Abi's weightloss diary - post jaw surgery

[Barb]

Thats a lovely idea Abz. I know what you mean about hearing other people's tales about someone and it bringing them back to you. I think it is sad when people die and others can't bear to speak about them.

love

 

[abz]

i agree barb. but unfortunately it's the case. even if it makes me upset i enjoy talking about her. and it rarely makes me upset. only on occasions when there's an obvious void where she would have been. but she would have kicked my ass if she knew

abz xx

 

[Gemstone]

I went to the funeral of a friend who died far too young, knowing that she was an incredible character and had done loads in her life. I knew her from the youth work side of things and my husband from car club. I knew she was a member of CND and big on womens rights but I was totally unprepared for all the "other lives" she had led in her 50 something years and all the different groups associated with those "lives". It's SO strange when you think you know someone well and it's only the tip of the iceburg x

 

[abz]

it really is odd isn't it gem. but incredible too...

i think we are going to take a mass of washing to the laundrette. we have a backlog a mile wide with our visitors over the last couple of weeks and the thought of doing it all and having it dangle all over the living room makes me shudder. we don't have a dryer...

so the laundrette around the corner seems like a grand plan laundrettes scare me though. i never know how to use them. i never have. so it's going to be a bit of a learning curve...

am trying to get in touch with my friend to go swimming but can't get her just yet. saying that, she may still be in bed... but with a two-year-old i doubt it...

abz xx

 

[clarri]

Hey Abz
Your Gran sounds exactly like the sort of Gran I want to be. my Mum and Stepdad are far too strict on my kids, so i dont think they will have memories like that, but Im a big softie, even with my nieces, I spoil them with little things they arent usually allowed!!
Have a lovely laundry day!!
xx

 

[abz]

oh my god. we couldn't have looked my like laundrette virgins if we'd tried. a little girl even came over to show me how to use the coffee machine (the fact that i'd worked it out didn't stop her... but it seemed cruel to tell her to go away). so three hours, three washing machines (one uber sized, one medium, one small) and four tumble dryers later it's all done. did i mention it was a mountain? maybe not... but it's gone. GONE!! now we just have to put it all away again and buy more washing powder...

abz xx

 

[HopeSprings]

Hi abz, or shall we called you Wishy Washy now?? What a trip you hd and I bet it cost fortune too, anyhow it's all done now and not hanging around making the place look untidy. Good on ya!!

 

[abz]

it cost about £20. bloody fortune. although if someone had said to me 'give me twenty quid and i'll vanish that pile of washing for you' it probably would have been the fastest twenty quid i'd ever spent!! i NEVER want to have to do that again. with people visiting, not sleeping and generally feeling blah i let it all get into a bit of a state... still. thomas is actually reading a book and got so into it at the laundrette he didn't want to put it down. there's a first time for everything. i will turn him into a reader yet!!

operation putting things away has begun and is being rather successful so far

abz xx

 

[clarri]

I was thinking Mrs Tiggiwinkle!!!

xx

 

[Gemstone]

Ha ha - are you taking in washing now cos I have a lovely pile here you can have (Gem ducks and hides to dodge flying missiles!!!!)

 

[abz]

HA. that's all i have to say on that one

hmm. what shall i have for dinner? not sure we really have any decent food in. had a jacket spud with tuna and light mayo for lunch. so not too bad...

abz xx

 

[Gemstone]

That sounds good Abz - shame about the washing, I'll have to do it myself :cry:

 

[Georgiestar]

your gran sounded really nice, my gran is special too and I do go there most weeks and my brother does aswell, my mother died so things are very different and my dad remaried and never contacts me.

 

[abz]

well me and my dad didn't get on too well at one point. his wife at the time didn't want me visiting and he kind of went along with that. so i stayed with my grandma every other weekend and then any other time i could get away with it

jacket potato with garlic for dinner. i was going to have a cambridge thing and then remembered the pain killers problem. it's doing my nut in!! and before you ask i have asked the doc if there is anything else i can take but all the others didn't stop the back pain which rendered them kind of useless. i will need to stop taking them soon though as they can be pretty addictive. hence the exercise which should help loosen the muscles which will then stop spasming which will release my sciatic nerve. or at least that's the theory...

abz xx

 

[Gemstone]

If it really is the sciatic nerve that's trapped you can massage either side of the lower vertabra on the erecta spinae muscle which runs either side of the spine. If you can get someone else to do it while you lie on you tummy so much the better. Make sure the muscle is warmed up with gentle massage then place the knuckles of two fingers (around 2" appart) either side of the spine and use a gentle "rocking horse" motion. Don't continue if it is too painful. Don't massage the spine itself - just the muscle either side just below the waist and above the sacrum x

 

[abz]

it's been tried and tested gem. only the physio could even find the point that caused me immense pain. i never knew such a small and attractive female could cause such serious pain. but every time anyone else has tried to massage it, no luck. and it has been tried and tried and tried and tried... but i have been told that swimming will help, and regular exercise. the only difficulty is that it hurts a lot before it gets better, and that's where the pain killers come in. and the eating. and it's gotten out of hand and i really need to get a hold on things.

i'm also really not sure what i'm going to do about this chap at work. i'm not angry any more. annoyed that he would treat me in such a way, but just really sorry that we had to fall out over it. we're such a small team. there's only three of us and then our super and the boss. that's it. and i've caused a tension that's never been there before. well, he has, but i was the tension causer. i should have handled it better, even when he walked off when i was talking to him. well. at him. i was angry, but he dismissed me completely and i just saw red. but now i really don't know what to do. i will say hi and greet him but no doubt this will go through the ranks as abi not being arsed at doing her job and somebody else doing it for her and then she got pissy. regardless of the fact that it was my responsibility, not his, and that if i hadn't realised who he had just rung i would have looked totally unprofessional and ridiculous in the eyes of another company. and as a team it makes us look shoddy. and now i'm getting angry again, ha. so i'm going to go back to watching bones. i can never understand when people treat others badly, and i hate the reaction that i had. but i can't undo it and i need to find a way to make it work on monday... and it's going to be really really difficult...

abz xx

 

[Gemstone]

Don't pre-judge it Abz. Men can sometimes be fickle creatures and he may well have forgotten the whole incident by Monday. Indeed he may already be totally oblivious of the havoc he's caused with you!!!!

Go in on Monday like a bloke - just like nothing has happened. Blokes often have a habit of dismissing any outburst by a woman as hormonal anyway - annoying as that is it could work in your favour this time. In any case don't get yourself all steamed up about it - none of them are worth that x

 

[HelenG]

Don't pre-judge it Abz. Men can sometimes be fickle creatures and he may well have forgotten the whole incident by Monday. Indeed he may already be totally oblivious of the havoc he's caused with you!!!!

Go in on Monday like a bloke - just like nothing has happened. Blokes often have a habit of dismissing any outburst by a woman as hormonal anyway - annoying as that is it could work in your favour this time. In any case don't get yourself all steamed up about it - none of them are worth that x

Exactly what I would have said - my guess is that he has already forgotten it.

Abz, it's lousy that you are having a rough time with this. You did nothing wrong - HE was in the wrong, he didn't follow procedure, he stepped in on your client when he knew that there was a timescale, he ignored you when you tried to REASONABLY explain he was out of order & you are the one tying yourself up in knots.

You are not the tension causer - he is! You are the one who is tense not him.

 

[Gemstone]

Totally agreed x

 

[** Just Jools **]

I agree. Go in say hi, ask him if he's had a good weekend and get on with your work.

He'll either carry on as normal, if he's already forgotten it or if he was trying to upset you it'll drive him crazy thinking you're not bothered!! x :giggle: