings I used to get when I was on total food replacement, really craving the most simple of things and even when I was losing all that weight, I did have a few binges where I would stand in the kitchen shuving food in my mouth and while I was still chewing that, be opening something else, I am sure a diet which drives you to do that, isn't teaching you good eating habits. And if I did have a day off and just eat normally, not a huge amount of calories, I would gain a couple of pounds, so I would really beat myself up over it and think ahh well damage is done for this week, might as well carry on eating, but after my night out, I just thought cut back calories a bit and I can stop any damage being done, which is really how I need to think in the long run, no one can be good 100% of the time, because bad food tastes yummy and it smells good and if you go out you cant sit there and drink a glass of water while everyone is having a lovely meal and a glass of wine, because I know i'll just be miserable and life is too short to spend time unhappy, as long as its just a one off and you don't go too stupid, it shouldn't matter too much. Made another batch of soup this afternoon ready for lunch tomorrow. Butternut squash and carrot this time. I found the tomato soup just wasn't as filling as the honeyed carrot but I don't want to just keep eating that until I get fed up of it, so going to try and make a few different types of thicker soups. Cant believe how easy it is to make either and its far nicer then tin soup and you know exactly whats in it! I find one batch of soup is enough for a week, still got loads of tomato soup left so ive just freezed it for another time. Today ive had Breakfast - Weetabix 182cal Lunch - tuna, sweetcorn, salad in a pitta bread - 217 Dinner - chicken with a spoonful of pasta sauce and 50g of pasta - 344cal Snack - hotcross bun - 170 Total for day - 913 calories.

Hey lovely

I completely agree with you. If u have a naughty evening then the next day adjust things to consider the naughtiness! Then that's teaching you to eat in moderation.

Foods looks gd and sounds like your so in the right headspace. Your going to do fab!!

Xxx

 

[Escapade]

Another day done, got up to 1200 calories as well... well 27 below but that isn't a huge issue.

Breakfast - Weetabix -182

Lunch - Butternut squash soup and 1 slice of bread - 205

Dinner - jacket potato, ham, cheese and homemade coleslaw - 536

Snack - iced bun - 250

Total 1173 calories

 

[Escapade]

Today ive had

Breakfast - Weetabix 182cal

Lunch - tuna, sweetcorn, salad in a pitta bread - 217

Dinner - homemade cottage pie with loads of veg - 405

Snack - hotcross bun - 170
cookie - 106

Total for the day - 1080 calories

I really struggle to get above 1000 calories in a healthy way... I don't want the snacks, I just have them because I know my calories are going to be really low if I don't, I do need to get some more fruit in I suppose, maybe have a banana and a apple with my lunch but Im not hungry at all with the meals I am eating.

 

[Escapade]

1lb off this week... to be expected really after pizza and wine last weekend but oh well.

Not feeling too positive at the moment, I had been hoping to go to my parents for Christmas but they have just told me they are going to my brothers and his wife has said she doesn't want me to go, unknown to me, she now hates me for not sending flowers to her fathers funeral, I had only met her father 2 or 3 times, I sent a sympathy card but apparently I should of sent flowers to the funeral and because I didn't I am not allowed to be part of my brothers life nor my nieces or nephews. So I have to look forward to Christmas all alone, which has hit me harder then I thought it would, not having heard from my husband for over a week isn't helping things and I guess I am just feeling a bit lonely... I haven't spoken to anyone in 4 days, apart from a 5 min phone call to my mum and because I don't have children all the other wives have play dates or coffee after the school run, Im not invited to any of them so I have become a bit of an outsider, I am sure none of it is personal but just because they meet up in the playground and then organise things, but still with everything else, Im just feeling really sad. After my mum told me about Christmas I just went back to bed and cried most of the day. I still haven't managed to find a new job, I have sent CVs to all the local agency's and have applied to loads of jobs on job sites but nothing.

And this may sound awful but checked the joint account today and saw my husband has upped the money he gives to his ex wife.... he has 1 child with her but gives her £500 a month normally (over double what CSA say he should) and we have the child every weekend and buy school uniform, new shoes, new clothes etc... because the child isn't coming to us at weekends, he is giving his ex an extra £100 every week, he didn't tell me, Im not working and I feel bad about that as it is, but after the £900 he gives to his ex wife and the bills and rent and he has also transferred £100 into the account of the children of hers which aren't his, but he raised as his own while they were together so he gave them £100 for Christmas, so I am left with £100 for the month to buy food and anything else I need. How can 1 small child cost £900 a month but I am expected to survive on £25 a week.... I know it isn't my husbands fault I am not working but I did quit my job to move because of his job and now I feel like I am living on the breadline. I know it is hard for him to keep everyone happy... but it feels she is getting the better end of the deal right now because she kicks off and screams and shouts if her demands for money aren't met....

Guess I shouldn't moan, but todays not a good day for me....