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A kick up the a***

Mia

Skinny girl in a fat body
S: 14st7lb C: 12st11lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 29.8 Loss: 1st10lb(11.82%)
#1
I really need a kick up the a**e. I am sick and tired of playing with this diet. One day I am on it, the next day I am off. I have about 10 weeks to my holidays now and really MUST start . Why can't I do it? Why do I get to tea time and give in? Why do I look for any excuse to eat?

Right ............ Monday, that's it. I have to do it or I can see myself lying on the beach saying "Why didn't I do it 10 weeks ago?". I refuse to buy new holiday clothes so really I have to choice but to get cracking on this. Heeeelllppppp!!!!
 
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ShedMasterZero

was DeepThought
S: 17st10lb C: 16st2lb G: 12st0lb BMI: 35.4 Loss: 1st8lb(8.87%)
#2
Why Monday? What about tomorrow?
 

Mia

Skinny girl in a fat body
S: 14st7lb C: 12st11lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 29.8 Loss: 1st10lb(11.82%)
#3
Because I am going to a BBQ tomorrow night. Started last Monday and said "What the hell, at a BBQ on Saturday so may as well start next week"
 

ShedMasterZero

was DeepThought
S: 17st10lb C: 16st2lb G: 12st0lb BMI: 35.4 Loss: 1st8lb(8.87%)
#4
But if you really want to lose the weight, you have to make sacrifices now in order to benefit from it later. I'm sure you could find a reason to put it off next week, then the week after that, etc etc. Then, before you know it, your holiday is here and you are not going to enjoy it because you didn't lose the weight. I know it's not easy, but just trying to help.
 

Divalicious

Silver Member
S: 22st5lb C: 15st5lb G: 12st8lb BMI: 30.8 Loss: 7st0lb(31.31%)
#5
How about Sunday Mia?

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DustQueen

Gold Member
S: 16st5lb C: 15st12.5lb G: 9st13lb BMI: 39.7 Loss: 0st6.5lb(2.84%)
#6
Yep come on Mia start on Sunday :)
You can do this! Get it over and done with, do you still want to be doing this diet next year? :) good luck!
 

namaste

Silver Member
S: 15st12lb C: 11st6lb G: 9st0lb BMI: 30.2 Loss: 4st6lb(27.93%)
#7
Absolutely, just start now.... there's never any perfect time. Head down, focus and just DO IT! Good luck :)
 

pizzle84

I will do this!!!
#8
i think you need to be 100% in the right frame of mind to do this diet. If Mia wants to start on monday then i think that should be her decision, if she feels she wants to get the bbq out of the way first then thats the best dicision, what if she started now then failed at the bbq that would be an even bigger feeling of failure. Enjoy your bbq and start on monday when your ready with a smile on your face. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
 
#10
I know how that feels.
I have stopped and started numerous diets and fasts of some sort over the last 2 years (I gained ALL my weight (about 80 pounds) in just 3 years during my last HORRIBLE relationship!). I know very well the allure of 'starting tomorrow'.

But guess what? 'Tomorrow' can end up being 3 years. For me it has. I think the turning point in me finally doing this properly was just that I started putting myself first. I didn't realize it, but I had been looking after everyone else's needs except my own. I really like something Michelle Obama said to some reporter, who asked her how she had the motivation to get up every day at 4AM and exercise. Michelle replied something like "If one of my kids needed me at 4AM I would be out of bed in a heartbeat, so why not get up at 4AM to care for myself?"

That is something that I repeat to myself any time someone is making demands on my time, that would infringe on my diet or on something else I truly need to do. Yes, the laundry/housecleaning needs doing, but are other people's dirty socks more important than me sitting down to relax so I don't binge?

There is a book I like that really helped me make the decision to finally DO IT and start overhauling my life. It isn't any big name famous person, it's like an inspirational gift book (non-religious). It's called "The Feel Good Factory on Life Management". I love it and it's really inspiring and makes so much sense.

Anyway, I do know how horrible it can be to feel like something out of your control is actually pushing you physically towards that BBQ'd chicken, and feeling like you are watching from outside your own body as your hand reaches for the plate. LOL.

But remember, this is a choice and not a punishment. You are always able to eat if you want to. If you feel like you're going to break your diet and have to start from scratch, just eat something that will not knock you out of ketosis. Then you will still be losing. Maybe more slowly, but it won't have that dreaded feeling of failure and guilt that causes you to scrap the whole thing completely. Arm yourself with some Coke Zero and a carb counter pocket guide. :)
 

Divalicious

Silver Member
S: 22st5lb C: 15st5lb G: 12st8lb BMI: 30.8 Loss: 7st0lb(31.31%)
#11
Well said TX! I think most of us put others first and never get ourselves time to do anything for "us". I was watching Bob Green on Oprah the other day, he said "as a parent would you allow your kid to give up losing the weight, if you know that losing the weight will make them happy...." No, he said, so why do we allow it to happen then. For me it is fear. I don`t know what am scared of, but all of a sudden the diet seems so hard and much as am telling myself I can do it, I dont seem to. I don`t use my sons` autism as an excuse anymore. He will always be autistic and so if I don`t get myself into get then I will always be this big.

Mia you are not alone, I think it`s those demons that are locked away that make it hard to focus or restart. Thus what am trying to tackle. Am reading a book called "Women, God and Food" at the moment. Have only read a few pages but its helped me rethink why I love food so much. I will read the "Beck book" after this one.
 
#12
I have just wrote something along these lines in my diary on here. I am in a right tiswas right now, over the whole dieting thing, and have put on everything I lost on Exante!

I have not answers but guess I am not at goal in May as I thought I would be with my magic exante bullet, and I guess I will be fat at 40 in 8 weeks time
 

ShedMasterZero

was DeepThought
S: 17st10lb C: 16st2lb G: 12st0lb BMI: 35.4 Loss: 1st8lb(8.87%)
#13
I have just wrote something along these lines in my diary on here. I am in a right tiswas right now, over the whole dieting thing, and have put on everything I lost on Exante!

I have not answers but guess I am not at goal in May as I thought I would be with my magic exante bullet, and I guess I will be fat at 40 in 8 weeks time
Well you still have 8 weeks to achieve as much as you can. What has happened up until now cannot be changed, but what you do from this moment forward can be controlled. ;)
 
#15
This is true, but feel out of control with food since being on exante, its tipped me over the edge
Can you tell us more about this? Why do you think Exante has impacted you negatively in terms of controlling food? I have 'food issues' mainly because my parents used food as a weapon when I was a child, and in order to get enough to eat I had to sneak food and eat as much as I could without anyone knowing. So diets in general are really hard emotionally for me. I have this deep fear in the back of my mind that I am going to starve, even though my hips say otherwise!! It's amazing how the primal parts of our brain impact us in spite of logic. I would be interested to hear more about your food issues if you are willing to share.

Not all diets work for all people. If Exante is truly making you worse, then you might consider a program that offers counseling as part of its services (if this is affordable for you that is). :vibes:
 
#16
I think it was going with out food, but also had some things going on during the last few months, that may be making me feel negative about things as well, and maybe turning more to food for comfort, than I have ever done before. Of course, I have turned to food for comfort in the past, else I wouldnt have got fat in the first place! But no where near as much as after I fell off the exante wagon!

Its not exantes fault, it was badly timed, but I have now been left with no control around at all! Maybe if I had started exante at a more positive time?

I also now feel that no other way is good enough for me to lose weight now, that I would never be happy to lose 1-2lbs a week.

This is what I wrote in my diary, which I realise you cant read due to not enough posts yet

Really, why cant I do a VLCD? Or any diet for that matter right now? I am being next to useless!

The good news is my weight has finally stabilised again, but my god, I have never put weight on so quickly before! So all the weight I lost on Exante, I have put back on. I lost 15lbs in 3 weeks, and have in the last 16 weeks put it back on!

I feel I have been left in a position where I cant diet any more. The mere thought of dieting makes me want to eat! Is this what VLCD can do to you? Really what the hell is going on with me?

I loved the fast weight loss, felt fantastic with the energy boost but at what cost? Imagine if I had lost it all, would I have put it all back on? Why did it make me go out of control with food? More so that I have ever been?

I feel I have learnt nothing, and if anything, I have undone some good things I have learnt in my 4 year weight loss journey.

I know stuff has happened in the last few months, but really whats the point of trying to lose weight if its all going to go back on when things go a bit tits up?

Why the hell do I still want to to try and do a VLCD as well, whats that all about? Whats it ALL about?

I realise I have swore in this a bit, hope it *'s it out!

**** sake!
 
#17
Ur question at the bottom, why do i still want to do a vlcd? Is a good one, im breaking away from exante for a bit although i just started, a lot has happend in the past week to make me feel im not in the right headspace and financialy too. Anyway i still have some packs left which i plan to use when things are better to restart me, but im askin the same questions, i actually want to be on a vlcd, and i think its due to the rapid weightloss, i think for people like myself who have always been on a diet or tried the latest new craze, it can be quite addictive to find something you know does work and it makes you not want to stop!! Sorry for the story im just crap at trying to explain myself haha!!hope you find the answers and are happy :) xx
 

Mia

Skinny girl in a fat body
S: 14st7lb C: 12st11lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 29.8 Loss: 1st10lb(11.82%)
#18
Thanks for all the replies girls. Well its day 2 and now I have hit another problem.

I met a guy at the BBQ :D I am seeing him on Friday and Saturday nights (he works shifts). Now, I can cope with having nothing to eat and I will have the odd drink but once in ketosis my breath is rank hahahahahaha. I would like to kiss him to be honest but no way is he going to come within a mile radius of me haha. Does not being in ketosis impact on weight loss? At the end of the day, I have no intention of spoiling my life for this and still want to enjoy myself if you get my drift :D :D
 

DustQueen

Gold Member
S: 16st5lb C: 15st12.5lb G: 9st13lb BMI: 39.7 Loss: 0st6.5lb(2.84%)
#19
Mia said:
Thanks for all the replies girls. Well its day 2 and now I have hit another problem.

I met a guy at the BBQ :D I am seeing him on Friday and Saturday nights (he works shifts). Now, I can cope with having nothing to eat and I will have the odd drink but once in ketosis my breath is rank hahahahahaha. I would like to kiss him to be honest but no way is he going to come within a mile radius of me haha. Does not being in ketosis impact on weight loss? At the end of the day, I have no intention of spoiling my life for this and still want to enjoy myself if you get my drift :D :D
Apparently it's just the cals that matter according to Exante :) so have some toast and snog away ;)
 

MsJMC

Strong women stay slim
S: 17st3lb C: 17st3lb Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
#20
hi mia , hehe , and i would not blow him a kiss either lol
maybe say i don't kiss on first dates lol first excue, second excue sore throat lol to lose the weight its k to burn the fat .
mia how much do you want this man lol
 


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