A few home truths...

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  1. Purple Hugs

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    Saw this on another forum.. thought you may enjoy it! ;)

    Dear Non-Pregnant Person,


    I hope you find these guidelines helpful in your interactions with pregnant women as failing to follow them may result in serious physical harm. If you are thinking, surely she doesn't mean me- then you should probably read this twice.


    1) The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is 'Congratulations!' with enthusiasm. Any other response makes you an ass.


    2) Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father- not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase 'my baby'.


    3) On the same note, unless you made the baby as defined in 2, the pregnancy, birth and raising of the child are not about you. You do not have input. No one wants to hear your opinion unless they ask for it. The same goes for the name of the baby.


    4) The body of a pregnant woman should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone's stomach if they were not pregnant, nor would you inquire into the condition of their uterus, cervix or how they plan to use their breasts. Pregnancy does not remove all traces of privacy from a woman.


    5) Likewise, no woman wants to hear comments on her weight- ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop, must be having twins, looks swollen or has gained weight in her face. Telling her she looks too small only makes her worry that she is somehow starving her baby. Making such comments invite her to critique your physical appearance, and you may not act offended. The only acceptable comment on appearance is 'You look fabulous!'.


    6) By the time we are 20-30 years old, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer when we are not pregnant. We don't need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes.


    7) There is a reason that tickets to L&D are not yet sold on Ticketmaster. Childbirth is actually not a public event. It may sound crazy, but some women really do not relish the idea of their mother, MIL or a host of other family members seeing their bare butt and genitals. Also, some people simply feel like the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents. Like everything else in life, unless you receive an invitation, you are NOT invited. This includes doctor appointments, ultrasounds, labor, delivery, the hospital and the parents home. You do not decide if you will be there for the birth or if you will move in with the new parents to 'help out'. If your assistance is desired, rest assured that you will be asked for it.


    9) If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.


    10) The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are being given the privilege of seeing their child. Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less. I hope this helps- it sure makes us feel better.


    Signed,


    All Pregnant Women
     
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    Oh please send that to all of my family/parents/in laws. If I sent it, they'd get the hump!
     
  4. Purple Hugs

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    lol maybe you should print it and put it on your fridge! ;)
    My mother passed away when my eldest was 18 months old, but honestly it totally applied to her! lol She also would have gotten the hump.
    My sister has offered to 'move in' for a week, I asked for 4.. 2 weeks either side - as she'd keep the kids in check for me! lol She's been birthing partner for 4 babies arriving too so knows much more than me and she's never had a baby! lol
     
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    yes! someone understands....

    saw a person I rarely work with today only met her on half a dozen occasions, she overhearv I was expecting 2 weeks ago when I bumped into her last
    after not seeing her for 2 weeks, she did a double take today and said 'blimey the last time I saw you you weren't even showing...are you sure the dates are right, you said you were about 12 weeks yeah? are you sure your not about 8 weeks more than that?' I smiled sweetly and said 'ah Jenny, do you think I am blooming then?' she said yes but looked unsure. I am not pleased that she thinks I look 5 months pregnant! Oh and I had a random worker also come up to me today in the corridoor and she looked right at my stomach and said 'gosh your tummy is swelling isnt it?' Funny thing is I have literally only put on 3lb and my tummy isn't that big! what is it that people I barely know can just come up to me when I am working and comment on what I look like? maybe I will go to work in very baggy clothing in future. Mmmmm, hormones haven't improved my mood it seems, seems like I have permenant pmt, which is funny as I never suffered from it before
     
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    Preganancy hormones are a riot of 'fun'! lol seriously you're on a roller coaster of pregnancy control. You wait for the first few days after baby, I was babbling buckets on day 3 after Erin was born and NOTHING could stop me!!
    Nesting is one of the funniest things when it hits too.. 8 and a half months pregnant and up on the kitchen side cleaning windows at 3am.. that was me!! I thought hubby was going to have a heart attack when he found me! He shushed me down and did the cleaning with my 'instructing him'! All at 3am when we both had work at 8am! lol

    Anyway..back to your tummy... ignore 'em.. or post this onto the notice board in your staff room! ;) They may just realise it's them.. you never know, but honestly, I doubt it.
     
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