Abi's weightloss diary - post jaw surgery
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abz
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well the thing is i think i did upset him. now i'm not saying that i wasn't justified in what i did, to a point, like i said, i could have been a bit more gentle with it, but i think i really did upset him. saying that, he really really did upset me and i think he got bolshy because he knew he was in the wrong. i'm sure there'll be some kind of 'do you apologise for yelling', 'do you apologise for being a ****' kind of meeting if he doesn't just carry on as normal...
abz xx
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Gemstone
Here for the Journey
If that is the case Abz you can (if you feel it is necessary) concede to over-reacting but stand your ground about the justification for your grievance. Make it clear that you have drawn a professional line in the sand and that you expect him to behave like a professional also so that you can both get on with the job in hand x
abz
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i am just going to act like nothing happened and hope that he will too. he's had the weekend to rant about it like i have. i guess we'll just have to try and sweep it under the table. i've never really trusted the guy anyway. there were some issues when he first started when people came to me and said that he'd tried to take credit for things that i'd done. as it was all the people he'd said it to knew what was going on and told me but i put that down to his being new and uncertain of himself. now i think he might just be trying to get one up on me..
abz xx
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HelenG
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Hi Abz
I was worried that my last post came across a bit 'forceful', if it did then I apologise.
Try and forget work for today (unless you have to go there) and just see what happens tomorrow. I think though, reading through the posts regarding this, you will probably be very uncomfortable until you have spoken to him about it again. If you are going to apologise to him make sure you only apologise for shouting NOT what you said. Just remember that you have the right to be respected also and he has not earned that in any way with his behaviour.
Am I making sense?
I was worried that my last post came across a bit 'forceful', if it did then I apologise.
Try and forget work for today (unless you have to go there) and just see what happens tomorrow. I think though, reading through the posts regarding this, you will probably be very uncomfortable until you have spoken to him about it again. If you are going to apologise to him make sure you only apologise for shouting NOT what you said. Just remember that you have the right to be respected also and he has not earned that in any way with his behaviour.
Am I making sense?
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
Hi Abz
I was worried that my last post came across a bit 'forceful', if it did then I apologise.
Try and forget work for today (unless you have to go there) and just see what happens tomorrow. I think though, reading through the posts regarding this, you will probably be very uncomfortable until you have spoken to him about it again. If you are going to apologise to him make sure you only apologise for shouting NOT what you said. Just remember that you have the right to be respected also and he has not earned that in any way with his behaviour.
Am I making sense?
:checkmark green: x
abz
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you are making perfect sense. but i think i'm just going to see how it goes. if he won't speak to me then i will ask to talk to him and i will do just that. apologise for shouting, as i didn't mean to do that, but say that i don't think he acted in a way that was professional or friendly in any way, and that i refuse to be taken advantage of like that.
abz xx
abz xx
abz
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it isn't such a big deal. if needs be then that is what will happen. but the more meetings we have about it the more of a big deal it becomes. i just want him to know that he can't just walk over me like that. it doesn't have to become official in any way. that just sucks. so i'll just see how it goes on monday with a smile and asking how his pro evo night with his mate went. we do actually chat on occasion... ha.
so at the moment i'm watching bones. i really like bones and david boreanaz if i spelt his name right... i've fancied him since i first saw him in buffy when i was the tender age of 14ish and he still looks fine to me
abz xx
so at the moment i'm watching bones. i really like bones
and david boreanaz if i spelt his name right... i've fancied him since i first saw him in buffy when i was the tender age of 14ish and he still looks fine to me abz xx
Georgiestar
Silver Member
cheer up! i tend to go to town when im down in the day, i supose its a bit late now..
abz
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well hello there chaps. doesn't look like the guy in question will make it into work in any case... but he may. he hasn't rang in yet. i've just been talking to some of the other staff. just said we'd had a falling out without saying what it was about and i was worried about what he'd be like. the looks, raised eyebrows, words unsaid say everything i need to know about what they all think of him. and they are the staff he's supposed to be supporting. so i'm starting to feel more justified yet more sorry for him too...
well the snow is rather deep here. in the centre of leeds you don't often see snow so four or five inches is really quite extraordinary. we set off half an hour early this morning and i only just got to work on time. i don't know whether thomas even got to work because the mobile networks are too busy for me to get through. it isn't the roads so much as people's stupidity when driving in snow. they are either too cautious so the traffic doesn't move or too wreckless and you end up with crashed traffic blocking the motorways... and the snow hasn't been this deep in leeds since the first year i was here, about eight years ago as far as i remember... no, nine. i just got older didn't i?
and i finally got in touch with thomas to find out if he got to work ok (the mobile networks were jammed with everyone not getting into work i would imagine) only to discover that he's been sent home again. git. but at least it means he will be able to come and get me at 5... ha.
oh. and food went much better yesterday. around 1000cals. i feel like i've gained a wee bit of control. and i had a little chocolate roll thing and i counted it in. so maybe i'll be able to do that again today. today may have to be a sandwich man day as i don't want to go out again... saying that, i doubt he'll get here. i may go out for lunch in any case... something cheap. we're totally broke...
abz xx
well the snow is rather deep here. in the centre of leeds you don't often see snow so four or five inches is really quite extraordinary. we set off half an hour early this morning and i only just got to work on time. i don't know whether thomas even got to work because the mobile networks are too busy for me to get through. it isn't the roads so much as people's stupidity when driving in snow. they are either too cautious so the traffic doesn't move or too wreckless and you end up with crashed traffic blocking the motorways... and the snow hasn't been this deep in leeds since the first year i was here, about eight years ago as far as i remember... no, nine. i just got older didn't i?
and i finally got in touch with thomas to find out if he got to work ok (the mobile networks were jammed with everyone not getting into work i would imagine) only to discover that he's been sent home again. git. but at least it means he will be able to come and get me at 5... ha.
oh. and food went much better yesterday. around 1000cals. i feel like i've gained a wee bit of control. and i had a little chocolate roll thing and i counted it in. so maybe i'll be able to do that again today. today may have to be a sandwich man day as i don't want to go out again... saying that, i doubt he'll get here. i may go out for lunch in any case... something cheap. we're totally broke...
abz xx
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