After that fat has gone?

[Flopster]

I know the "weight" is struggling to come off but the inches definately are! I am definately in a size 16 trousers now (18/20 tops still) but for the first time I really think I may get close to my goal of a size 12/14 or under 10 stone.

I started to put on weight when I was 17 and broke up with a boy I thought I was madly in love with (well you do fall very heavily at that age), I stayed about about 13 stone for a long time - this is more or less the weight I am at now but when I had kids I put on another 2 stone. Even when I got married I only got down to about 11 1/2 stone and only stayed there for the weekend of my wedding (we went on a cruise for the honeymoon and I put on most of the stone and a half that I lost when I got married).

I am now wearing my wedding and engagement rings for the first time since I had my eldest daughter 9 years ago and my feet have gone back to the size 5 I used to be pre-kids.

Anyway, even my mum doesn't have any "adult" pictures of me when I haven't been overweight and I have no concept of living life "thin" - despite being a very petite child.

This is now playing heavily on my mind - for so long the goal was to lose weight and now I am on my way there suddenly I am a bit "scared" if that is the right word of the future - of maintaining, of failing, of being destined to put the weight back on. I am 37 and have been overweight for 20 years now, that is the whole of my adult life!

Sorry this turned into a ramble, it is straight from my blog but it is something that is beginning to haunt me.

 

[KD]

This is now playing heavily on my mind - for so long the goal was to lose weight and now I am on my way there suddenly I am a bit "scared" if that is the right word of the future - of maintaining, of failing, of being destined to put the weight back on. I am 37 and have been overweight for 20 years now, that is the whole of my adult life!

I do know how you are feeling. I felt the same way. I am 50 and also had been overweight all my adult life. It's scary. The finishing line is there, then you feel like you've been put in a maze and have to find your way out.

You're not destined to put the weight back on. You can stay at your goal weight forever (unless you have a medical issue that will prevent that).

It's possible. You've just got to stay focused for a while longer after you reach goal and work out why you got overweight in the first place and how you will do things differently now you have a 2nd chance.

Aim for that goal first though, then start on your next journey with confidence that you can do this...just keep your eye on the ball

 

[Flopster]

Thank you Karion and of course, there is no point in trying to run until I can walk - or in this case think of maintaining until I have got to my goal I am sure though I will be yelling lots for help and advice - I am so impressed with your 8 stone loss and 12 months at goal - it makes it all seem very real and do-able.

 

[KD]

it makes it all seem very real and do-able.

It is. Keep positive and shout for help when you need it

It doesn't hurt to think about it now. Not to panic, but just to work out how you're going to do it. I think the problems come when people can't see past that goal date.

Best of luck for getting to goal soon.

 

[Flopster]

Thanks Karion, I feel quite ok at the moment and the days are turning into weeks and I am edging ever closer to that elusive goal of being under 10 stone for the first time in my adult life.

 

[canireallydothis!!]

Hi Flopster,

I worry too about being slim and maintaining, I think the fact that you think about it and write about means that in some way you are addressing the situation a little in your own mind.
Im sure you will do this, just look forward to the boost you will get when at goal and hold on to that. and then with the support from everyone on here and your own frame of mind will mean that you can do it
x

 

[Mini]

Thanks Karion, I feel quite ok at the moment and the days are turning into weeks and I am edging ever closer to that elusive goal of being under 10 stone for the first time in my adult life.

What a prize that will be!!!