fillymum
synful soul
Today we received an email from SIL. DH and SIL do not speak to each other at all and I doubt they ever will.
MIL lives with SIL and BIL.
In the email she has asked us if we would consider having MIL living with us for a few months as she is depressed (MIL) and needs a change of scene.
She was here in November and it was dreadful, really hard work. We have 7 dogs and she was not happy around them, which really stressed me out and meant I was tense all the time. I found myself locking them out of the living room when she was in it. Not on !!!!
We leave for work at 6.30 a.m. at the weekends and DH was coming back home again to pick her up at around 11a.m. so that she would not be alone.
I feel I can not cope with it. I can not face cooking for her and cleaning up after her, taking her into town, trying to entertain her. Never being able to move without her, putting our lives on hold for someone who in the past has not been very nice to us. On top of all this she is the most negative person I have every met and she drags us down.
It is an impossible situation for us, especially for me. How selfish does that sound?
As you know I am waiting for my biopsy and I can not face the possibility of perhaps having to go through treatment again and having her here on a more or less permanent basis.
On top of all that we are trying to sell the house and have people coming for a second look this month. If they buy that would mean moving to France. I can not do it !!!!
She is very hard work and I just can not do it. I know I CAN NOT...... and I don't know how to tell SIL who did not even have the curtesy to address us personally in the email.......no Dear............. just straight into it and no regards from........nothing. Not that that really matters.
I do not feel that well, I am worried, I am tired after months of looking after the old lady and I can do no more.
She has a brother she could stay with if she needs a change of scene and I think that is where she should be.
She is a total hypocondriac and is always ill.........I can not do it.
DH is in complete agreement with me though he says she can come over for a few weeks. I do not even want that.
MIL lives with SIL and BIL.
In the email she has asked us if we would consider having MIL living with us for a few months as she is depressed (MIL) and needs a change of scene.
She was here in November and it was dreadful, really hard work. We have 7 dogs and she was not happy around them, which really stressed me out and meant I was tense all the time. I found myself locking them out of the living room when she was in it. Not on !!!!
We leave for work at 6.30 a.m. at the weekends and DH was coming back home again to pick her up at around 11a.m. so that she would not be alone.
I feel I can not cope with it. I can not face cooking for her and cleaning up after her, taking her into town, trying to entertain her. Never being able to move without her, putting our lives on hold for someone who in the past has not been very nice to us. On top of all this she is the most negative person I have every met and she drags us down.
It is an impossible situation for us, especially for me. How selfish does that sound?
As you know I am waiting for my biopsy and I can not face the possibility of perhaps having to go through treatment again and having her here on a more or less permanent basis.
On top of all that we are trying to sell the house and have people coming for a second look this month. If they buy that would mean moving to France. I can not do it !!!!
She is very hard work and I just can not do it. I know I CAN NOT...... and I don't know how to tell SIL who did not even have the curtesy to address us personally in the email.......no Dear............. just straight into it and no regards from........nothing. Not that that really matters.
I do not feel that well, I am worried, I am tired after months of looking after the old lady and I can do no more.
She has a brother she could stay with if she needs a change of scene and I think that is where she should be.
She is a total hypocondriac and is always ill.........I can not do it.
DH is in complete agreement with me though he says she can come over for a few weeks. I do not even want that.