SLACK ALICE
Silver Member
Am I being mean or what ?
The thing is my nearly 21 yr old daughter works full time and spends her week between here and her boyfriends house - niether her or her boyfriend pay any rent at both parents houses, they have all the free food and water and electric they want -in return for nothing.
Tommorow my daughter has an appointment that she has been waiting for for years, she did have an appointment at a hospital nearer to us , but as she couldnt wait she got it changed to leicester hospital , which is a 2 hour drive from here. The thing is my husband said to her today , can you pay something towards petrol- she told him where to go and that he was out of order asking and that she would get her boyfriend to take her. !!. I did say I would take her but didnt realise money would be tight this month. She said that you didnt'' offer to take someone and then ask for petrol'' I did tell her that I didnt realise we would be skint. She said that she has got to buy petrol this week for her car !!
Both me and hubby have taken days off tommorow- his is a holiday and i have changed my shift. Are we being unreasonable to ask for some help towards petrol?
Her bedroom is a total tip and im fed up of the mess I ask her to tidy it and she says ... yeah later .. then goes out. she buys new clothes every week and just dumps them in her room. This week her boy freind bought 3 items of clothing for £150 thats like 2/3 weeks food bill and she wanted to buy a pair of jeans at £45 but was annoyed that they didnt have her size !!. I do all her washing for her. She sometimes will buy a loaf of bread , as we dont have that much bread in ( i dont eat a lot now on SW), but if hubby wants 2 slices she hits the roof !! and when I say ''now you know what it feels like when you eat our food that we buy'' ... she saids she is allowed to eat our food as we are her parents !!!!
I dont ask her for any rent as she looks after our son (disabled) when its school holidays and I have to go work . I just dont know what to do ... should we take her free of charge ( we are really skint this month till payday 24th) or stand our grounds and have a day off and get on with some stuff we want to do ?? and teach her a lesson ?
The thing is my nearly 21 yr old daughter works full time and spends her week between here and her boyfriends house - niether her or her boyfriend pay any rent at both parents houses, they have all the free food and water and electric they want -in return for nothing.
Tommorow my daughter has an appointment that she has been waiting for for years, she did have an appointment at a hospital nearer to us , but as she couldnt wait she got it changed to leicester hospital , which is a 2 hour drive from here. The thing is my husband said to her today , can you pay something towards petrol- she told him where to go and that he was out of order asking and that she would get her boyfriend to take her. !!. I did say I would take her but didnt realise money would be tight this month. She said that you didnt'' offer to take someone and then ask for petrol'' I did tell her that I didnt realise we would be skint. She said that she has got to buy petrol this week for her car !!
Both me and hubby have taken days off tommorow- his is a holiday and i have changed my shift. Are we being unreasonable to ask for some help towards petrol?
Her bedroom is a total tip and im fed up of the mess I ask her to tidy it and she says ... yeah later .. then goes out. she buys new clothes every week and just dumps them in her room. This week her boy freind bought 3 items of clothing for £150 thats like 2/3 weeks food bill and she wanted to buy a pair of jeans at £45 but was annoyed that they didnt have her size !!. I do all her washing for her. She sometimes will buy a loaf of bread , as we dont have that much bread in ( i dont eat a lot now on SW), but if hubby wants 2 slices she hits the roof !! and when I say ''now you know what it feels like when you eat our food that we buy'' ... she saids she is allowed to eat our food as we are her parents !!!!
I dont ask her for any rent as she looks after our son (disabled) when its school holidays and I have to go work . I just dont know what to do ... should we take her free of charge ( we are really skint this month till payday 24th) or stand our grounds and have a day off and get on with some stuff we want to do ?? and teach her a lesson ?