I have to admit as someone who only believed for 30 years that I could only lose weight on 8oo kcals, even when I was a SW consultant. I haven't counted my kcals once on this. It was hard at first. I haven't cooked with oil for years, let alone butter. I only ever had butter in the fridge at Christmas & used mustard instead of any kind off spread. Cheese was eaten then or on holiday (even then I would feel guilty!) & I can tell you the calories count of a meal just by looking a the plate
I was too scared to count them at first on this & now I don't care. I know I can lose weight on this (if I stay off they wine or cider-they do stall me
) I don't even follow Atkins, just try to keep my carbs under 20g.
I know your both struggling & everyone is different, but I think what I'm trying to say is try to trust this way of eating without getting too tied up with calories, it might not be helping.
I hope this doesn't sound preachy, I've been 3 stone heavier than this in the past so I'm not someone saying I've only got a couple of stone to lose & this change is easy. I've struggled all my life & changing to this way of eating was completely terrifying. I did it firstly to try to control IBS which has ended in an op. It did within days so I'm not ever tempted by bread or pasta or grains, I don't want to go back to that pain & missing out on things.
I's sure I would pass out if I started to count the calories I'm eating & if I kept cutting down it would affect my loss.
Hope you both find the answer.
All the best with your journey
Love Sharon xx