Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
I just posted a reply to Lady on the hour x hour thread, and it got me thinking.
We often say "I have to" "I must" ....a few examples: I have to do the laundry. I have to feed the animals/children. I have to mow the lawn. I have to lose weight.
(Take aside for a minute the health factor of losing weight and for some it is a matter of life and death - but for those just getting in shape, etc) I think the only one of those we really HAVE to do, is feed the animals/children as we are responsible for them.
Our LLC is very big on the words we use. I imagine it is part of retraining us how to think about things. But by saying we HAVE to do anything, could it just be that emphasis and pressure is what actually stops us from doing things we HAVE to do. It becomes a chore - not a pleasure, just by saying HAVE. Is that the rebellious child? <hands on hips> I don't WANT to do it if I HAVE to do it.
We have spoken often in group about CHOICE and CHOOSING being powerful words.
When we were discussing this the LLC asked us what we felt we "should" do. I replied "I should exercise more." There were varied replies from all of us. SOme weight related and some not.
She then said, and something I myself have said for many years, is that we should wipe the words Should, and Would from our vocabularies as they prevent us from accomplishing things.
She told us to replace the words "I should" with "If I wanted to, I could choose to" insert answer: ....exercise more.
The next day was when I added my ticker for doing crunches. I have always HATED exercise, but since wording it that way, I have not minded, nor missed a days goal of crunches and now leg lifts which for me is astounding. I know I am not doing no marathon, but for me, its a big step even if they are baby steps!! lol
All my life, I have constantly said, "I have to lose weight". It was the very last thought on my mind as I lay my head on the pillow, and then it was the very first thought when I opened my eyes the next day. It weighed on me constantly. And pushed me into a hole. Deeper and deeper until it truly felt out of reach. That it just was not my destiny to ever ever be slim.
When I heard about LL. My first reaction was, "Who the bl**dy h*ll would want to do that!? And who COULD?? NO WAY!" I thought it was the furtherst thing from what I would ever do!! What I COULD do.
But time, thoughts, imagination, etc., got a hold of me, and in the end - I CHOSE to do this diet. Noone coerced me, or encouraged me or pushed me. I looked at the fear factor, and I looked at the length of time of 'sacrifice' and I made a conscious effort to CHOOSE to do it. I can see that now.
I know I am waffling, but I really think, by "choosing" to do this has made it possible for me to stay on track 100% and to have as much determination now, on day whatever, that I did on Day 1.
Choosing gives you just that - a choice. Just a little thing like a choice suddenly seems to remove an awful lot of pressure and give you the control.
Hmm. I wonder.
THanks if you made it all the way through this babble!!
We often say "I have to" "I must" ....a few examples: I have to do the laundry. I have to feed the animals/children. I have to mow the lawn. I have to lose weight.
(Take aside for a minute the health factor of losing weight and for some it is a matter of life and death - but for those just getting in shape, etc) I think the only one of those we really HAVE to do, is feed the animals/children as we are responsible for them.
Our LLC is very big on the words we use. I imagine it is part of retraining us how to think about things. But by saying we HAVE to do anything, could it just be that emphasis and pressure is what actually stops us from doing things we HAVE to do. It becomes a chore - not a pleasure, just by saying HAVE. Is that the rebellious child? <hands on hips> I don't WANT to do it if I HAVE to do it.
We have spoken often in group about CHOICE and CHOOSING being powerful words.
When we were discussing this the LLC asked us what we felt we "should" do. I replied "I should exercise more." There were varied replies from all of us. SOme weight related and some not.
She then said, and something I myself have said for many years, is that we should wipe the words Should, and Would from our vocabularies as they prevent us from accomplishing things.
She told us to replace the words "I should" with "If I wanted to, I could choose to" insert answer: ....exercise more.
The next day was when I added my ticker for doing crunches. I have always HATED exercise, but since wording it that way, I have not minded, nor missed a days goal of crunches and now leg lifts which for me is astounding. I know I am not doing no marathon, but for me, its a big step even if they are baby steps!! lol
All my life, I have constantly said, "I have to lose weight". It was the very last thought on my mind as I lay my head on the pillow, and then it was the very first thought when I opened my eyes the next day. It weighed on me constantly. And pushed me into a hole. Deeper and deeper until it truly felt out of reach. That it just was not my destiny to ever ever be slim.
When I heard about LL. My first reaction was, "Who the bl**dy h*ll would want to do that!? And who COULD?? NO WAY!" I thought it was the furtherst thing from what I would ever do!! What I COULD do.
But time, thoughts, imagination, etc., got a hold of me, and in the end - I CHOSE to do this diet. Noone coerced me, or encouraged me or pushed me. I looked at the fear factor, and I looked at the length of time of 'sacrifice' and I made a conscious effort to CHOOSE to do it. I can see that now.
I know I am waffling, but I really think, by "choosing" to do this has made it possible for me to stay on track 100% and to have as much determination now, on day whatever, that I did on Day 1.
Choosing gives you just that - a choice. Just a little thing like a choice suddenly seems to remove an awful lot of pressure and give you the control.
Hmm. I wonder.
THanks if you made it all the way through this babble!!