The situation that always amused me, and annoyed me a little actually, is when someone is talking to me/someone with me and then talks about a fat person and says "oh he was so fat" turns to look at me and says "no offence".
The first few times I was like
but then I did actually say back to someone "why would I take offence, youre not insulting me".
But actually they were, by thinking that they needed to say that they had unwittingly had a dig at me.
I remember one time when I was in high school, so I was in my school uniform and so obviously quite young, I was walking down the street and a white van drove past and some men hung out of the window and screamed "FAAAAAT SLAAAAAG" at me. It was horrible and made me feel like hell, I think that that is one of the things that hit my self confidence so badly and I have never recovered it. But nowadays that memory makes me angry, how dare those people scream obsenities at a child...who were they to think that they had the right!!!!
Also, its the people in public that just look and say out loud "god youre fat" or "youre fat"...I am like wow, I wouldnt have known without you telling me!!!
But I would never dream of doing that to them, hell, I could think that they were terribly ugly but manners taught me never to say it, I would never think to say to them "god youre ugly" just for nothing, so why are they ok to tell me about my weight?!!?
We DO live in a very judgemental society and people DO have certain perceptions of fat people, I remember talking to a slim woman I know that had a HUGE lunch and she commented on her meal being large as if I should know what wanting big meals is like and when I said "oh I hardly eat anything, not fair is it, you eat like that and have that lovely figure and I eat like a bird most of the time and look at me" and she replied with "wow, really? funny that isnt it".
People are always going to judge people on everything, especially weight, I am just going to make sure that I never do, even after my operation and hopefully huge weight loss. I am going to hold on to how I felt when those men shouted that mean thing to me and make sure I NEVER forget how it feels to be fat, hell, Ive had 31 years of being this way, it cant be that easy to forget.
Steph xx