Add a Meal Week

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  1. Maka

    Maka A New Woman

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    I have just worked out that starting next week until the end of July, I have an event every single week: baby shower, a barbecue, a theatre trip to London, my son's 5th birthday party and my leaving-do at work...grrrrrrrr!!!!

    I have one more week before my add-a-meal week.

    Instead of a whole week of adding that extra meal, could I spread that so I just have one meal each week over the next few weeks?

    And for that meal, I would stick to low-carb, low-fat options?
     
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    Well, there are no hard-and-fast 'rules', no-one else can tell you what you should do. you need to decide what's going to work best for you to stay more-or-less on the wagon long term. The diet is merely a tool for you to use as you see fit. There are guidelines, but they are simply that - the diet police won't batter down your door if you decide to deviate from them.

    While having a meal a week may fit into your life better and that's great - it will give you a bit of breathing space, you won't see the meals as a 'failure', and may be more positive about it in the longer term. However you will also be breaking ketosis on a weekly basis. However if you mitigate it, and stick to high protein/low carb you may well get away with it. Your losses are likely to be a bit less, but in return you get a smattering of a normal life. Swings and roundabouts, innit. (It's kinda what I do a bit at the mo for assorted reason, but getting on and off the wagon more often than you need is really quite hellish, and it was, believe it or not, easier when I was in a position to say 'no' for weeks at a time. But it's my choice.)

    There are also some events in your life you'll only have once, and not to enjoy them to the full (or to spend the day worrying and stressing over the diet) might be a wasted opportunity to fully experience an event you'll never get back. Alternatively, take a look at that list again - the one offs, knock yourself out - the others - try to surprise yourself, perhaps. There'll be other barbecues, for instance. Missing one is not going to be the end of the world, however think about how much fortitude you'll discover that you thought you never had.

    The choice, (as well as the consequences) are yours. If it helps the diet work for you, rather than you throwing in the towel, then do it. We really can't tell you what's best for *you*. The short answer, is you need to work it out for yourself. But whatever you do, be accepting and at peace if it dents your losses for those weeks.

    Good luck.
     
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    I know this isn't what you're meant to do on the add a meal week, but I've had 2 occassions where I have eaten whilst on abstinence. Each time I have only had one Exante meal during the day then had salmon (because I love it so much!) and green salad. For the bbq I took my own salad and was glad as what was there was smothered in dressing and my fish was cooked in foil on the bbq. Of course it could just have easily been chicken or turkey. I also allowed myself a little glass of wine so reckon the calorie count would be the same as 2 exante meals.
    I wasn't quite as good when we went out for dinner but only because I had 2 glasses of wine ;)
     
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    Thank you for this very helpful response. After reading it again and again, I'm getting a handle on my path. I want to keep losing, I want to enjoy the outings (considering that for rest of the 10 months of the year, NOTHING happens in my neck of the woods and everyone hibernates!) and I don't want to feel deprived because that's the 1st emotion most likely to get me off track. I want peace otherwise I will end up feeling guilty(the 2nd emotion most likely to affect me) and fall off the bandwagon. And if the needles on the scale don't move as I'd like them to, I will accept why that has happened and stay on track.
     
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    And it's probably that sensible approach/attitude that's kept you going! I wish I could be like that. It's funny how when I start doing something about my weight, my social circle comes alive when it's been "sleepytown" all year!!! I like your idea of taking your own food just in case theirs is drenched in oil and sugar! I think I just need to stop stressing about this...
     
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    I completely hear you on all of that. Deprivation & guilt (and the associated feelings of 'failure') are diet-killers for more people than they care to admit. Me included.

    I'm afraid my approach is a little off-message at times, and certainly at variance to the 'stick to the diet at all costs!' approach - which I think is unhealthy in other ways. But certainly for me, food is not necessarily the enemy, and one can learn to manage it within the context of the diet. And one also cannot ignore the fact that food is intrinsic to a lot of our societal and cultural customs. So sometimes a shared meal (within the context of work, family or a relationship, for example) is more significant than the food itself.

    The only thing I really *still* cannot get my head round, though, is being sober on a friday evening. ;)
     
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  8. Maka

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    Oh yes! yes! yes! The glass (or two or three or...hehehehehehe) on a Friday night has been my treat after a hard working week. Not even a manicure as an alternative can compensate :argh:
     
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    This evening I spent nearly an hour on the phone to a mate, watched Holby City and bought a rather splendid pair of tap shoes on ebay. I've not got anything constructive done at all, (despite my massive mental and actual list of jobs to do) and thoroughly enjoyed it. But... I still feel like there is something wrong with this picture. The Coke Zero is just not filling that fundamental gap in my friday night existence...
     
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    found this thread really handy,I can manage sticking to packs at the family things and with close mates.. but have hen weekend next week and have been dreading it, not sure how to handle it..not wanting to blow things or stick out like a sore thumb, don't know the girls going that well, but i think i'm just going to try a take it easy,have the packs where i can and dance like a nutter to burn off the calories lol
     
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    Especially when being subjected to football on the telly!
     
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